Captions by Sophie Pearce. Captions were made with the support of NZ On Air. www.able.co.nz Copyright Able 2022 - Tonight on Sunday ` the devastating fallout from decades of abuse at New Zealand's richest school. - I have so much regret sending him to Dilworth ` so much. - Staff members that were reaching out, saying, 'I'll look after you,' were actually predators. - Brave survivors break their silence. - We were easy pickings, right? Because we needed love, and we needed attention. - For so long, I thought that something was wrong with me. - Did Dilworth do enough? - I mean, the more you look at this, the worse it gets. - And first, he stole their hearts,... - Oh, he was charming. - I was really looking for my soul mate. - ...then he stole their money ` - Probably around $33,000. - Upwards of 200,000 ` probably more. He was my nightmare. - the romance conman and his epic trail of destruction. - He'll keep doing this till he dies. - Kia ora. I'm Tania Page. How did New Zealand's wealthiest school become the centre of one of the country's biggest sexual abuse cases? At the boys-only boarding school Dilworth hundreds of students suffered serious abuse over three decades. What's more, they say the school went out of its way to cover it up. Tonight, Mava Moayyed is with survivors who, for the first time, reveal what truly happened under the guise of spiritual and educational care. And a warning ` this investigation contains some confronting themes. - MAVA MOAYYED: Dilworth, a school that had a sparkling reputation and a noble goal ` to take in disadvantaged children and give them education, faith and opportunity. - I thought he was a man of God, and then he proceeded to place his hand on my thigh and start pulling up my pants. - We were encouraged to use the bathroom next door if we wanted to do anything more without clothes. - It began with, you know, him touching and grooming me. It just` It accelerated quickly into rape. - The school that promised these boys so much instead took everything from them. - TEARFULLY: They had all these values that they were going to instil in our boys, but what came home was none of it. I had a destroyed soul come home. - After years of silence, these men are choosing to reveal the details of their abuse. They want Dilworth to be held accountable. - Just` For so long, I have thought that something was wrong with me. - And that's the` the damaging` the most damaging thing about this is the fact that the sexual abuse of these boys was needless, and the school knew it was happening. - You can't take away what's happened, but you can own up and admit the cover up, and these guys have lied, and they've lied, and they're lying still. - Nestled in the heart of Auckland's Remuera is a century-old boarding school. Its founders were James and Isabella Dilworth, a childless couple who left behind their property fortune and a lofty vision. - To bring in young boys, very young boys, who were orphans or sons of people in straitened circumstances, mould them and turn them out as good and useful citizens. - The school's produced impressive alumni, including this straight-talking, smooth-voiced broadcaster. - Radio Lollipop ` we're raising money for the Auckland Children's Hospital. - If you had the radio and TV on in the '80s and '90s, you might remember him ` Mark Staufer. - I love telling other people's stories, so it's been weird telling my story, you know. (CHUCKLES DRILY) Oh God. Been tough. - Now living in Amsterdam, he's a storyteller who, for decades, has kept his own story secret. Why have you decided to do this interview? - I'm in my 50s now, so I've` I kind of can talk about it. But there are those who didn't even get to the age of 50; they killed themselves. It was too painful, you know? So when that sort of stuff happens, you` you realise you've got to make a stand, right? - Mark was 9 when he started at Dilworth. - Dilworth, it was` it was a constant source of dread for me. There was no escape from it. It was 24-7. If you were singled out, it was` it became, you know, a day full of dread and a night full of horror. We were easy pickings, right? Because we needed love, and we needed attention. - He was 12 when he met the school chaplain. - To have someone to take an interest in you as that, sort of, vulnerable kid is really potent, and he just seems like the first, you know, decent male who'd ever paid attention to me. - Reverend Peter John Taylor, hired by Dilworth in 1976 on the recommendation of the Anglican Church. - The abuse was gradual, and, mostly, it was cloaked within biblical and religious ideas. His whole thing was that, you know, Jesus and the disciples had a very close relationship, much closer than we've led to believe. - Mark, this is a hard question, but what did Peter Taylor do to you? - It-It-It began with, you know, him touching and grooming me and, you know, trying to kiss me. And although I can't really talk about it here, otherwise I'll probably fall apart, it just` it accelerated quickly into rape. - 'He'd do it,' says Mark, 'here ` the altar of the school chapel.' - There's such a feeling of humiliation, when it comes down to it, that I kind of blanked it out and just thought, 'Surely that's it.' You know, 'I'm initiated now.' I, um` 'I am a Christian. I will` It won't happen again.' But, of course, it did happen again and again and again. - I thought he was a man of God. He taught religious education. He was married, had young children, so he was sort of beyond reproach, really ` despite having a nickname. - Yeah, what was his nickname? - Pumper Pete. - Even as a child, Neil Harding had known what a privilege going to Dilworth was. - It was a magnificent opportunity for me,... - Mm. - ...and it was` I was going to get a wonderful education. - Tell me about your experience there when you first went to the school. - It was a shock. It was a massive culture shock. The only affection or mentoring that I received was for` was grooming So those staff members that were reaching out, saying, you know, 'I'll look after you,' were actually predators. - Neil's lifted his name suppression so that he can share his story. In his two years at Dilworth, he says he was preyed on by three different men, including Peter Taylor. - He made me sit in the darkest corner of the room, and then he proceeded to place his hand on my thigh, on my right thing, and` and start pulling up my pants. The shame and humiliation of... of not believing that he was Pumper Pete; how stupid was I that, um,... I had,... um,... allowed this man to be close to me? - At school, Neil found solace in the choir. (GENTLE CHORAL MUSIC PLAYS) But now that memory haunts him. - It's really sad... because of the innocence... of those boys singing that day when that was recorded and how their lives have been derailed. Two of the boys that were singing had been abused and have committed suicide. - Did the school know that this was going on? - Yes. - How do you know? - I'm part of it, leading a class action of 130 survivors, and through the information from` that the legal team from the class action have got there's clear evidence that the school knew. - Mark Staufer agrees. In fact, as a student, he told the headmaster himself that he was being abused. - The headmaster blamed it on me, and then called my mother into the school. Now, at this point, I'm going, 'Hallelujah, this is it. 'They're gonna fire` They're gonna expel me. I'm going home.' They didn't tell her anything about what had happened. They just told her that I was, you know, misbehaving in such a terrible fashion. - Mark was caned, then, he says, put into Peter Taylor's care. - That was his job. They'd appointed him to` to make sure that I was doing what I was supposed to do. And, of course, the rapes continue. - How did you escape the abuse? - So, I came up with this plan to call the Sunday News. - Mark found the newspaper's phone number, then, late one night, he picked up the school's only telephone. - I got as far as, you know, 'I'm here to report some terrible things going on at an Auckland school,' and the tutor swooped, grabbed the phone. So the next morning, of course, I was dragged in front of the headmaster. But I knew there's no way in the fricken world they're gonna allow me to stay at the school now, right? They know I mean business. So, sure enough, that's what happened. It was the happiest day of my life when I got into my mother's Ford Anglia, because I was like, 'My God, it's done.' - Documents show that, in 1978, Dilworth knew at least five other students were being abused by Peter Taylor. That number later grew to 10. The school claims it carried out an internal investigation into the offending, but says the report was inexplicably destroyed years later. The police were never called. Instead, minutes from a Dilworth board meeting show Peter Taylor was allowed to quietly resign. - It's just bullshit. It's bullshit. It's bullshit. - Have you heard anyone say, 'What about the kids that did get a good education 'and that did get ample opportunities?' - Yeah. I mean, that's always the one they throw out, right? 'Ooh, yeah, what are you complaining for? 'Look at what we're doing for you. We're giving you an education. 'It might have cost you a bit of arse raping, but, hey, you're an accountant now.' - Peter Taylor died in 2012, aged 74. If he was alive, police say he'd likely join the list of 12 men already charged with sexual assault at Dilworth. - The entire top echelon of these people knew exactly what was going on and were constantly being informed of this, and they did nothing about it. - When you shut down and don't investigate abuse, it proliferates. - Police launched Operation Beverly in 2019. They've already identified 139 victims at Dilworth, and investigators believe another 96 children were likely abused. - I mean, the whole thing is shocking. I mean, the more you look at this, the worse it gets. - After the break ` a mother's crippling guilt. - TEARFULLY: I have so much regret sending him to Dilworth ` so much. - And how the school dealt with a victim just last decade. Did you feel like the response of the school was to treat you like you were a sexual deviant? - Yeah. (CELL PHONE RINGS) - Hi, matey. How are you today? - Good for now ` just at the beach. - Every day, at 6.30 on the dot, this mum speaks to her son. - I love you. - Since he started using P, simple things like 'I love you' are precious. - He's in his third stint for rehab, and we're just gonna have to take each day as it comes and be there for him and support. - He's chosen not to lift his name suppression, but supports his mum speaking to us. - EMOTIONALLY: I feel guilty as a mum that my son's endured what he's endured. (SNIFFLES) But that guilt doesn't go away, and that's why I chose to do what I've done today. - Her son's now 37. He was accepted to Dilworth as a child after his father died. - It wasn't till his latter years that I noticed some real big changes. There was something inside of me telling me something was wrong, something was not right, but never thinking that he was being sexually molested at school ` never. - Reverend Ross Browne. When Chaplain Peter Taylor left Dilworth after abusing a string of boys, Ross Browne was his replacement. - You know, Dilworth is a place where, if you need it, you can get a hug or something. You know, it's, uh, a place which is that comfortable. - I used to loathe the way he cuddled our boys. - Here he is, featured in a documentary about Dilworth in the '90s. - If a kid has an emotional need or whatever, it can be met here. - He wore the cloak for the church, and that was the perpetrator that violated my son and took everything away from him. - (SIGHS) Just` For so long, I thought that something was wrong with me. - 33-year-old Ciarin Smith is another victim of Ross Browne. He's lifted his name suppression to speak with us. - It was` (CHUCKLES DRILY) It was a really hard decision, but, ultimately, I didn't want to hide. - Every student attends Dilworth for free. The Dilworth Trust holds more than $1 billion in assets. Dilworth is New Zealand's richest school by far. (SCHOOL BELL RINGS DISTANTLY) It's interesting hearing a bell. Does it take you back at all to being in school? - Yeah, a little bit. Ciarin was a model Dilworth boy, a straight-A student. - What were your first impressions of Ross Browne? - I remember him being very... jolly, (CHUCKLES) I think is a good word to describe him. Yeah, very friendly, warm, intelligent. The next time I really spent more time with him was at the crypt. - The crypt was the name of Ross Browne's office. Students would meet there after class to hang out. - At some point, I think there were probably 12 people. We felt special, I think, that, um,... we were given a privilege, I think, to` to join this group that was a little exclusive. - But the crypt had a sinister underbelly. Ross Browne was coaxing boys to kiss and touch while he watched. Did he ever stand up and say, 'Boys, that's enough?' - No, never. Well, in fact, when` when we were testing those boundaries, we were encouraged to use the bathroom next door if we wanted to do anything more without clothes. - By who? - Father Browne. - People watching this might say, 'Well, this was the boys themselves. They wanted to do this.' You know, 'Is this really Father Browne's fault?' - It's a good question, and I think it's something that I've grappled with for a long time and why it was so hard to come forward. I would ask whether it would ever be acceptable for a teacher to be encouraging sexual activity between children. - In 2006, Ross Browne was suddenly gone. Students were told he'd left for health reasons, but he'd actually quietly resigned after former students complained about his behaviour. With the crypt gone, Ciarin went to see the school counsellor. What did you tell her? - Um, everything that I've told you today, I suppose. And she, um, referred me to an organisation called Safe, which, uh, is for sexual offenders. - That's right. Instead of supporting him as a victim of sexual abuse, 17-year-old Ciarin's counsellor reported him as a sexual deviant. What was the effect of being treated like a perpetrator? - So, legally, I couldn't be around children, which was hard because I lived with my sister, (CHUCKLES DRILY) who's five years younger than me. So, at the time, she had to move. It felt like... it was my fault. - Safe eventually realised the mistake. That fear of, um, having done something wrong that... persisted a long time, even though I was told that I shouldn't have been sent to Safe in the first place. - 15 years on, though, Ciarin's life is good ` he's married, has a great job and strong relationships with his friends and family. But for this mum and her son, they're still putting the pieces back together. - EMOTIONALLY: He could have been so successful in life. He had the brains. He had the ability. He had the personality. The P addiction is through the trauma he experienced at school. - Last year, Ross Browne pleaded guilty to 15 sexual assault charges involving 14 students. Some of his victims were as young as 11. - I sentence you to six and a half year's imprisonment. - I thought they were gonna be giving me back a man. - What have they given you back? - A drug addict through the hands of Ross Browne. - 22 students, between 1976 and 2007, say they told school staff they were being abused. That means Dilworth had 30 years of knowledge that their boys were being harmed. - Kia ora, fellow old boys. - Earlier this year, the Dilworth Trust Board apologised in this pre-recorded video. - The abuse suffered by old boy survivors in Dilworth's care is and was completely unacceptable. To these men, I say, with a heavy heart, Dilworth let you down, and we are sorry. - The fact that the school knew we were being abused and didn't stop it exponentially changes things. People in the school made conscious decisions to not investigate, to cover it up, to do the most heinous things to not stop it. - For more than two weeks, we've asked Dilworth's current Trust Board for an interview. They've declined. Instead, they've sent us this statement. - (MAN READS STATEMENT) - Have they ever sat down with you or any of the victims and said, 'What do you need?' - No. They want to control the process, and that's not redress. - Part of that control, says Neil Harding, is Dilworth deciding the value of its victims. What have they offered? - $200,000. That's for the maximum amount. - Remember, Dilworth is worth more than $1 billion. If it paid 200 victims that maximum redress, it would come to less than 5% of its wealth. - Dilworth needs to sell some of its property and pass it out amongst these kids. A lot of these guys who went through the clutches of Dilworth had it a lot worse than me. They need looking after. - Compensation is important, they say, but so is honesty and accountability. - And I just feel that Dilworth now, today, is still hiding behind lawyers. I just want them to come forward, apologise to us, meet with us, help us get our sons back. - If you could go back and visit 12-, 13-year-old Ciarin, what would you say? - (SIGHS, BREATHES SHAKILY) Um, I would... I would tell him that... you're gonna have a really, really tough time, but it's gonna be OK. (CHUCKLES TEARFULLY) In the end, it's gonna be OK. - So brave. Well, Mark Staufer is currently working on a screenplay, turning his harrowing story into a film. And the man in our story who had his identity hidden just finished rehab and is now six months clean. Well, next ` they were looking for love, but became easy prey. - He was reeling me in very carefully. - A long con with a huge cost. - Once he had my bank account details, that's when things really changed gears. - Hoki mai ano. At first, he seemed like a great catch, but all the attention and affection were just cynical ploys. He sold women a fantasy of multimillion-dollar properties spread all over the world, but it was just that, a fantasy. Tonight, Tom Steinfort exposes one of Australia's biggest con men, a fraudster who preys on vulnerable women, stealing their hearts to get their money. (SWEET, ROMANTIC MUSIC) - TOM STEINFORT: This should have been a love story ` the wedding of Grant Greentree and Kim d'Alquen in the Yarra Valley in 2020. - I felt really proud. I was marrying, you know, my dream guy. He was everything I wanted. - Was he ` in the end? - In the end, he was everything but; he was the opposite. He was my nightmare. - # Lately, I've been, I've been losing sleep... - Like so many Australians, Kim d'Alquen had taken to online dating apps in the quest for her perfect partner. Her app of choice was Bumble, and that is where she matched with a man claiming to be 49 years old, going by the name Maclane. You were looking for love? - I was. I was really looking for my soulmate, and I thought I found him when I` when I met him. (GENTLE GUITAR MUSIC) - A date was arranged, and Maclane spared no expense, suggesting wines and a meal at Melbourne's iconic Donovans restaurant on the St Kilda foreshore. - And we just sort of hit it off straight away. Then he started telling me about how his ex-wife Elizabeth had had cancer and had passed away, and that had been his soulmate. You know, he was crying as he was describing Elizabeth having morphine patches on her legs ` the treatment, the last days, holding her hand, and, you know, it was` he was in tears telling the story. And at some point, I think, I was probably in tears too. It was a really emotive story. - Eventually, the mood lifted. Maclane confided his real name was Grant, and he started revealing more about his apparent business prowess and his investment properties all over the world. How many properties did he tell you he had? - Oh, look, I lost count. (CHUCKLES DRILY) At the Marais in Paris, Chelsea in England. and he'd show me photographs of the one that he had in New York with Elizabeth, that he'd lived there, and he called it a bolthole strategy, where he had properties all over the world. - What was your first impression after meeting, at this stage, Maclane? - He was coming on really strong. I like a man who knows what he wants. I think, you know, he was love bombing. He was reeling me in very carefully. - # Lately, I've been, I've been losing sleep # dreaming about... # - The pair hit it off and got serious very quickly. The couple enjoyed getaways together, days at the races, even upfront at an Elton John concert. Grant was eager to impress and suggested he treat Kim to a holiday at Port Douglas' most expensive resort, Niramaya. But when it came time to pay upon checkout, Grant all of a sudden said to Kim he needed her to foot the bill of close to $5000. - Yeah, that was a bit of a punch in the guts. But he'd said he'd cover everything, and he said he would, you know, pay me back for that. - Did he ever pay you back for the stay at Niramaya? - No, I didn't. And once he had my bank account details,... and once my settlement came through, and I'd sold my house from my divorce, that's when things really changed gears. - Grant was making his own property moves, though, telling Kim he wanted to buy them a family home, and not just any home ` a waterfront mansion in the ritzy Melbourne suburb of Brighton. What did you think the first time you saw this place? - Beautiful, but out of my league. - It seems like Grant was very convinced that this was in his league. - Oh, absolutely, yeah. He wanted to know, you know, would his Ferrari's fit` classic car collection fit in the garage, and he wanted to go through every room in detail. - Throughout this period, Grant continued to get money from Kim for day-to-day expenses as he looked at more than a dozen mansions on the Esplanade behind the area's iconic bathing boxes, even testing out the armchairs at some of the properties. He got to the point of signing contracts only to continually pull out at the last minute. - Huge properties ` 5 to 10. Some were even more. I think, one he looked at was closer to 18. - Million. - Million. - And so, in your mind, here's this guy who owes you five grand for this, 20 grand for that, but you'd be thinking, 'Well, if he can afford a house for $18 million, he's good for it; he'll pay me back.' - Yeah. Yeah, I did. And why would you be after my money if he's got so much? I didn't have my guard up at all. - Are you starting to tally up just how much money he's racked up of yours? - My cost all up was getting closer to about 120,000, 130,000. - In your mind, were you started to think, 'How are we paying for all this?' - Well, he would cover that with, you know, his money that was coming in when he turned 60. - So he had a big superannuation payday coming, he told you. - He told me, yeah. And so he said, 'Don't worry, I've got this under control. It's all good. 'Look, if you can carry us for a few more months, then, when I turn 60, I'll give you everything back.' He wanted to, you know, return the trust and make sure that I wasn't out of pocket for his costs. - Kim was getting nervous, and her fears multiplied when she met Grant's daughter, who we'll call Isabella. - He genuinely cannot comprehend that his lies are lies. You know, I have a biological father, but I never had a dad. So... - It's a sad reality, but Grant Greentree's own daughter says her earliest memories of her dad are of a revolving door of women. - Well, they were pretty repetitive of just kinda like... him having a couple of girlfriends, and then I wouldn't see them again, and then we'd move to another random apartment in the city and a couple new girlfriends. - What are some of the words you would use to describe the way that he interacted with you? - It was like I was prioritised because I was, like, a prop for him, and he had a very,... I guess, set idea of who he wanted me to be and how he wanted me to look. And I even` Like, with some of his girlfriends, I remember, they would be, like, textbook Barbie ` the blonde hair, blue eyes, like, all of that. And then whenever he would bring them over, he would say things like, 'Oh, like, when you get older, you can look like her. 'Like, you bleach your hair. You can get blue contacts.' I was like... - So when Grant decided to introduce Isabella to his newest partner, Kim, things didn't go as smoothly as he'd hoped. - He texted me and was like, 'Can you get me and Kim a coffee?' And I was like` I thought it was a typo for skim, like skim milk. - (CHUCKLES) - I was like, 'A skim?' I was like, 'Kim or skim?' He was like, 'No. Kim, my wife.' I was like, 'OK, so you're married, and you've brought her, 'and you haven't told me that you have a wife or that she's coming. That's fine.' So, yeah, obviously, I assumed that he brought her along to impress her ` the same situation. - Had he told you that Isabella's mum was dead? - Yes. She'd died 10 years earlier. And, you know, she was` she'd died from cancer ` quite painful cancer. - And so, then Isabella mentioned, 'No, no. My mum's alive and well.' - Yeah, she did. She mentioned that she'd had a piercing recently and that her mum didn't like it, and she started just chatting about her mum. and I was like, 'Wow, this doesn't sound like a dead widow.' (CHUCKLES) - Just to be clear, is your mum alive? - Yes. She` Mum is alive. And then you could see, like, the clockwork happening with Kim. - So she's got this moment of realisation... - Yeah. - ...that she's been fed all these lies. Meanwhile, what's your dad doing? - (CHUCKLES) Oh, he just` He turned` (CHUCKLES) He turned the air con of the car up to full blast and the radio to full blast so that she couldn't hear me. - If Grant was willing to lie to Kim about something like this, she was worried that everything he'd told her was made up as well. So to reassure his new wife, Grant drew up a chart trying to clarify which women he'd been in a relationship with and when, not to mention how many children he had along the way too. As Kim was soon to discover, what Grant thought would be the end of the matter was only the beginning. - Well, next ` a growing trail of broken hearts and empty bank accounts. - What the (BLEEP) have you done? - And the victims finally confront the con. - KIM: And the mask that had been, you know, caring, loving soulmate fell away. I was terrified he was gonna follow me. - Mel Sexton was on-again off-again with her high-school sweetheart, Grant Greentree, for more than 25 years. She thought he was in her past, but when we contacted her out of the blue, saying we were investigating his chequered history, she felt compelled to lift the lid on her former lover. - (BREATHES SHAKILY) Sitting here now, having to think about some of... the most unpleasant moments in my life is not easy, um,... but,... I think, necessary. - Why did you fall for Grant? - Oh, he was charming, debonair even. You know, he always knew the right things to say, or he did` you know, the` opened the car door if you were going somewhere and treated you like a princess. - The lines Grant's spun to Mel more than a decade ago were almost identical to those he fed his latest wife, Kim, all these years later. - He would come up here and even say, 'Look, let's go and look at houses to buy.' And we're not talking, like, run-of-the-mill houses. We're talking, you know, $2 million, $3 million properties. Like, to the point where we actually physically go and look at them with the real estate people. - And who was gonna pay for the house, him or you? - Well, he was, apparently. But when I look back, I'd had a business that I had worked really hard at for 20 years, and he knew I'd sold it. So I wonder now... was that him thinking, 'Oh, she might have a bit of money in that? - At the time, though, Mel was smitten. That was until she started seeing unexplained charges appearing on her credit card. The bank sums it up pretty concisely here ` fraud. (CHUCKLES DRILY) - Yeah, fraud. $19,000, roughly. - Mel just couldn't believe what she saw in her statement, so she called the bank to confirm. How are you feeling in your stomach when the bank was reading out`? - Oh, I was just, like, absolutely, like, um` I think I got off the phone and threw up. And, like,... 'What the (BLEEP) have you done?' - So how much did he owe you at that point, do you think? - Probably around $33,000. - And he assured you he was good for the money? - Yeah, absolutely. All the time. What was his story? - The sign-on bonus ` $30,000 sign-on bonus to the new company he was gonna be working for. - And that bonus was due any time now. - Yeah, pretty much. It was always going to be, you know, at the end of the month. Never came. - At this point, Mel decided to go to the police. They followed up, and Grant was charged with fraud. - And they just were there and arrested him for fr` and... said that they want him to come to the station to be talked to. So then he went and got himself a barrister. Um... And... He fought it, and he walked out of that courtroom free. - What was more damaging for you ` the financial side of things or the lying and the betrayal? - Money's just something that you use to live, you know, to pay your bills or... I was a very, very broken person for a very long time, because I couldn't believe someone could be just so deceitful. And then when I started piecing things together, and I got this phone call from a lady. So when she introduced herself on the telephone, it was like, 'Oh, well, I wondered how long it would take you to call me. 'What do you want to know?' - That lady who called Mel was another former business partner of Grant's, and it turns out the more you dig on Grant Greentree, the more his life unravels. His history of scorned partners, both business and romantic, dates back decades, and we've uncovered a history of court cases, fraud investigations and accusations of violence against the women he supposedly loves. Grant's first wife, who's asked not to be named, took an Apprehended Violence Order out against him in 2008. She alleged he cheated on her, assaulted her, and now has more than $400,000 of child support outstanding. Grant married his second wife in 2010, and, within a year, she too had filed for an AVO. That second wife is the woman that Grant claimed he nursed through cancer until she died. We've spoken to her and confirmed she's, indeed, still alive. In a statement to Bondi Police in 2010, the second wife told detectives Grant Greentree had misused her father's credit card, and when she confronted him, he threatened her. Grant denied the allegations, but she said to police, 'I'm scared he's going to do something to me. 'Scared for my life.' (GENTLE PIANO MUSIC) You know this place pretty well. - Yeah, I do. I do. This is the apartment that Grant brought me to. - Like a number of women before her, Kim d'Alquen was seduced by Grant Greentree, but his apartment in Melbourne sums up his deceit. - It's a bit beyond my league. - He told his third wife, Kim, he owned it, but after they tied the knot, she discovered this was one of his many lies. He actually rented it and was way behind on payments. Who ended up having to foot the bill for that? - Me ` for all of it. - How much in total, do you think? - Hmm... Upwards of 50,000. - It took only a year of marriage for Kim to realise her husband was spinning her so many lies and bleeding her dry financially. How out of pocket do you think you are in the end? - Upwards of 200,000. Probably more. - Was there a moment of realisation that you had been conned, or was it just this slow creep? - Slowly boiling the frog was an analogy he used about things, and I think that's what he did to me ` just slowly turn the heat up, slowly, slowly, pressure cooking. I was his cash cow. He didn't want me to go. - Grant's line all along to Kim was that, when he turned 60, he'd receive a very significant superannuation payout, and then everything would be fine. - That is fantastic. Thank you. - But that milestone came and went, and still there was no money. At this point, are you checking your bank account every day to see whether there's any money coming through? - Yeah, but I knew there wouldn't be any, but I did it anyway. At that point, it was, like, lost. It was a write-off. I was never gonna see that money. And I said, 'I'm not talking to you until I see that money in my account. 'It's over. You don't talk to me again. I'm leaving you.' He got violent. He got angry, and the mask that had been, you know, caring, loving soulmate fell away, and there was just this... scared, angry little man. - And so what happened then? - He was, like, ripping my arm and my shoulder and almost dislocated it, and I was telling him to stop, and I said, 'I'm going to the police.' And I just got in the car, and I drove, and I was terrified. I was terrified he was gonna follow me ` terrified. - GRANT: Please call my US mobile. (BEEP!) - Grant, it's Tom Steinfort here from 60 Minutes. I wanted to talk to you about some of your personal and financial dealings. If you could please call me back. For Kim d'Alquen, she's coming to terms with the fact she'll likely never see her $200,000 ever again. - He plays on your trust, and that's the worst kind of crime. - Emotions make you do funny things... - Yeah. - ...and perhaps make you not question certain things. Hearing that as myself, I think, there's red flags here. - Yeah, there was definitely a lot of red flags, and don't get me wrong, I absolutely questioned all of these... quite deeply with him, and he had amazing answers ` very creative. I mean, he's a professional. He came up with some really good answers that I went, 'OK, I had to question' - # Lately, I've been, I've been losing sleep... # - There's a crime where you go in and you rob a bank, and you rob a bank of $200,000; you steal it. It's very different to slowly winning your trust and then taking it from me that way through trust. That's a` It's a moral crime, and that's one that, you know, the law doesn't really look at. If it's a business, if it's a business situation, there are bodies you can go to. There are ways that you can try and claim something back or at least shut someone down. But in affairs of the heart, in anything that's about a confidence trick, there's no recourse for them. They can keep going. He'll keep doing this till he dies. If he can, he will. - You said to me you're pretty confident that the Grant would have a new girlfriend by now. What would you say to her? - Run. Run fast. - Well, New Zealand's banking ombudsman wants an urgent response to the alarming rise of romance scams here. The number of complaints have increased more than 400% in the last seven years. Well, stay with us. We're back after the break. - Nau mai ano. The so-called war on drugs is now being fought on a very different battle ground. If you're caught with an illegal substance, you're now more likely to be referred to a doctor than be arrested. Next week ` we'll bring you an exclusive local look from the new front line. (TENSE MUSIC) - Morena, team. There are three individuals who are currently in Whanganui Hospital having taken what they believe to be MDMA. - Three people have ingested what is supposed to be a party drug,... - I was making weird noises. I was in fear of my life. - ...but it's laced with something highly dangerous. - Crying, saying that I'm gonna die. - High Alert, New Zealand's drug warning system rushes to find more information,... - Our analysts are looking at what jobs police are attending every 24 hours, what ambulance jobs are being attended every 24 hours, what hospital admissions are occurring every 24 hours. - ...not to arrest anyone... - One thing we should consider is Mardi Gras in two weeks' time. - ...but to stop anyone else taking it. What have you taken? - Taken a little bit of MDMA. - Uh, two caps of MDMA. - A small amount of MDMA. (HOUSE MUSIC PLAYS) - How are they by the time they get to you? - It just depends whether the drug is what they think it is or whether it's had something added to it. - Well, this revealing story will screen next week. That's our show for tonight. 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