three of our couples took off on their honeymoons. We are still developing that relationship, but it's definitely slowly blossoming. And while some thrived,... This is what it's about, isn't it? Cheers. I can see us going a very long way. ...others hit road blocks early on. I just don't want to play the games any more. I just want to go home. I don't even know what to do. Tonight ` as the honeymoons continue,... Oh my gosh. ...some couples get closer. (BOTH LAUGH) But for others,... It's just gonna piss me off. We are definitely going to butt heads if it continues how it is. ...the cracks start to show. I was quite surprised that they had matched me with you. I'm worried that it's not going to develop anything more from that. So, what do you want to do? Copyright Able 2017 At Castaways Resort, near Waiuku, south of Auckland, Ben and Aaron are recovering after their wedding the night before. Waking up this morning, obviously, I am feeling a little bit worse for wear. I've decided to come down to the beach today, clear my head. I'm not physically attracted to this guy, so I think that's very difficult to be married to someone who A) you don't know, and B) you're not attracted to. Yesterday, the couple tied the knot in a spectacular beachfront wedding. Hi. How are you? Aaron. Ben. (LAUGHTER) But, emotions were high as Ben struggled to find some initial attraction to Aaron. I'm just not attracted to him at all. Last night ended in a few tears. It all kind of came to a head after the wedding, and Ben was very drunk, and we ended up coming home and just basically crashing in bed. I'm feeling shit. (CHUCKLES) (CHUCKLES) (GROANS) I definitely feel a little bit apprehensive. I know he is my husband, but I don't know him. So, what do you reckon we'll do today? Dunno. Just sit here and be... crap. Just pout and look into the distance. I'm so hungover. I can't deal with it. Yeah. I don't know, it's weird. I feel like I'm more nervous now than I was before the wedding. I know it's really, really, really early days, but I think now is kind of like a really important time, and,... yeah, it would be nice to know what he's thinking. I guess my main concern at this point is that he's not interested in me. Brett and Angel have been whisked off to South Australia for their honeymoon. Yeah. (LAUGHS) The last 24 hours has been such a whirlwind. We thought we would sleep, but we just talked, like, the whole time. Like, there's just so much to discover about each other, and it's kind of mind blowing what we've already learnt. The honeymoon is really important, because it's the first real opportunity the couples have to spend some one-on-one time together and really have an opportunity to build that sense of trust and intimacy. So, we've arrived in Barossa Valley, and it's absolutely insane and beautiful out here. I'll get the door for you. Welcome. Honeymoon time! Whoo! Brett and Angel's picture perfect wedding... (APPLAUSE) Aw, that was nice. ...marked a day for their guests to remember. And Brett's thoughtful, giving nature... Oh my God. Oh my God, it's from him! ...had Angel thinking she had the pick of the bunch. Oh my gosh it's just so nice that he's already thought of me. It just kind of shows the kind of person he is. And now they get to enjoy a romantic honeymoon in the Barossa Valley. Oh my gosh. McLeod's Daughters was filmed here, and it's an iconic, sort of, part of the world. It's very Australian, I reckon, eh? Got a cowboy hat here you can put on. (LAUGHS) Got to put your hat on. Whoo! She's a big country out here, eh? Honeymoon suite. Is this where I pick you up and throw you in here? Obviously, the relationship has sky-rocketed, like anything you've ever known. It's just so insane. You feel like you're in the fast lane 24-7. Welcome, Angel,... (LAUGHS) ...to our honeymoon suite. Come on in, Brett. This is where the magic happens. (LAUGHS) At this early stage, it's really important for the couples to get to know each other's boundaries. If one person is racing ahead and the other one is more reserved, it's really important to talk about it and make sure that they find a happy medium where each person feels accepted and comfortable. I love my bed. So happy to be here with Angel, eh. It's great. Yeah, she's so awesome. I just want her to be more comfortable around me, you know? We've covered a lot of topics. We've done pretty well so far. Yeah. We've talked about heaps of stuff. I feel like we've already had 50 first dates. Yeah, definitely. I'm pretty keen to fast-forward the clock. (LAUGHS) If we could be at week three or four right now, I would be stoked. Just to let you guys know, Brad's actually got model feet. Brad? Brad! (LAUGHS) Oh my gosh. I think, like, I was just really tired when I called him Brad. (LAUGHS) Oh my god. Who's Brad? Who is this guy? (LAUGHS) No. Oh no. It's like my worst fear come true. Newlyweds Vicky and Andrew's honeymoon is a short ferry ride from Auckland on Waiheke Island. Wow, this is mean. They have kayaks. We are kayaking. Oh my gosh, it's going to be freezing cold. (LAUGHS) Flight attendant Vicky got the fairy-tale wedding she'd always dreamed of. But builder Andrew's affections... PHOTOGRAPHER: Ah, that was a steal. ...were put on hold... I feel really bad saying this, but, like, a lot of the kissing and the touching and stuff, like I do` Got to get used to it. Yeah. You know, like, you're just trying to be a nice guy and make her comfortable, and then you kind of get told that it's kind of not making her comfortable. ...as Vicky struggled to find the chemistry she needed. It's not not there, but I think it's like a work in progress, to be honest, yeah. Wow, this is really pretty. It's nice, eh? Yeah. I'm really happy to be here with Andrew. I mean, it's slow and steady. We are just always talking, which is awesome. There's just never a silent moment, never an awkward moment, which is really good. Aw, this is so pretty. It's luxury, eh. It's one of those, um... ...infinity pools! Yeah, infinity pools. Don't you` Don't you dare! (LAUGHS) You monkey. There's quite a few hugs and there's, like, a little bit of kisses. I think he's more initiating them than I am, because I'm just wanting to take it quite slow. It's cold. Is it? Affection will come naturally for some, and for others, it will be a challenge. Which side to you want? Oh, I'm definitely on this side. Especially if they feel that their expectations haven't been met. Yeah, I want this side. Oh, OK. Can I have this`? Oh, do you want that side? Nah, you can have that side. Are you sure? Yeah. You can have it. No, you have it. Sexual chemistry ` I'm not feeling it yet, but who knows what will happen in the future. Also struggling in their search for chemistry are Ben and Aaron... Let's go full picnic set-up. ...despite Aaron's best efforts. Would you have champagne? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Ben looks pretty hungover, but hopefully that's all there is to it. Definitely starting to learn a little bit more about each other, and, hey, it's little stuff at this point, but it's a start. Champagne. We can do mimosas. No. Gross. (LAUGHS) If the couples initially find that they don't immediately have lots in common, I think it's important to remember that there's a reason that they were matched and to stick with the process to see perhaps what those hidden commonalities might be. Cheers to... Cheers. Cheers to being married. Yeah, man. Make it work, eh? It's interesting. Lunch was really nice. It's probably the first time we've really had to actually just sit down together, just the two of us, and get to know each other. So, how long have you been single? Um, about a year. So, basically, me and my partner broke up in Melbourne, and I moved here just to get away from everything. Um,... I think it's going to be important that we, like, I don't know, if something is up, we might have to get it out there in the air. Like, I'm not that, like, emotionally, like, outward, usually. So that's quite hard for me. I need to just get a couple of things off my chest that I've been thinking about since our wedding. At Castaways Resort, south of Auckland, Aaron is frustrated by Ben's lack of communication. But I'd rather know... and be disappointed than not know about it. Yep. Cos that would just stew and... Yeah, yup. Fair enough. Fair enough. I've been quite like a brick wall, because, I don't know, I suppose at the moment I'm just feeling quite, like, I don't know what to say, I don't know how to address it. So, you don't regret, like, signing up for the show? No. I think it's going to be hard work, but I think as long as we are both putting everything in it... You know, there's obviously some reason that they've put us together. Yeah. Um... Yeah, you know... (SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY) Perfect. Like, seriously. Hopefully he opens up a bit. As much as that may not be him, I think if it's gonna work, we're gonna need to know what each other are thinking. On Waiheke Island, the honeymoon is going well ` so far ` for Vicky and Andrew. Aw, this is cute. It's lovely. It looks cold as anything. Oh, it's actually really chilly. Oh my gosh. It's really nice to spend some time with Andrew without anyone else around. It gives us time to actually talk about a few deeper conversations. Yeah, cheers. Cheers. Wow. Like, I want to find out some more things about him that I don't know. So, how are you feeling about, like...? Everything? Everything. Um, I'm pretty happy with everything so far. Yeah, like, do you reckon that the experts matched us good? I was real happy with, like, when you walked down the aisle and everything has just gone so well since then. And I've had so many relationships turn sour real quick. You have? Yeah. Tell me a bit about your past relationships. Uh, I've had some real crazy ones. I don't know if I should tell you. Tell me. I'll tell you. I'll tell you. So, there's going to be a lot of vulnerability that some of the participants are dealing with. They've obviously had some failed relationships in the past, they've had some heartbreak. I actually got dumped. Oh, she dumped you? She dumped me, and It really sucked because I was trying to, like, help her through all this stuff, but it didn't work out. Oh. It's super easy to open up to Vicky. It's not even opening up. It just rolls off the tongue. Why do you think it didn't work out? She would just go from this to that ` real extremes. Oh. We're diving in the deep end straight away, but I think it's good because, like, what's the point in waiting to find out the important stuff? What about you? Relationships. Go on, talk to me. My most recent ex, we were together three and half years, and this was probably about two years ago now. Three and a half years is a long time. It is, yeah. What the participants need to do is not take that old relationship baggage from the previous relationships into the new relationship. I was away a lot of the time, and then I'd come home and he wouldn't really want to hang out with me, and I wouldn't really understand why. That's much of a relationship, eh? That's what I mean. Like, I felt very, like, neglected, and I felt very, um,... like, almost I was in a relationship with myself. I don't understand how anyone could not pay attention to her. Like, she just deserves to be treated right. Every girl does. No one deserves to be treated bad. So I hope that I can do that to her and be the guy that she needs. Should we cheers? Yeah. Cheers to a lovely dinner. Cheers to a nice dinner. At the beginning, the initial attraction with me and him for me probably wasn't there. Individuals bring an idealized view of their potential partner. What we would really like to see is a celebration of difference rather than a willingness and a want to change them. What kind of person did you usually go for before me? Bubbly, fun, someone who, like, has a bit of a class. Someone that could polish me up. You need some polishing. (LAUGHS) Yeah, I need some polishing. Actually, speaking of polishing, how would you feel about getting, like, a nice, like, haircut? Obviously you want me to get a nice haircut. Well, no. I know you like a nice groomed guy, and I'm not that groomed at the moment. Well, yeah, I quite like, um... Groomed guys. ...groomed guys, that take care of themselves. Yeah, yeah. I always like a big roughy beard and roughy hair, but I guess, maybe, she just wants a little more groomed? If you want to do that, I'm open to it. Really? It's change. It's cool. I just got married. Why not? (CHUCKLES) You know what it is. Happy wife, happy life. Yeah, yeah. Look, I'm not going to base myself upon an image. It's not who I am. But if that helps her come to terms with who I am, that's cool. But it's not who I am. I don't see myself as this, you know? I am here and here not hair, you know? I actually think that's really sweet that you're actually thinking of doing that for me, you know? Honestly, I feel like once you get it, though, you'll be like, 'Why didn't I do it sooner?' The fact that he's willing to cut his hair is kind of a big thing. I can see that he's really trying to please me. I think that's really sweet. I feel like your friends are going to give you shit for, like, me getting you to get a haircut. Uh... What do you think? They might be like, 'Oh, she's trying to change you.' They might, but that's all right. Aw. I'm not married to them. (BOTH LAUGH) For me, it's kind of been like maybe the first time that I've felt like any kind of little bit of spark ` like, just a little bit. I don't know what it is. Maybe it's the fact that he's going to let me cut his hair. (LAUGHS) Across the ditch, lovebirds Brett and Angel are still on a post-wedding high. BRETT: Who would have thought we'd go from getting married yesterday to this? Hanging out with the cows on a farm. One week. You're a country girl. Yeah. Oh my God. I cannot even explain how nice Brett is. Like, he is so nice. Like, if you would cut him open, he would just be like, you know, rainbows. That's actually the best way to describe how nice he is. Oh my God, we've got our first date tonight. That is actually insane. So up ahead we have a spa bath. So, it will be quite nice to check it out and a good bonding thing to do, I guess. (BOTH EXCLAIM) It's a bit... It's a bit small. This is our spa bath! (LAUGHS) Great view. I don't know, I think that's, like, one Brad and only a quarter of an Angel worth of space. I'm glad we're small humans. Yeah, I mean I know it's pretty extreme because it's 24 hours and you are in your bathers and in a spa but, I mean, you're on your honeymoon, right? And if it's appropriate to get married at first sight, I mean, surely you can pop into a spa bath together, eh? This is the most awkward bath ever. (LAUGHS) No. No good? Is that all right or not? Oh, it's getting better. Bring it forward. What if go like that and you...? Where are your hands? (LAUGHS) Yeah, it was real weird to have our first, kind of, intimate moment in the world's smallest spa. It wasn't even a spa. It was a bath tub. Well, here's to breaking boundaries. (BOTH LAUGH) Breaking down those walls. Yeah. I think I'm supposed to do something like this. (BOTH LAUGH) I got that right on your nose. That was awesome. I know. You seem fearless. You seem happy to jump in here with me after one day. Is there anything that actually scares you? Like, do you have any fears? Um,... my main fear is, um, rejection. Like, for me, at the end of this whole... experience that we, like, have together, it genuinely, like, terrifies me just the idea of, like,... the renewal of the vows and stuff. It just gives me the creeps. It's all well and good to really enjoy each other's company, and, obviously, yesterday was amazing, but you still have those fears. You know, you just think about all the different things that could potentially go wrong. You are like, 'Am I living in a dream?' Like, 'Is this too good to be true?' Is there anything that actually scares you? Like, do you have any fears? My main fear is, um, rejection. Just the idea of, like,... the renewal of the vows and stuff. It just gives me the creeps. To think that he couldn't have feelings for me at the end of this or say our feelings didn't resonate, it's actually terrifying to me. I haven't even thought about that. You haven't? Nah. You know, at this stage there's no way I am going to say no at the end of this. Yeah. So you don't have any stress. Wifey, you don't need to stress. You know, like, I'm here for the right reasons. I've committed to this. I've got married. I don't plan on changing that. You don't need to stress. You're fine. If you want to get the most out of me, maybe you've just got to take that leap of faith and trust me. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) Our newlyweds are waking up on the second day of their honeymoons. What's that on my head? Oh, that's right, it was Vicky! (LAUGHS) It's another day in the life of A and B and another day of Simpsons socks. The trauma continues. (VOCALISES) Yum! Let me get your chair. Hold on. Aw, gentleman. I reckon. Thank you. Every time. We talk to each other so easily. Like, it's real comfortable. I'm still... unsure whether it's a romantic thing or a friendship thing. So just taking it slow and just trying to figure out where my feelings are. I'm getting good with this. What? Talking with my mouth closed business. Yeah, you` Yeah. I've been watching. Have you? Yeah. Keeping an eye on me. Yeah. I'm absolutely a summer man, eh. A summer man? Yeah. Yeah, so you prefer the heat as well? Stubbies and singlets all summer. Stubbies? Do you like stubbies? Probably not. No, I do. Really? What do you mean 'probably not'? I don't know. What do you mean? What did you mean by 'probably not'? I don't know. What did you say? It's not classy? It's not classy. Do you think I want to be classy? You like classy stuff. I like nice things. Mm. She's a lady, and she wants to be treated like a lady, and I'm willing to do that, so that's cool. I wanted a woman like that. You'll laugh when you see me come back from work sometimes, eh. Rough. Really? She kind of compliments my roughness. She's probably going to try and tidy me up a little bit, but that's all good. Yeah, I'm a classy number. Mm. Perfectly matched, eh? Yeah, yeah. You probably need someone who's a bit rough in your life, I reckon, eh? Do I? Yeah, absolutely. I've had rough guys before. What did you make of them? Did you like them? Mm,... sometimes. She doesn't want to put everything on the line straight away. I think she's definitely feeling more comfortable with me. She just wants to work out who I am as a person, before she goes fully committing to me. If I just keep going with the same kind of guys that I always have, then it's never going to be... Mm, that's been my problem too. ...what I want. It's like always, kind of, like going back to the same... Mm. I mean, I don't know if you're attracted to me, but you're pretty good looking, so it's all good. (CHUCKLES) I'm pretty good looking? Really? You're so nice to me. You always say such nice things. Across the ditch, Brett and Angel are taking time out in the South Australian countryside. But a trip to the Barossa Valley wouldn't be complete without a visit to a winery. How are you going, Nigel? Welcome to Seppeltsfield, Angel and... Brett. Brett, yeah. How are ya? So stoked to be here at Seppeltsfield. It's a really old place. It's one of the biggest winery regions in the world, and, yeah, pretty lucky to be here, actually. We got married at a vineyard, so it's just ironic that we` Wonderful, sort of carrying the theme. Yeah. You are in amongst one of the rarest collections of wines in the world. We happen to be by your birth year, Angel. So, if you want to grab a glass, both of you... Yeah. ...cos you're gonna have a chance to taste your birth year wine direct from barrel, which should be fun. Wow. Oh my gosh. It's a good time to be older then, eh? (LAUGHS) That's right. So you are virtually the same age as this wine, which is excellent. Oh my God. That's crazy. Wow. Oh my God. That smells amazing. So, Brett, I'll get you to find your birth year. Yeah, it's down this way. I'm a bit older than you, Angel. (LAUGHS) It was almost a hike to Brett's barrel but we made it there. Nearly thought I had to get my runners on. (LAUGHS) This is my year ` 1983. This will be the best tasting one here, won't it, Nigel? It is the best barrel from 1983. So, does it get darker over time? It's a little bit more viscous; it's more darker, yeah. Everything concentrates over time. We really both don't think that the age gap between us is an issue. I think it's just more about our approach to life and how we tackle things, because at the end of the day that's what really matters. And it's known to get better with age, basically. Yep, yep, bit like people, so... (BOTH LAUGH) Well, they do. They gain character, and the more experience you have in life, the more layers there are to you. Are you taking all this in? (LAUGHS) I didn't know this is was a life lesson. I thought it was just about port. (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) I think, obviously, as this whole experiment goes on, especially when we are living together, I definitely think there will be differences ` 100%. Like, I don't think it would be healthy if there wasn't. If our marriage ages like the port, it will be fantastic. Well, exactly. Yeah, we'll have to come back for one of our anniversaries, Angel, and try the year we were married when it's ready. Ah, yeah! I definitely think there will be challenges to come, and I think that will just come in time. But I feel like we do have the structure at the moment where we are able to talk about it really openly, and that's kind of the beauty of how we are getting along right now. Like, nothing is a secret. While talking is bringing Brett and Angel ever closer, the same can't be said for Ben and Aaron. There was the option of doing two baths separate or one bath together. I left that one up to Ben to decide and, yeah, he chose two separate baths. I mean, at the end of the day I don't want him to be doing things that he feels uncomfortable doing simply just to try and please me. Aw, that's so good. Uh, why don't you feel quite comfortable sharing a bath? First of all because he's very affectionate and very touchy, and I'm not really. I'm just not like that as a person, and I don't really appreciate it. So, that's why. It's kind of annoying. Like, why do you think the experts put you and I together? I mean, first impressions when I saw you were... I think you are really attractive. Cos one of the biggest things I've been concerned about was coming in and not being attracted to you, because... it just sets everything up for either a good rolling start or, you know, this real handicap. I don't know. Why do you think they might have matched us? Um... I mean, I am a little disappointed. He's just not someone I would... ever date. So I find it hard, yeah. I have no idea. To be honest, I have no idea. Um... I just feel like my expectations of it have been kind of put aside. I was quite surprised that they had matched me with you. I've never been in this position before where I've had to do this, so I can't say for sure if there would be, like, a spark or anything. Obviously, it's a new situation to be in, and I don't know what is to come, yeah. You're not usually the kind of guy I would go for. (BLOWS) Kia ora. (SIGMA'S 'CHANGING' FEATURING PALOMA FAITH) # Hell down, heaven now, livin' in the same town, trying to find somethin' new. Hello. (HORN TOOTS) (BUTTONS BEEP) Hey! # Everythin' is changin'. No, it's a wee one. (OINKS) (INDISTINCT CONVERSATION) Jambo. Salaam alaikum. (DRONE WHIRRS) Hello. I'm home. (BEEP!) (BEEPING) ALL: Hey! (ELECTRONIC WHIRRING) Hello. (BUZZING, CHILDREN CHUCKLE) Hello from the children of Planet Earth. On Waiheke Island, Vicky and Andrew are heading out for some adventures. Andrew? Do you think I look cute? That orange helmet just really complements those eyes. The spark during dinner the other night, I don't know. I'm just still trying to figure out my feelings. I'm not sure... whether our connection is, like, heading towards a romantic connection or a friendship connection. How do I look, Vic? Charming? Charming. Charming. There's heaps of things I like about him. I think he's really fun to be around. I'm kind of annoyed at myself that, like, my romantic feelings aren't there yet. I'll buy you dinner tonight. If you beat me to the end, dinner is on me. And if you win, then you buy me dinner. OK. Sounds like I'm not going to win. She's a cool chick. I'd say I could totally fall for her. But I don't want to just go putting my heart on the line just yet, because I've done that before, and it's never a good thing. So, we're just taking it real slow. We are real comfortable around each other. It's quite weird. Hopefully I don't get friend-zoned. (LAUGHS) Sucker! Whoo! Oh my God! Wahoo! Whoo! Yes! Whoo-hoo! Nah, I beat you. Whatever, sucker! I don't know what's holding me back. I don't know what's stopping me. It's weird, because it's like all of these attributes that I actually did want in a guy, and he has, like, a lot of them, so It's kind of like` that's why I'm annoyed at myself. Good stuff. Good stuff. Come here, give me a hug. Grr. He's quite affectionate, and, like, usually I do like that in a relationship, but I'm just, like` we're still getting to know each other. That was cool. How do you feel after that? BRITISH ACCENT: Oh, I think I'm in love. BRITISH ACCENT: Are you really? I'm in love with you. Oh my goodness, are you in love with me? I'm in love. (BOTH LAUGH) So that's probably my biggest worry ` is that the feelings don't develop. But at Waiuku, near Auckland, lack of feelings is an ongoing problem for Ben and Aaron. I was quite surprised that they had matched me with you. You're not usually the kind of guy I would go for. There was always that risk that I might not be physically attracted to you, and that's fine, I suppose, but that is something that I need to, kinda, I don't know,... work with. Look, I'm disappointed that the sparks haven't been there right from the start. It was quite disheartening to hear that the physical attraction from his side is not really there. It's hard, because it's obviously nothing I can change. No, no, not at all. I'm not, like, asking you to. Yeah, no, no, not taking it that way at all. Well, there's nothing you can do about it, nothing I can do about it. I just think it's something that will be interesting for myself to see how I'll navigate that, and that's why I think it's important for me to actually get to know you as a person. It's not all just about,... you know, your looks, but it does make it harder. I really hope I can be the guy for Ben. I really like him. I think he's really lovely, and I think we've got along really well. I think it's gonna come down to him on that case of looks or personality. What's more important? Morning! Morning. The first second morning waking up, and I'm making old wifey a coffee there. Good morning! Oh, my God, I'm so not ready for today. I brought you a coffee! Did you actually? Yeah! (TENSE MUSIC) Didn't have a great sleep last night. I think everything was just spinning around in my head. We obviously had quite a bit of a tough conversation yesterday in the baths, about the fact that I'm not the type of person that would usually be Ben's type. Um,... so, I mean, that's disappointing to hear, but at the same time it's nice that he was able to be honest with me and tell me that. I think the fact that he's still here and wanting to make it work is a really good sign. So, I've decided to take him out for a day trip out east towards Tauranga. He doesn't know where we are going yet. I wanted to keep it a surprise. Hopefully the... you know, the physical attraction side of things for him are gonna fall in place. The honeymoon is an opportunity for our couples to really get to know each other, to build those bonds, especially if they didn't feel a strong physical attraction to start with. Hey! So, we're in Paeroa. We're going on a road trip today. I'm not really sure yet where we're going but, we'll see in a sec. Surprise. Surprise road trip. Yeah. This is the time to really get to know your partner, to spend some solid alone time and to really lean into the experiment. So, we've reached our spot. We're at Karangahake Gorge. And it's pretty amazing. It's pissing rain. But it's pretty awesome. Tell 'em it's pretty cool, eh. Been pretty cool, pretty buzzy. My kind of thing. And, yeah, the view is pretty awesome out here. (UPLIFTING PIANO MUSIC) Oh my God, what the hell? Wow. Look at this. It's crazy. I'll get your chair for ya. Aw. Stop it. (LAUGHS) Oh my God, this is actually insane. Amazing. Look at this. Do you think I'm low maintenance so far? 100%. (LAUGHS) I think the hardest thing so far for me is literally how overwhelming the speed of this whole thing is. Yep. And also, like, your niceness... is... and I don't know why the hell it happens, but it actually is freaky. It's definitely a bit of an inner struggle for me, in regards to him being so nice. In the past I've just never had someone treat me like a queen. Everything that he does for me is kind of like what every girl dreams of. And I don't know why it's so hard. Yeah, maybe that's why I've been single ` cos I go too full on maybe at the start. I don't know, I'm aware of it, like... If I'm being completely honest, I'm quite gutted right now. My game plan was to take things slowly. But she's gone from guys that haven't really paid her the attention or... I don't think anyone's ever told her she looks nice to having a guy tell her that, like, 20 times in a day. I'm only doing it because it's just me. Like, I can't help it. I even think to the wedding, with the signs and the bracelet and everything, it's literally what girls dream of. But at the same time I don't know why, but it's something that's just like, oh... I'm probably like a few strides behind him even though I know that we have a really good connection. I think, you know he's on the greyhound racetrack, and I probably have only just slowed down. Yeah, last thing I want to do is make you feel uncomfortable or, yeah, don't wanna come in too hot. Like, I don't know, it's tough cos I just feel a connection between us and I like you and maybe I'm trying too hard. Yeah, definitely take it a bit slower the next couple of days. Yeah, not feeling, as good as last couple days. I'm a little gutted in myself for... being too nice. (SEAGULLS CALL) Are you feeling like... kind of like falling for me or anything like that or what? (LAUGHS) How do you reckon? What do you reckon? Do I feel like I'm falling for you? Yeah. I thought it'd be a good idea to bring up how I was feeling about whether our feelings are romantic or friendship. You want me to be honest? Yeah. I don't think so. (CHUCKLES) Oh, really? Well, I mean, it's day four. Like, I'm not gonna say I'm falling in love with you. I don't expect you to be falling in love with me. Like, to be honest, like, I'm kind of, like, fighting with myself on, like, whether this is... like, if it's more romantic or if it's more of a friendship. I was nervous to bring it up cos I didn't know if he was on the same page as me with his feelings. I didn't want to upset him, obviously, cos he's really nice. We have so much in common, and, like, we're always laughing, and we're always having a really good time, but I'm worried that it's not gonna develop anything more from that, and that's nothing that you're doing. Like, you've done nothing wrong at all. It's more just like my own stuff. Do you know what I mean? Mm. I don't really think you put yourself out there, like, a lot. Put myself out there in what way? Oh, it's just, like, I kinda put my, sort of, feelings on the line a little bit. It is important for me to not settle. As I tend to make excuses and think, like, it is valid, so I really wanna make sure that there is a genuine connection there and it is, like, a romantic one, not just a friendship one. Well, I've always said that, like, your partner should be your best mate. I know, and, like, that's true ` that's 100% true. I guess I'm just worried that the connection's not gonna develop. I don't want you to feel like you've done anything wrong, cos you haven't. Like, you've been awesome, you've been amazing. It's just purely me, and, like, I don't know what it is. So what do you wanna do? I don't want you to feel like you've done anything wrong, cos you haven't. Like, you've been awesome, you've been amazing. It's just purely me, and, like, I don't know what it is. So what do you wanna do? The friendship zone is something to be embraced rather than feared. It is an opportunity to explore what it is about their partner that really draws them towards being a friend ` what are the qualities that they admire, that they respect, that they like? Because those very same attributes will bridge across into their relationships and serve them well going forward. I don't know, maybe we should just, like, start, like, I don't know... just keep doing what we're doing. I think taking it slow is the best way to do it. Yeah. You don't want a real intense, passionate thing straight away... Fizzles out. ...and then it'll fizzle out. Like you said that's what's happened with the rest of your relationships, and, like, if we want this to work, we don't wanna do that. And, like, I know that you probably are thinking, like, 'Man, she's frigid,' or whatever, but` A little bit. Oh, really? (LAUGHS) A little bit. I think at some point in the relationship if it is gonna work, there is gonna have to be some sexual chemistry, definitely, and romantic chemistry, because it is a big part in a relationship as well. But I do think the emotional part of it is more important at this point. I just want someone that I can just talk to. Yeah. No, I know that. I think that too, but... I just think what's really great about the relationship that we have at the moment is that we're forever laughing and... I'd like to be a functioning relationship at some point. We've just gotta get to the whole physical level first. I feel like we're kinda heading in the right direction. It's just a slow, steady process. It's just key that we keep chipping away at it. Give us a chance. (CHUCKLES) As soon as we do find that spark, I think it'll be... amazing. (SLOW STRING, PIANO MUSIC) But as a new day dawns, it seems the spark may still be missing between Ben and Aaron. AARON: What are you feeling? Um... Mixed emotions at the moment, I think. It's been a pretty hard couple days. Had a big road trip yesterday, which was actually really good, really fun. We're definitely, like, quite different people in some aspects, but we've also got a lot of similarities too. But on the other side of it, there's been absolutely zero, sort of, physical contact at all. Hopefully that's something that will grow, but it's quite concerning to me at the moment. The honeymoon is a great chance for the couples to ask some of those very difficult questions and share some of the things they wouldn't normally share with other people. The definition of intimacy is 'see into me' and 'let me share with you things I wouldn't normally share with everyone'. If the couples are able to do that, it will give them the longevity and the attachment that they need to make this work. Have you ever been cheated on or have you cheated on someone before? (TENSE MUSIC) I have cheated before ` a long time ago, and it's not something that I want to ever think that I would do again. A little bit nervous to tell him that. There's always that concern that that is going to be quite a big issue. Um, I have cheated on someone before. I feel really bad about it. You know, I know... how he must have felt, so,... yeah, it's definitely something that I've learnt from and I'll never do again, you know. That's probably the worst thing that you could probably do to someone ` is cheat on them, I think. Mm. You know, if I wasn't happy with them or anything like that, I would probably end it. I hope you trust that I would never do that again ` ever. No, it's fine. Like you learn and you grow, and people make mistakes, so... I think he trusted me in that, so that was good to know and that it wasn't going to be such a deal breaker for him at all. Like he said, people learn from these mistakes, and it's not something I wanna do again, so I think the conversation around that went pretty well. Personally, I find cheating to be pretty horrible. If you've cheated in the past before, you probably will again, so, yeah, it's a massive deal-breaker, red flag for myself, yeah. Physically we've been quite independent, I guess. Yeah. That's, like, a bit of a red flag for me. Not so much physical intimacy, but physical... connection, I guess, is quite a fundamental thing for me for a relationship. He's not a touchy-feely person, which, you know, I can understand to a degree. But to the level where I'll sit down on a couch beside him and he'll seem to find a reason to move to the other couch. I'll put my arm on the arm rest in the car and, you know, we'll touch arms, and he'll move his arm. It's quite to an extreme level. I would say it's probably, like, a mix of things. Like, I'm not that affectionate as a person. Like, I'm very, like, personal space. Like, I don't wanna be a dick about it, but I think you just need to kinda respect those, because if I don't feel comfortable, there's not point in forcing that. Oh yeah. Cos that's just gonna, like, piss me off. If you push it, I'm not gonna like it. So I think just, like, leave that for now, because that's obviously an issue for you, but for me it's not really. I'm just kinda like... If he keeps trying to give me affection, it's gonna get to a point where I'm just gonna push him away, completely shut him off and I won't want a bar of it. It'll probably, like, ruin any chance that we have together. In South Australia, Brett and Angel's honeymoon in the Barossa Valley is going from strength to strength. Too tall to come here. Oh my gosh. Another fantasy suite you've set up for me, Brett. Would you stop being so bloody nice? (LAUGHS) Working on this all morning. This is cool, though, eh? This is so amazing. So we've moved on to Hentley Farm. I think my wife loves it cos it's red wine trying. I'm a bit of a beer guy. What were your thoughts as you got out of the car and you walked, and what were your first thoughts when you first saw me? I love that you didn't have your glasses on cos you were probably like, 'Oh my God, I love this blur.' (LAUGHS) You probably weren't even attracted to me. I was just a blur in front of your face. (CHEERING) I'm not that blind, but, um... Nah, like, I don't know... Nah, my sight, that was sweet, it was fine. Like, when I saw her she was, you know, the most beautiful girl I've ever seen. It was like, 'This is unbelievable.' It was just like love at first sight. And, yeah, I really wanna tell her that, but I can't do that at the moment. Hopefully one day I can. Nah, I was just stoked ` stoked, like, for the little things first off, that you had blonde hair. And you were smiling heaps. Yeah, I was pretty stoked with what I saw. Like, it was good. Yeah. That's cute. (LAUGHS) I've never been good at taking compliments. So having someone remind you that you're beautiful every single hour is really rewarding and, like, a really beautiful part of who he is. And I'm getting better at taking it. And that's a big step forward for me. (LAUGHS) What about you, Angel? Am I close to the type of guy or am I completely to the type you thought you'd get? Um... I don't think I've dated anyone like you in my life. 100% I never have. Now you're married to him. Yeah. (LAUGHS) Like, obviously, don't know a bloody diamond from a grain of sand cos I keep on ending up with grains of sand. So I've come on here with a completely open mind, and I've found a bloody diamond in the rough. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, I'm happy as. It's going good. I am still nervous... that she doesn't 100% like me yet. Things are going really well now, but I am a bit nervous about the future and that she hasn't dated someone like me. That makes me wonder whether it will work out. At Waiuku, south of Auckland, Ben and Aaron are on the move to new accommodation at Castaways resort. BEN: I had no idea where I was doing this afternoon. Aw, there's cute seats down here. And we're just driving out into the middle of nowhere. Cute. We were trying to figure out where we were gonna go today. Camping was, like, definitely on the list, but Ben hates camping. The boys have arrived at glamping. Cut off from civilization and the internet, it will give the two newlyweds the chance to focus on no one but themselves and their relationship. Oh, this is so cool. It's really, really nice here. I would've quite happily had the honeymoon here ` at the glamping tent. Cheers. Cheers. We're kinda forced to (LAUGHS) spend a lot of time together, and that's a good thing, that's good so... I think that would be the best thing for us. This is actually so nice, like... I don't really like camping, but... Yeah. ...this will do. Just, like, don't think of it as camping. I don't have to pitch a tent, so... It's fine, you know. Like, after, this morning's chat, like, over breakfast, how are you feeling about everything? Like, are you`? Deep, Ben. Deep, deep. (LAUGHS) No, look, I'm feeling good. Like, I've got no hard feelings or anything. I'd rather hear the truth and not like it than not hear it all and not know what's going on because that's when I get... all stressed out and upset. We've just gotta take it as it comes. And it's gonna take some time to kinda, like, I don't know, feel each other out, I guess. I don't necessarily think that being here is going to just ignite some spark that wasn't there before. I don't think there's any magic cure that's going to just make things happen. I think as long as we keep this open communication and actually talk about things that are going on and are receptive to what the other person's saying, then I think, yeah, that's going to be a pretty good start to get things going on the right track. I feel a lot more comfortable now with regards to that whole, like, speaking about being, like, affectionate and that kind of thing. Yeah. We've spoken about it before how, like, I'm not necessarily straight up attracted to you physically. So all I kind of want from there is to get to know you as a person and see, like, where you're at, who you are, like... Yep. Obviously we're here now, and this place is a little bit more cut of from the world and cut off from Instagram. (BOTH LAUGH) But, you know, like, I` Are you gonna survive? I'll survive. Yeah. I'm definitely feeling better than I was this morning. He's starting to respect my boundaries a little bit more. So that just makes me more relaxed, and I'm able to just suss him out a little bit more. What do you feel like? Do you wanna, like, just chill out today, or do you wanna go and do something? I wanna chill, have some wines. Yeah. You wanna go for a run, eh? Yup. I wanna go for a run. I dunno, I think, like, we need some time to just like... for ourselves as well, so... Why don't you go for a run, and I'll have a bath and then...? Sounds good. There's an outdoor bath, but it's probably gonna be a one-man bath tonight, I think. On Waiheke island, Vicky and Andrew have also chosen some alone time. This is my first diary cam without Andrew. We've had a little bit of an emotional day today. My sister, um,... was induced today, and I got a bit overwhelmed and upset because I wasn't there,. and I had a bit of a sookie la-la. (CHUCKLES) Had a bit of a cry. He was really good. Like, he asked if I was ok and that. Probably haven't been the nicest that I could of been, but I think that was more to do with emotions. I don't know where he is at the moment. I had a shower, and then he's kind of been gone for maybe about an hour and a half, so I'm not really sure where he's gone. I've called him, but his phone's gone straight to answerphone. I'm sure he's OK, though. (BIRDSONG) Just give you a nice little scenic view ` what I'm currently looking at. It's pretty bloody beautiful, let's be fair. She's, um, going... through a lot at the moment, because her sister's actually having a baby... today. She can't be there, which is really hard. She really wants to be, but, honestly, I cannot speak high enough about a woman that has been here on an island with a guy she's getting to know, we are getting to know each other quite well, but she's known her sister her whole life, obviously, and she's just put all that aside for me. It's quite... It's so impressive. But it is taking a toll. She was quite distant towards myself and whatnot. Emotions were high. Tears were had on both sides, to be fair. And I haven't felt like that in a very, very, very long time, so it was quite confusing. Even if we come out of this just as mates, you know, I know she has the most purest heart. This has, kind of, been our first kind of hiccup that we've had, and I'm feeling like I'm missing my family a lot. And I'm just not sure how attracted to him I am at this moment, so I'm not really sure how I'm feeling about things at the moment, like... Yeah. On their honeymoon in the Barossa Valley, Brett and Angel are still feeling the magic. Oh my God. We are having the most amazing dinner at Hentley farm. It's so beautiful. The environment and just the whole experience right now is just so sensational. Do we cheers? Cheers our shells. That's what we would do. Cheers. Cheers. It still freaks me out when I think about where me and Brett are in terms of our relationship right now and this whole experiment. It just makes me wonder... I dunno, it's just crazy. Me and Brett are on this rainbow. I don't know if he knows he's riding it. (LAUGHS) I'll think of something. But at the moment, you're sweet. Just give me a chance, just give me a chance. Give me a chance to what? Think about something? No, just in the whole thing. Just don't give up on me. That's all I want. I don't think I would. Do you think I would? I dunno. I dunno. But just don't. That's the only thing needed. I think that's the cutest thing I think you've said to me. I almost felt like he was doubting where we were going, and I was like, 'Oh, no. 100% no.' Like, I definitely feel like we're on the right path. There's not one part of me doubts that. I thought it was kind of strange that he did say that to me. It's crazy that you just said that to me. Like, that's not even in my mind ` that I wouldn't give you a chance, you know. I dunno. I just guess, yeah... I dunno. It's hard for me not to be insecure. And I think that comes from liking her so much. And in the past I've got my hopes up with girls and I've been let down, and it's been brutal, so the later me's just been, like, not trying to get my hopes up, cos then I'm not as let down. Does that make sense? So... I'm exactly in the same boat, though. You know that, eh? Yeah. I don't, but OK. Yep. I'm in exactly the same boat. Like, I've been let down by lots of people before. But I wouldn't` Like I would still get scared that you would give up on me, you know. Yeah, I think we've just gotta learn to trust each other more, eh. I have to say this is the first time I've really had someone want that reassurance from me, but, to be honest, it's actually really nice, cos it kinda shows to me how much Brett cares about this whole experience that we're having together. It actually felt real good. (LAUGHS) On Waiheke Island, Vicky and Andrew aren't feeling quite so secure about where they stand. Last day of honeymooning. Yeah, yeah. How you feeling about it? It's definitely a work in progress. Yeah, it's a work in progress, right? I like Vicky quite a lot. I would like her to be more than a friend. But at this point we're just still feeling the waters. Get along well, have good chats and whatnot, but that physical level's just not there yet. And that's cool, cos that's like... It's actually kind of good thing, cos it might just ruin it... Yeah. ...completely. Yeah. Would do. I am very worried about the lack of physical connection. And it's not for his lack of trying, because he does show me a lot of affection. It has been such an emotional ride. Yeah. We had a real crazy day yesterday. Emotions are running high. Definitely. My sister went into labour yesterday, and I got pretty upset and emotional that I wasn't with her, and I might have been maybe a little bit cold towards Andrew. I think he tried to comfort me, and I kinda was like, 'I'm all right. I'm OK.' And I think he might have taken that the wrong way. I thought I'd be better to be more affectionate than less affectionate. Yeah, I think` But obviously that, um... it's a fine balance with you. At the wedding, you know, you get told, 'Oh, she likes affection. She likes cuddles and this and this.' So Andrew let me introduce you to your new wife. Hi. Hello. (LAUGHS) Now, she's genuine and loyal, she's super affectionate, and she loves cuddles. Sweet. I do like cuddles. (LAUGHS) So you go, 'OK, well, maybe that's what I should try and do to keep this girl happy.' I mean, like, yes, I am an affectionate person, but, like, when you do get hugs, you tend to cry more, and I was a little bit embarrassed. So, like, I do apologise if that came across like I didn't want you to cuddle me, but, um... That was really the thing that upset me yesterday, and I told you that at tea. We went out to dinner, and things got a bit, like, heated. There was a few words that were spoken. He said to me, why am I so cruel? Which... I don't think I'm a cruel person. You said that you thought I was cruel because I didn't hug you back. You know, you can say something and take it back, but it's still been said. Yeah, well, you were a bit mean to me at points yesterday. What did I do? Well, it was just that whole hugging thing and then you kinda` But I explained to you why I didn't` like, why I didn't really want you to hug me at that point. Saying that I'm taking it out on you, but really you` You weren't taking it out on me. That's what you said. Maybe I did a little bit, eh. We just need some space. That's what we need. Yeah. Sorry. Don't need to apologise. (SNIFFLES) You OK? Like, I know you said you didn't mean.... (SNIFFLES) to say that to me, but it's still like quite, um,... upsetting, because I really try not to be, like, a horrible person. It was such a bad thing to say. I just said it on, like, a whim. I'm trying to be here for you, but sometimes I just say dumb things. Sorry. I just want to... (SNIFFLES) fix myself. (SNIFFLES) (SIGHS) (BLEEP). On Waiheke island, Vicky and Andrew's honeymoon has hit a rocky patch. I really try not to be, like, a horrible person. It was such a bad thing to say. I just said it on, like, a whim. I'm trying to be here for you, but sometimes I just say dumb things. Sorry. I just wanna... fix (SNIFFLES) myself. I said she was a little bit cruel, and I meant to say 'mean'. And she's not a cruel person. She's not a cruel person at all. And, um, it really... (BLEEP). I really upset her, and that's just upsetting me, you know. I guess I didn't think it upset me as much as it did. Honestly, I just say some dumb shit sometimes. (EXHALES) I mean, I'm just trying to be the guy that is here for her. As much as there are... like a couple hiccups and a couple bad things, like, like we still have a lot in common. Oh, honestly I just want her to be OK, eh. I'm just trying to figure out how I can... how I can make that work. Are you OK? (SNIFFLES) Yep. You OK? Yeah. What's happened? Oh, I was just a bit upset you got upset. You upset I got upset? Yeah. Really? Mm. Sorry. You're all right? Mm. Yeah, I'm OK. Just had another moment, you know? I haven't cried in years, cos I haven't had anyone to cry about in years, but, obviously, there's something going on there ` inside of my heart, I guess, or something. I don't know. I just don't wanna see her upset. I don't know. What's going through your head? I dunno. Like... everything. (LAUGHS) Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm not about to give up so easily. There are some really great things about Andrew, and he is always, quite caring, quite considerate. I know how my feelings are at the moment. But that doesn't mean they're not gonna change. I'm willing to give it a chance. We've still got time to figure it out. (STRING MUSIC) While Vicky and Andrew's honeymoon is ending on a positive note, Ben and Aaron are still spending time alone. I want the relationship to work. I've tried to be so positive about everything. I came into this knowing it was going to be really hard. We all have that dream that it was just gonna be sparks from the start and everything would go really well, but realistically, I think I knew that it wasn't going to be like that. But I kind of feel like... I don't know, he's not giving it everything at the moment. I feel like he's just kind of set back in this position of, 'Oh, he's not what I was looking for, so it's not gonna work out,' kind of, yeah. That's the vibe I'm getting at the moment. The frustration is building. I hope it doesn't get to a point where I blow. If it keeps going the way it is, then that's probably where it's going to head at some point. ...when Jay-Jay, Dom and Randell catch up with the stars of Married at First Sight NZ... Tomorrow night ` the pressure is on... My darling. ...when the couples meet for the first time since their weddings. Hey, guys. How are you? Good. And tensions reach boiling point. You lied to me and to all of my friends. What?! This now is critical. 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