a shock exit. Do you feel like Lacey gave it a real shot? Uh,... no. A texting scandal. There's a lot of fake people here. Haydn has betrayed me, and I can't do it any more. And loyalties were tested,... as the couples took the next step... Oh! Sweet. Nice. Oh my... ...and moved in together. In one week, we've accomplished more than probably what a couple's accomplished in two years. Tonight ` some couples settle into living together. Should we do a cheers to our two-week anniversary? Intimacy side of it ` I'll let you ask my wife about that. It's crazy, eh. While others break apart. This is just getting right on my (BLEEP) nerves. I don't see this working currently right now, and I'm kind of giving up trying. A late arrival puts strain on a new relationship. Five days apart is a long time when you've only married 12 days. It just feels like we're starting again. And one marriage faces the ultimate test. What do you want out of this? I don't know what you're expecting me to do. I have four weeks to decide if I'm going to drop my entire (BLEEP)ing life for you. I don't even know you. Copyright Able 2017 (UPBEAT MUSIC) ...with Jay-Jay, Dom and Randell for Breakfast on The Edge. Bringing you Married At First Sight NZ. (REFLECTIVE MUSIC) It's the fourth day for our couples in the living together phase of the experiment. And most are adjusting to day-to-day life joined at the hip. # If you wish upon a star... # Good morning, New Zealand. Here we are ` beautiful Auckland. You need toothpaste. Although, I don't mind sharing my toothpaste with you now, knowing we're gonna get some more. We need to have, like, a bigger recycling bin, eh. What I wanna talk to you about this morning is this bad boy right here. That was made for the wedding. And, you know, picked that up, and we're gonna have it on display at our apartment ` make it feel a bit more at home. Got chicken, beef or turkey. Chicken. Chicken? All right. Do a bit of exercise, have some good kai. Um,... just enjoy it, really. Yep. All right, over and out. But Dom has been apart from Claire since she took ill after the cocktail party. I sorry you don't feel well. I know. It's all good. I'm just gutted, cos I really wanted to be a little bit more enthusiastic. Just been to the doctors, and now I'm in hospital on a drip. I'm waiting to get a scan done. Thankfully, Claire's been given the all clear. And the couple can now begin the process of rekindling their romance. So I'm waiting for Claire's return from hospital. I just got a text saying that she's on her way back in a taxi. I'm feeling anxious, because I've just worked out we've been apart almost as long as we've been married. It's really important that Dom just gives Claire the time to reconnect with both the environment but also the relationship. (KNOCK AT DOOR) Hello! Hello. How are you? Gosh, you look really lovely. Aw, thank you. I had a shower today, so that was good. You look so well. Yeah, thank you. I am feeling so much better. How are you feeling? Oh, good. Good! I'm just` I'm going to put them in there for now, until we find a vase. Oh, ni` Oh, nice. And, uh, your bedroom is down there. Oh! Yep. Oh, wedding photos. Very nice. Oh, lovely. Thank you for putting my` You got the one with the glass front wall. Yes, great, because I'm scared of heights, but that's OK. I'll just stay close to that side. Claire and Dom would have been missing out on very important steps along the way. Other couples have had the opportunity to test waters and get to know the other person a little bit better and which buttons not to push. Claire's absence would no doubt have put a strain on Claire and Dom's relationship. Should I just clean and put things away? No, no, you don't do anything. I'll do everything. You just sit down, because you've had a terrible few days. Um, and you just sit down, and I'll just take care of it all. OK, no, that sounds good then. Yes, this is the first time I've seen Dom, well, in four days, five days. Just trying to get back into the swing of things. And we haven't actually lived together, as such. As in, um, we've been on our honeymoon and been together, but we haven't had to, like, cook and do all the daily stuff. So this is going to be interesting. Did you want me to put your fruit in this bowl too? Because I just want to get that off the bench. No, no. I'll pick it` I'll pick through it. I walked in today and the first thing I noticed was the bench was just covered in stuff. I mean, I don't mind having stuff on the bench, but... not everything. Yeah. What did you do to the frying pan? Well, I've got to say, actually, this time wasn't my fault, Claire. It's brand new. Yeah. I turned it on; I started cooking, and then unfortunately, the top of the frying pan melted. (TENSE MUSIC) Five days apart is a long time when you've only been married 12 days. It just feels like we're starting again. It feels like we've got to build bridges. And, yeah, so it's like being married at first sight ` take two. So, does the toaster just live out on the bench? Um, yeah. (UNEASY MUSIC) Or we could put it away? I got it out of the cupboard. (UNEASY MUSIC CONTINUES) Gosh, you're organised, aren't you? Yep. Got a place for everything, then there's no mess. Hmm. I've lived out of a suitcase since I've started this journey. It's a bit frustrating for me because I like to be tidy, and, yeah, it's going to be interesting. Bel and Haydn are waking up to their first day living together. They were the last to move in to the Swiss-Bel Suites, due to a controversy that erupted at the cocktail party. I found out he has been messaging one of the other wives, and agreeing that they should have been matched, not us. VOICE BREAKS: And I just felt so betrayed by that. Bel and Haydn's relationship is particularly fragile at the moment. It's very important that they're open and honest with each other and really clear on how they are communicating the issues. You're not really prepared to` to let me have my three coffees to wake up in the morning? Yes, I am. I even put the jug on for you this morning. You did, but that was only one coffee deep. Oh, sorry about that. We are getting used to living together. It's a huge adjustment having someone constantly in my space all of the time. Why don't I just like disappear in the mornings, you know? That would be great! I'll put the jug on, and then just, like, go to the gym and stay there for about four hours until midday. Even though I knew it was going to happen, I never really, I guess, prepared myself for` for it. So, while you unpack the rest of my shit, I'm going to make another coffee. I just think it will be very hard to find someone that you could live absolutely perfectly in sync with. Who's gonna cook tonight? Do you want to cook, or do you want me to cook, or do you want to cook together? We can cook together. Let's see how well that goes. You've just got to tell me what to do. You've just gotta find the good and then hopefully compromise the differences. I'm very aware that Bel and Haydn have very different styles of communication in conflict. Bel tends to retreat, whereas Haydn tends to be a little bit more assertive on` on wanting the communication dealt with then and there. No, it will be, um` be nice. I like vegetarian stuff. I also like steaks, but (LAUGHS) we can do vegetarian this week. It's good. The most important thing with us has always been communication; how we communicate with each other. I'm not under any illusions that it's going to be easy all the time, but I think that we'll just` through our improved communication, we're better equipped to deal with it now. We're going to break each other's backs. Moving in together, could add a lot of pressure into this relationship. But also, it's an opportunity for them to work through some of these issues. For Brett and Angel, it was love at first sight. And it has continued that way ever since. Should we do a cheers to our two-week anniversary? Yeah, why not? (LAUGHS) Can't believe it's been two weeks. Honestly, it feels like we've known each other for at least a year. We still have the same connection almost as when we got married. Two-week anniversary. Cheers. Cheers to that. Wow, that's crazy, eh. The thing is, like, we're living together 24/7. How's your chop game, is it strong? You've done a good job there. Oh, I've never cooked chop in my life. Good New Zealand lamb. I didn't really do anything. It's like the ultimate test, I think, for any relationship, and we're just doing it at the start. And so far, so good. So you can't really complain. I'd rather be cruising on the river than riding the rapids. (CHUCKLES) Yeah, it's gone fast. It's gone so quick. The rush and the excitement of the wedding and the honeymoon are now over, and the couples will now have to master the routine elements of day-to-day life. It will be interesting to see if they can maintain that initial spark that they had together. Who will I meet when I go to... Lincoln? This is, like, the big reveal for Lincoln for me, you know? (LAUGHS) Seriously? You'll have to ask my husband anything to do with any sort of intimate remarks (LAUGHS). The intimacy side of it ` I'll let you ask my wife about that. (LAUGHS) From my side, everything is going sweet. But, um... (LAUGHS) That's it. Coming up ` Dom makes a grave mistake that has Claire questioning her commitment. It's not just what you say and what you do. It's the whole lot. And he's not that person. And an explosive fight breaks out. I'm going to go home, actually, because I think you actually need to sit back for a second. And you kind of pissed me off. As the third week of married life gets underway for our couples, they're learning to negotiate the living together phase of the experiment. Hey, can I come to the gym with you today? But for on again, off again couple, Vicky and Andrew,... Can you get me in? I gave my free passes to Ben and Aaron. You... (GROANS). Sorry. ...that's not an easy task. Sorry. All good. She seems to have taken a liking to Aaron and Ben somewhat, which is great and they are great people, but it's kind of like a, 'Can I do something with you?' I'll just go home and get my weights, I think. That might be an idea. Are you going to bring them here? Yeah. He told me he doesn't usually go to the gym. And, plus, like, for me when I go to the gym, it's kind of, like, my time out as well. Like, I don't` Like, I want it` I don't want to be spending it, like, with someone I am with all the time anyway. I mean, I want to do things with you, and I kind of feel like it's always Aaron and Ben that are getting things done first, and I don't mind that. I'd like to do things with you, Aaron and Ben, but... We always do things together. Yeah, I know, but I want to go and do things with you, and I'm not getting really much of an opportunity. When we are in our faces too much, things start to go downhill fast. So it's better that we do have a bit of time apart each day. I reckon we can strengthen our bond if we can do stuff as a team. No, I never... (LAUGHS) So let's do stuff as a team. What do you want to do? Tell me a couple of ideas about what Vicky likes to do. I can't just come up with ideas straight away. Like, a lot of the things I want to do are, like, girly things and, like, you can't do` do, you know. It would be nice if I could get to know my wife a little bit better. We're here to get to know each other. So if I can't do things with her that she enjoys, I don't see what the point of this is. You always have a better time when things aren't planned. And you're forever, like, 'We need to plan this and plan this and plan this.' I just rang Brett and Angel, and they're like, 'We might do this, might do this, might do this.' And I'm like, 'OK, that's pretty cool.' Maybe we could be a little more like that. We're not Brett and Angel. No, we're not. You can't compare our relationship to their relationship. He's like the woman in the relationship. Like, I` Like, getting annoyed at nothing. I'm just really struggling, like, to work around your day plans and do things with you. Well, I'm sorry that I can't just drop everything to just hang out with you. You have to understand that I can't be glued to your side every minute. It's not really a relationship at the moment, because people who have relationships do things together and they want to get to know each other. We just got married, and I'd like to do stuff with you. I know, and I never` Like, you're making it out like I don't. Like... I'm really not really happy with how it is this morning. I'm just trying to make us sort of a better couple. I hope she can see that. High five? Come on, come on, come on. Give me a hug. Give me a hug. Hug it out. I'm going to give you a hug. Come on. Come on, give me some love. (LAUGHS) I don't mean to upset you, all right? I mean, it's fine. I told you I wasn't upset. OK? Yeah. Are you all right? Yeah, I'm fine. While Vicky and Andrew are struggling with the realities of living together, Ben and Aaron have also had trouble meeting each other's expectation. So, obviously, like, going forward, like, in a relationship, there are, like, some hurdles that you and me need to, like, overcome. Yep. I like Aaron a lot more than I did this time last week. I think there's still the chance of it progressing. I suppose I am open to it being more than just a friendship. And that's the most I think I can do at this point ` just, like, keeping that option kind of open in there. One of the hurdles is... geography. I guess I thought this out a lot, and basically, I know that you would not want to move to Christchurch ` am I right in saying that? A hundred percent. Yep. Like, I know that, and I realise that. I've never even been, but I just can't. Yeah, yeah. I've kind of only just set up here, like, not that long ago. So, like, I would probably rather swallow razor blades than live anywhere else in New Zealand at this point. You've said that even Auckland feels small for you. Yeah, Auckland... So going to Christchurch would just` It wouldn't make you happy, which would just put pressure on us. Yep. There is actually potentially a future for the two of us down the track. I was freaking out a little bit thinking, 'Gosh, I've got four weeks from now to decide if I'm going 'to upturn my entire life in Christchurch and move to Auckland.' Because` Because that's what it's going to come down to. I think, at the end of six weeks, if we're still going really well, which I hope we are, I would be prepared to move up here. Really? Yeah. The deal-breaker for me is geography, and it makes it kind of hard, because it's` Like, I'm not interested in, like, a long-distance relationship, and I'm not really interested in living anywhere else other than Auckland. Aaron's pretty good about it. He's quite open to moving around and just seeing how, like` how that would go. It wouldn't be able to be instant. Like, there would be a number of weeks in between somewhere that it would take me to kind of get up here and all that sort of thing. OK, but spanner. Yeah? I don't see myself living in New Zealand for, like, ever. I don't see myself long-term in New Zealand at this stage. Yeah. But I need to finish my studies. Yeah. Which is not going to happen until the end of next year. Compromise is something that's going to need to happen. I'm happy to come up to Auckland and make that move for you, but you need to do this for me and stick around for a bit till I can finish what I want to finish, and then we can head off. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yep. It's a huge decision to make in such a short space of time. Vicky and Andrew have called in Tony for an emergency counselling session... Very, very well. Come on through. ...to help them get back on the right foot after this morning's clash. It's been a wee little while and a lot happens in a short period of time. So that's why we're here. Why don't the ladies start? Ladies start. Um, we've` we've had a few ups and downs. We had a little argument. It's nothing too serious. Well, it wasn't an argument, was it? It was a` It was a conversation. That got a little out of control maybe. Yeah. Vick's been misinterpreting a lot of things I've said, and thinking that I'm belittling her, when I'm really not. I'm hoping that we can find some ways to communicate effectively better without snapping at each other. I think that our relationship, um... We definitely need to make sure that we do give each other space. I know that we both agree that we definitely have to work on our communication. Sometimes when we spend too much time together is when we tend to bite each others heads off. Trying to cram, like, month-worth of relationship into, like, a week of getting to know someone... And man, Vick pisses me off, and I piss Vick off sometimes. Mm. We got married two weeks ago. It feels like we've been married a year. We're all emotionally drained. And so these hurdles and these challenges and these arguments, as you've described them ` they are completely normal. What is going to work with you guys is space and time ` for any relationship, it's important. Respecting your sense of self and celebrating that difference and how it then complements each other to come together to` to really support that strong relationship. So, in terms of going forward, start off with the three things that are awesome about Andrew. Three things. (LAUGHS) Awesome Andrew. No, um, Andrew is very caring. He even went to the store and bought me... (LAUGHS) Ladies stuff. Ladies stuff, which I thought was really nice. He's quite positive most of the time. Like if you` If I suggest, 'Let's go do something,' he'll be like, 'Yeah! Yeah, let's do it.' Like, there's many lovely things about him, really. Aw. Having the experts there made a big difference, like, with what we're saying and having us listen to each other properly and things like that. And hopefully that will make a big difference. I guess I'm feeling a lot more positive about me and Vicky. Right now, we are back to sort of being able to talk about stuff again, which is cool. I'm not sure exactly where she's at, but I'm confident that we're going in the right direction. Talk, be honest with each other, take the time. Be respectful of yourselves; be respectful of each other. Sweet. OK? OK. OK. Vicky and Andrew's counselling session might help them mend their ways, but with Claire away at a funeral, Dom's nerves have bought him to the brink. I'm here on me own. Claire's not been here for days. And Claire texts me and said, 'Dom, I want to recoup. I'm feeling really bad. I think I'm recuperating better in another flat.' So I've replied, 'Yeah, that's fine. That's fine.' Lying. But inside I was really hurt. I've felt Claire had been slowly distancing herself from me, and I guess that's what kind of made me crack a little bit. And then five minutes later, I sort of, like, sent off a text to a mate ` it was a general rant, really having a go at relationships and how they are frustrating. It was just a cathartic release. It was really immature of me. It was a dumb thing to do. So I've thought that I sent this text to my mate, but I didn't ` I sent it to Claire. It's all my (BLEEP) fault. I didn't want Claire to see that. I am absolutely mortified. Oh, look, Alexandra. Whoa, pink. Or... Okarito? Okarito goes well with my favourite ` Opononi. (SPLASHING, YELLING) Ooh, yeah, splash of Opononi, maybe. Oh, look, Alexandra. Whoa, pink. Or... Hot Water Beach. Blue ` very relaxing. Or Alexandra. Hot Water Beach. Mm. Or Alexandra? It's like pinky, bluey. It's not very kitcheny. No, but it is pretty... nursery. Mm. Nursery? Or` Or we could go Rangitikei River. (GASPS) Oh! (LAUGHS) You little beauty! (BOTH CHUCKLE) So the nursery. The colours of New Zealand ` only from Dulux. At their Auckland hotel suite, Claire has been left reeling after a text from Dom. One of my dearest friends passed away, so I had to go and fly to Napier for the day. I got a text from Dom, which I shouldn't have got ` he was texting someone else, saying a few things about me and how unhappy he was. Getting the text was huge, because I did come into this experiment 110%. There's no other reason for me to be here but to find the person that was going to be my husband. And now Tony has arranged an urgent session to discuss the state of their relationship. So this is an opportunity for us to check in and see how things are going. So who would like to start? I think the floor is yours, Claire. Oh, I was going to say you can, cos... I think you've got a bit more to say than I have. No, not really. Well, about... Oh, Dom and I have decided to split because we're not each other's type. Physically, everything. So that's pretty much it. That's all I've got to say. OK. But I think what you need to say is, you've decided to move out of the flat. Oh, yeah. Yeah, definitely I've moved` Yeah, I'm packed, ready to go. That's it. Oh, I see. I'm out of here. Yeah, we're not each other's... Yeah, we're` It's mutual. Like, he feels the same. I-I-I'm` I've got to say, I'm disappointed that you don't want to carry on living together, because I kind of wanted to get to the end of the road. But I totally understand what you're doing, and I completely respect it. Hmm. OK. He's not my type. I'm not his type. So what's the point? Wasting... Can you tell me about your type? Not him. Everything I've` Yeah. Just... Yeah. I totally get it. Yeah, like, we've talked about it, so we're on the same page. So... OK. This is obviously a big decision that you've both made. You've both talked it through. So how are you feeling about this, Dom? I completely get where Claire is coming from. Totally. This has been a fantastic experience for me, Claire. It really has. Mm. Gone great. Hey, it's been so wonderful to get to know you. It really, really has. Delighted to meet you. I'm Dominic. Hi, I'm Claire. Hello. Hello. Lovely to see you. I wanted it to work because I came into this with an open heart. So, you don't have a day job? Oh, f`! I'm sorry! No, you are not sorry! And there we go. Straight in your mouth; keep it moving and blow out through your nose. (LAUGHS) But getting sick, going to my best friend's funeral... I've been through so much the last couple of days and, really, that was the final straw, getting that text. He's done the damage. No coming back from that. I feel like a weight's lifted off my shoulders. We've made the right decision, so, gone. I'm saddened. I'm saddened that Claire wanted to leave the apartment. I totally understand why. There wasn't that emotional attachment for us. It was like two friends trying to make something work that probably wasn't going to work. The texting thing ` it's not the kind of thing I would normally do, and I'm just really embarrassed. I'm very optimistic about finding the right woman one day, and I am sad that it wasn't Claire. And, you know, if I could turn the clock back, I would. I'm going to be forever regretful, wondering what could have happened. (SOMBRE MUSIC) While sadly, it's the end of the line for Claire and Dom's relationship, love birds Brett and Angel are pushing the boundaries in theirs. Hey, um, Angel Fulljames, you know how we've been talking about, um, you know, all the testing I've been doing for my diabetes? Yeah. I think it's time we do yours, eh? Test your blood sugars. I'm so nervous. I'll do it for you. So I've been a type one diabetic since 1990, so 27 years. Yeah, I don't know any different, cos I've had it my whole life. It's just something that a lot of people in the world have to deal with. So Angel now as well. (LAUGHS) So, um, what's your strongest hand? We'll start with your strongest hand first. I'm always, like, trying to learn more about how I can, like, help him out or something like that. And I've seen him, like, hit lows and go pale, and I'm like, 'Oh my god,' like, 'What can I do?' So, the first time we do it, we might not get any blood. So we might have to do it again. (LAUGHS) But we'll go nice and soft. It doesn't hurt. It doesn't hurt. I get quite faint with blood and, like, needles and stuff like that. I'm really like woe and go. (LAUGHS) You don't have to watch. Is it going to hurt? Ah! You've got to keep still. (LAUGHS) Ow! Oh my god. You're a wuss. (LAUGHS) Ow! Can you feel it? Oh. And, yeah, it's just going to be good to learn and make sure he knows that, like, I care about it. Cos I definitely do, and I'm fascinated by it. Three, two, one. 6.8. Is that perfect? Yeah! The positives of moving in together is that it's an opportunity to actually continue to grow within the relationship. It's really important that the couples remain focused, that they're here to work on their marriage and their relationship ` don't get drawn into the drama that's going on around them. But Bel and Haydn have had another dramatic bust-up this morning. How you been? Um, yeah, not too bad. We've heard bits, and it's, like... Yeah. We thought we'd come and see what the full story was. Yeah. Thanks for coming. The low down. So, Haydn has left. Yep, I've heard. We have arguments,... Yeah. ...which is normal. But this got too escalated. He ends up saying things that are really, really hurtful. We had another disagreement. Um, we tend to have a lot of those. But it's the way that we try and resolve our disagreements and our conflict that gets in our way. His way of dealing with it is just to be really angry and mean and attack where it hurts and then leave. So he's got his stuff and gone, but I know he's in anger, and when he calms down, it's a different story. Um, and I don't think that anyone should take that. I'm very black and white about everything. If there's an issue, like, I'll just address it. I think with a lot of the other couples, they don't. They kind of tip toe around things and there's, like... Starts all this drama and these issues, and everything kind of starts to bubble and it comes to the surface, and they just hate each other. I've noticed he throws, like, grenades into other relationships as well, and, like, walks away. So, like, with us, he's been in Aaron's ear the whole time like, 'Ben's bad news,' like all this stuff. I don't know why, but he really dislikes me. And like, this whole Vicky and Andy thing. I've got nothing` I haven't even heard anything. What kind of a guy messages another guy's wife, and then has, like, the audacity to call him and be like, 'Your wife's this and that.' I've kind of pushed everybody away, because that's what Haydn and I discussed was best for our relationship, was to cut all communication with the other couples. He made me feel awful for finding out he didn't cut that communication. I'm in this position right now where he's packed and gone, and I have to make this decision whether I now pack and go as well, or do I stay and hope he calms down and we work it out? I feel like I'm trying a lot, and I'm compromising a lot. He needs to come down a little bit, and he needs to meet me on my level as well. So I don't know what to do. Aw! Sorry. It's all right. For Haydn, the relationship has got so rocky that he's left the hotel and headed home for some time out. If she hears something she doesn't like, she's just claiming she's going to bail. So it's like walking on egg shells, and that's quite hard to build a relationship on. I decided this morning that enough was enough. I've just said, 'Well, I'm just going to take the day and think about it and have some space.' It has been a rollercoaster. I mean, from the beginning ` the ups and downs. I'm kind of at that point now ` the ups are good, but the downs are just blown right out of proportion. I'm just tired, and I'm just` I'm just kind of over it. I'm sick of playing games and being told that she's leaving and then not actually leaving. And now apparently, it's me that's not trying. So, yeah, I don't know. Just going to take some time out. Some of our newlyweds have been struggling with living together in hotel suite. But with a new day comes a new opportunity... Oh my God. There's so many goodies. So many goodies. ...in the form of a surprise for two of our couples. We got this envelope this morning. I haven't read it yet, so... What? I thought that I would read it out to you. SING-SONGY: 'We've got a surprise!' Here we go. I'll let you read. With the moving in phase of the experiment proving a challenge, the experts have selected both couples for unique dating opportunities to strengthen their connections. Surrender dates will be hugely important for these two couples trying to work through their issues, because it will give them an opportunity to fully put their trust in their partner, and it will show that they can give up control. READS: 'Today, you are going on a date. But this date is different. READS: This is a surrender date. This date is about compromising and learning about each other. 'This part of the experiment is designed to allow your relationship to grow, 'but it will also test how willing you are to make sacrifices 'and to put the needs of your partner first. Vicky will be in charge of today's date. (EXHALES) It's really important that the person that is having the date arranged for them trusts in the experience, but most importantly, trust in their partner. 'Aaron, today is your day to make all the decisions. 'You get to design a day that is full of exactly what you want to do. There will be dire consequences for those that can't step out of their wants and needs and open themselves to the wants and needs of their partner. 'Andrew, you simply need to surrender. 'All the decisions will be made by Vicky, and you must say yes to everything. 'You won't have any input on this date. 'This part of the experiment is designed to allow your relationship to grow, 'but it will also test how willing you are to make sacrifices 'and to put the needs of your partner first.' 'Pani and Tony.' We have had a rough couple of days, so maybe just keep it a bit light-hearted. Maybe just have a bit of fun together. Well, did you bring that onesie? (BOTH LAUGH) Yeah, I did actually. Your face was... It's sweet. (LAUGHS) It's her day (LAUGHS) to make date plans. So... we might be jumping off the Sky Tower. I'm getting my nails did, and I'm getting my toes did, potentially. God forbid, might be getting my hair did, but that's not going to happen. So, um, we'll do that another day. Smart ass. All right, cool. What are we doing? Um... Since we've been back in Auckland I've kind of called the shots on what we do, where we go, who we see. So I think it's good for, you know, Aaron to kind of pick something for the day. So yeah, you got a towel? Yep. And you've got some togs? Don't bring anything valuable as well. I guess we can just lock stuff up in the car, so... So, today we're going canyoning. I don't know what he's going to be like doing an activity that he's not familiar with or new to. I just hope that Ben's on board to do some compromising. There might be a bit of hesitation to begin with, but, yeah, I think he'll have fun once we get started. Trust is essential for every relationship. The surrender dates are a fantastic opportunity to see what really rocks the boat of the person that's arranging the date, but also an opportunity for the other person to experience what their needs and expectations and wants are for the future. Cheer up. # Cheer up, Charlie! # Shush. Shush, shush, shush. Just let me` Just chill. I am chill. You're the un-chilled one. Do you want to just take it down? Just take it down. We've got some strong-willed, confident people that are taking part in this experiment. There will be dire consequences for those that can't step out of their wants and needs and open themselves to the wants and needs of their partner. So, thoughts? (CHUCKLES LIGHTLY) Yeah. All right. Happy? Yeah, it's all right. Yeah. I've never done canyoning before. I've done a bit of abseiling, but that's about it. So, yeah, we'll see how I go. (GENTLE MUSIC) Trying to build that romantic, marriage-type relationship. Too tight? No. But also just seeing how he is outside of his comfort zone. (LAUGHS) How are you feeling? A little bit anxious. After our runway shoot, are you nervous? Yeah. Yeah? I think this is the day I die. Usually, I'm, like, in full control of what I do day-to-day. I don't really step out of my comfort zone that much. Um, I'm kind of content in what I like and that kind of thing, and I just do those things. It will be hugely important to see how the participants open themselves up to this part of the experiment. OK guys, let's go. They will either let their partner fully take control and open themselves up to this, or we might see them put up some walls, which could be very detrimental for the relationship. There's going to be some trepidation, but I hope he enjoys it. I think he will. In general, I quite like surprising my partners and doing stuff without telling them. So being able to figure out if he is kind of receptive to that, I guess, is going to be a major thing. (LAUGHS) I think we'd kind of hit a point where we were getting along great and hanging out and having fun together, but it kind of like` that's just kind of where it came to a standstill. It wasn't really progressing any further. Are you nervous for your man? Uh, not overly. I think he's going to be all right. I think he's probably more nervous than he's letting on though. Gosh, I hope it goes well from here out. But it's going to take some work from both sides, and I'm not prepared to do all the work. You know, it has to come from both of us. So I'm not saying that he's not up to that, I'm just saying that I hope he is, and I'd like to see that he can do that. (POIGNANT MUSIC) (MUSIC CONTINUES) Did Aaron do a good job, um, canyoning? No. (LAUGHS) Um, did he do a good job choosing this? Yes, he did. Yeah, I loved it. Got it. Ah! Sayonara! It's good. Good to hear. (MAJESTIC MUSIC) In Auckland, Vicky and Andrew are heading out on their surrender date, and Vicky has chosen something quite challenging for Andrew. The benefit of a surrender date is that it's all about trust. If one person is not able to really give into the surrender date and relinquish control, it could be very damaging for the relationship. Yeah, definitely. I like it quite perfect. Sure. Yep. I'm pretty nervous. Apprehensive is a good word for how I'm feeling. If you clean up the sides, you can see where it could be tidied. OK. You know, please her, and then please yourself as well. It's her day, mate. She's making the calls. It's really important that the person that is having the date arranged for them trusts in the experience, but most importantly, trust in their partner, because, potentially, it may well create walls that will create challenges for them both. (LAUGHS) Wish me luck. (TENSE MUSIC) In summer? Like, oh my gosh, I don't` Like, probably a year. So, like, I'm just pretty` Yeah, you're doing a pretty good job, right? (LAUGHS) Swish. I hope` I hope that she does kind of, like, box it. That would really` Really? That would really make me happy. Really? Yeah, you'd love it too, because it's so tidy. (LAUGHS) OK. All right. (LAUGHS) Excuse my silence while I just contemplate this whole situation. Are you getting done as well, Vick? No, there's not enough time for me, unfortunately. But that's OK. I really think we should go shorter on the sides, eh. Can we go a little bit shorter on the sides, like a tiny bit? Yeah. Is that all right, Andrew? How short are we talking? Like, just like... (SIGHS) Just, like` just a little bit or he might kill me. I'm really not enjoying the date so far. Uh, it would have been sweet if we were both doing that kind of stuff, but I didn't really think this was the case. I know this date is all about surrendering, but it's not a date ` it's just go for a haircut. What's on your mind? (BLEEP). (BLEEP) this. (LAUGHS) What? Oh my God. This is not how I like my hair, eh. (LAUGHS) (BLEEP). I was trying to grow it, and she just friggin' cut it off. (BLEEP). I'm having a sook. Sorry. Damn. Oh my God. Yeah, I reckon. Stop being sooky lala. Your hair. Let's cut your hair. I do need a trim. (GROANS) Oh my God, Vick. I don't mind trying to do compromises for Vicky, but... this isn't a compromise. Let's go. (CHUCKLES) Don't forget your hat. You knew I wasn't going to like that, Vick. She said she wouldn't get a haircut if I got her one, and I would never do that to her, and she's gone and got me one. Oh, it's so swish. It's so swish, Vick. That's a good thing. Hey? That's a good thing. I feel like half a man. I was surprised, and I was like, 'How old are you?' You don't behave like that in public; you don't behave like that in private. It's just, you know, I get that sometimes people lose it, but we've been married for two weeks. This is just getting right on my (BLEEP)ing nerves. Why would you start a date doing something like this? It's like` Look at this! It's like a frickin', like, bloody Johnny Bravo-type shit. Oh. She's done a nice job, but it's just not the style I'm into, so... (GROANS) I'm pretty (BLEEP) off. Give these to Vick. I'm out. The day seems to have gone a lot more smoothly for Ben and Aaron... so far. So how did your day go? How did I find it? It was pretty good. Um, like if surrender dates mean hot chips, views and canyoning, then give me one of those surrender dates every day. Sweet. How are you finding everything in general? It's fine. No complaints. Just fine? Yeah, it's fine. It's fun, like, I'm having fun. No complaints at all. What about you? Quite happy. Mm-hm. Hm. I feel like so far, I've given a lot and not taken much. Just the romantic side of it, I feel like there's no effort from him. There needs to be some give and take. I mean, like I said before, I think we're getting along well, and then I think, romantically, it is going to take some time of just getting to know each other. Yeah. Hmm. (SERIOUS PIANO MUSIC) I mean, he obviously is struggling with the fact that I'm not attracted to him. That makes him feel probably not that good, which isn't something that I want to do, but I can't` I have no control over that. Anything I'm doing that's pissing you off? Huh? Anything I do that pisses you off? No, not really. I think` No, you are fine. Nah, I think you're fine. I think you are still, like, a little bit, like, PDA-y. Like, I'm not really... I'm not like that, so... OK. But, no, you're fine. I don't` It's fine. I don't hate it, but I'm not the biggest fan either. (CHUCKLES) OK. Basically, he's too affectionate with me. It's not a weakness, but it's just something I don't like. The affection that he has for me is kind of encroaching in my space a little bit and, you know, I like my personal space. I'm not prepared to just keep putting myself back to` to kind of make everything happy, and that's where we're coming to the stale mate now. Well, I'm glad you liked it. Thank you. (BIRD SINGS) Up next ` Man, I'm so sick of this high pressure shit. The stress of the surrender date brings Andrew to desperation. I don't know what we need to do, but I don't see this working currently right now. And Ben and Aaron hit a wall. I feel like you're just giving me attitude at the moment. (TENSE MUSIC) Whatever. I'm going to go home, actually, because I think you actually need to, like, step back for a second, and you're kind of pissing me off. A haircut was the last straw for Andrew and his and Vicky's surrender date. The situation with our date ` he hit the roof. (CHUCKLES) Apparently, it was my fault, and, yeah, no apology as per yet. Andrew is just the type of person that's always the victim. Never his fault, always somebody else's fault. He's not very fun when he's angry. He's not very rational. But Vicky and Andrew aren't the only couple who have been pulled apart recently. Bel is also on her own after Haydn packed his bags yesterday. Yesterday, I was 50-50 whether I should go or stay. So I had to see if Haydn would come back. Still here. Haydn's not back. I'm just kind of waiting because, um, I kind of have in the back of my head that he might come around and he might end up coming back, and that's why I haven't left yet. As stubborn as I can be, and as much as I just want to pack and walk out, I don't want to let go of it. Hmm. But the sun is still shining on our love birds Brett and Angel. Hey, Bretty boy, I've got you a wee gift-a-roo. Aw, no, I don't accept gifts. Um, I feel like we've just really settled in to living with each other and just getting our life routine kind of on the go. I hope you like it. I'm actually real nervous. You're being too nice. I don't like this. (LAUGHS) I mean, it's not really natural to spend this` this much condensed amount of time with anyone. You're being far too nice. You've come in too hot. You need to calm down. There's 24/7 contact with each other and we don't want that to blow apart everything great that we have going now. Oh, whoa, they're red. Well, they match your hat. Oh! Every man loves a fresh pair of socks. We're just approaching it very realistically I think, and that's the way to go into this whole experiment, is to be realistic about it. As night falls, Andrew is trying to work out his frustrations in the kitchen. Today has been so tough. Man, I'm so sick of this high pressure shit. A little bit of cooking relief can, um` I think it, kind of, sort of, wipes your memory clean. Currently, she is at Ben and Aaron's ` I imagine having a vent. I don't know how I feel about her being there venting, because I'm mates with Ben and Aaron too, and hopefully, they can sort of see the logically side of me getting a haircut and not really liking it and maybe getting upset about it. I don't know what we need to do, but I don't see this working currently right now, to be fair, and I'm kind of giving up, um, trying. Next door, Vicky is indeed confiding in Ben and Aaron. How are your feelings on last night? Oh... About Andy. Andrew. Andrew, yeah. Andrew and the two of you. Oh, good. Because you haven't really talked yet, have you? Don't lie to me! (LAUGHTER) Usually, I wouldn't speak to her about that sort of thing with Aaron there, because Aaron is quite good friends with Andy, and I think she trusts me a lot more than Aaron. So I think she maybe felt a little bit ambushed. Everything's great. Yeah, when a woman says, 'Oh, it's good, it's fine. Everything is great,' it's not good. It's not fine; it's not great. Have you talked to him today? No, I haven't. Like, I mean` Like, I was up at 5.30. Yeah. And I had to leave before he even woke up, and then when I got back, he like bought me flowers and expected everything to be better. No, I don't know if that's the case. I don't think buying flowers is just like a, 'Oh cool, I hope everything's good now.' I don't know why, but it's weirdly worked out that me and Vicky are friends, and we're also weirdly kind of in similar situations with regards to our partners. For me and Aaron, it's hard as well, like... Well, yeah, of course. Because we don't know each other. It's hard for every couple, you know. I'm not saying it's not, but I'm just... I just think you have to, like, keep giving it, like... I know it can seem kind of draining, but I think you just have to keep giving it your all. Yeah. They're my favourite couple of all the couples, and I would love for both of them to be happy. It should be easy. Yeah, it shouldn't... It shouldn't be hard. Everything's quite hard. Like, relationships shouldn't be hard. If a relationship was hard, then you shouldn't really be in it, you know? How are you guys going, though? Like, your guys' relationship? Good or...? Pretty good. Yeah? Um, I feel like we're quite social at the moment. Like, we are constantly doing stuff, like, seeing each other and that kind of thing. Well, that's good. Yeah. That's why I think it's good for you and Andy to, like, do stuff, do your own thing as well, cos that's actually, like` realistically, that's how life is. Cos we need space. Yeah, like, I mean, you're not` In real life, you're not going to be, like, spending 24/7, every single minute of every day with each other. And I agree, but also, you've gotta spend a lot of time together to figure out if it's going to work and figure each other out. Like, do you know what I mean? Yeah, like... Yeah. Yeah, but, like, not too much time. The physical environment side of things is what differentiates a friendship from a relationship, and without that at the moment, it's, well` it is a friendship at this point. I mean, ultimately, Vick, like, you're my best mate in this entire thing. Yeah. And I don't want you to be upset about anything. Like, I want you to... No, of course. ...get as much and enjoy it` enjoy it as much as I am as well. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. I try not to overthink these things, but at the end of the day, I feel like Ben and Vicky are more of a couple than Ben and I are. Our couples are nearing the end of the living together phase of the experiment, and Aaron is feeling agitated because Ben didn't return home last night. I've been nothing but nice. I do things for him; I cook for him; I take him out. I` All the stuff, and I get repaid by ` we go out, and no contact from him all night. Come home; he doesn't come home. I message him to see if he's OK, where he is. I can see that he's seen the message ` no reply. Here we are, six hours later. He rings me like nothing has happened, and I feel like he's going to walk in the door any minute, and I'm just going to flip out, which I don't want to do, but... Yeah, I feel like it's gonna happen. You know, I keep trying to give him the benefit of doubt, and maybe it's just the stress of everything, and, you know, this and that. But it's been two weeks now. Like, I am in the same amount of stress that he is. I've got four weeks to decide if I'm going to leave my entire life behind and move up here for him. And right now, that's not going to happen. Aw, good luck, babe. Thanks. Hey. What's up? Hiya. Ugh. How was the night? Pretty insane, actually. Yeah? Yeah. See ya, Vick. I'm at my wits end at the moment, Ben. Why? (SIGHS) A multitude of things. I'm pretty tired and kind of hung-over today. Coming home to that, I'm just, like, not in the right headspace for it. RE last night? Well, starting from last night, yeah. I think that was just the straw that broke the camel's back. What? Um,... you didn't come home. Hmm. Um, text you to find out where you were ` no reply. Mm. Can see that you saw the message hours ago. Hmm. I went home, like, I don't see what the big deal is. Like, I went home to sleep. I can't be in this apartment with you, like, round the clock, mate. I just don't want to deal with him today. Um, the last thing I want to do is, like, have a fight with someone. I'm not even in the right, like, mind space to be doing that. I actually didn't do anything. Like, I just went out with my friends and had a good night. You knew I was going to be out last night. He needs to step into my shoes. We're going down to Christchurch in a few days. How would he feel if we went out with all my friends, I left and went to town without him ` didn't come home, didn't tell him where I was, and then rings him the next morning to say, 'Oh, can you come pick me up?' That would piss him off. So why does he feel like he can do it to me? I feel like you're just giving me attitude at the moment. Like, I'm trying to be honest with you and talk to you. Yeah. And you're basically just blowing me off, saying why I am wrong. Oh, you're not wrong. I'm not saying you're wrong, and I've apologized to you already. So then why are you giving me so much attitude? I don't know what you want me to do. Like, you knew I was going to have a big night last night. It's not just last night. Oh, so it's... Like I said, that was just the straw that broke the camel's back. OK, well, prior to this then? The whole` This whole week ` this whole two weeks,... Right. ...I feel like I'm putting in so much effort, and I'm getting nothing in return. I'm taking you out; I'm going out to do things; I'm cooking for you; I'm in charge of driving us around everywhere; I'm taking us out for breakfast; I'm taking you out on these dates, and what am I getting back? Do you think I'm just sitting here? Like, what do you think I'm doing? Well, tell me the last time you've done something for me. What do you mean? When have you taken me out? When have you...? Are you serious? I arranged for you, last night, to go out with my friends. Like, I arranged that for you. I didn't have to do that. They didn't have to do that either. So don't act like we don't do anything for you. I don't know how much more attention you can give, like, another person. Like, I'm with this guy 24/7. 'Ben's the problem. Ben's the problem. Ben's the problem.' But in actual fact is, like, I find the things that he does, like, the way he is emotionally ` I find that a problem. (TENSE MUSIC) Whatever. I'm going to go home, actually,... because I think you actually need to, like, step back for a second, and you're kind of pissing me off. At their Auckland hotel, relationship problems have come to a head for Ben and Aaron. Well, tell me the last time you've done something for me. Are you serious? I arranged for you, last night, to go out with my friends. Like, I arranged that for you. I didn't have to do that. They didn't have to do that either. So don't act like we don't do anything for you. (TENSE MUSIC) Whatever. I'm going to go home, actually, because I think you actually need to, like, step back for a second, and you've kind of pissing me off. SIGHS: Oh my God. (TENSE MUSIC BUILDS) Ben, what do you` what do you want out of this? What are you` what are you here for? (GROANS) I` Yeah, I've just come to marry you, like, as a joke, mate. That's not what I'm saying, Ben. Well, that's what you're implying. No, it's not. I asked you a question ` no implication. I don't know what you're expecting me to do. Like, I literally` I don't even know you. What I'm (BLEEP)ing expecting, Ben... Here having drinks last night, and you just (BLEEP)ing leave. You just walk out. Yeah, cos I was going out! Yeah! So was I! Yeah. Was there any (BLEEP)ing thought of, 'Oh, do you maybe want to come with me? 'Do you maybe want to go with these guys?' There's just zero thought for me whatsoever. You and I were not going out together last night. You just walked out the door. Last night was my night to step away from you. Why would I invite you out? How much space do you need? Oh my God! A lot, obviously, because I'm sitting in front of you. So then, where's the relationship in that, if we are just spending all of our (BLEEP)ing time apart? You know I'm a social person, mate. I get that. So, I literally` That is actually my life, OK? I'm still going to live my life, and you have to adapt to it, right? No. That's where you're wrong. You need to adapt to my life as well. I'm not just going to do everything you (BLEEP)ing want to do, and come in here and just go along with your life. You don't have a life up here. You're not from here. Of course we haven't done anything you want to do. We're going to your house this week. Yeah, but how would you feel if, when we go down to Christchurch, we go out with my friends. We're at a house; we are having some drinks with my friends, and I just leave and just leave you there! I really wouldn't care. How the (BLEEP) do you think that makes me feel? I genuinely would not care if you did that. That's actually how I am. I don't really give a shit. I'm here now, am I not? I'm spending my Sunday with you right now. We've got the whole day together. I had all day with you yesterday, and I went out one time with my friends last night. He thinks my issue is that he didn't come home, which it's not. We don't have to be in the same bed and in the same apartment every day together, but my issue is the communication around that. That's fine if he needs to go and stay somewhere else. Not a problem ` I get that. But tell me that's what is going on. That's why I can't understand why you'd want to spend more time` like, more time with me. Like, it's literally already doing my head in, like... I have four weeks to decide if I'm going to drop my entire (BLEEP)ing life for you. My entire (BLEEP)ing life ` my friends, my family, my job, my study, to come up here for you. (SIGHS) That's why I'm trying to spend time with you ` to see if this is actually going to work out. Well, it's not going to work out if you keep cornering me and literally making me spend 24/7 with you. That is not going to work for me. I don't` I hate that. On a Sunday morning. You're ruining my Sunday, man. God's sake. You've ruined my (BLEEP)ing Sunday. Cool, so we're even. (SOMBRE PIANO MUSIC) That's why I don't bring things up with him, because... I feel like I'll just get snapped at. So I just leave it, and that's why this stuff has built up till now. (SIGHS) It's hard to bring that stuff up when... there's quite a short fuse, I guess. Seriously, I had the best night of my life last night, and you just (BLEEP) it. OK, thanks. Yeah, thanks. Cool. Good to know. Right, well, I guess I'll leave you to your day then. Sweet, see ya. Okay. (SOMBRE PIANO MUSIC CONTINUES) I think that coming home to your husband ` surely that's a fundamental thing. You know, how can anyone sit there and think, 'Oh, I just didn't come home, and I didn't tell him.' How can anyone sit there and think that's a reasonable thing to do and an OK thing to do? (CRIES) (EXHALES) (BREATHES SHAKILY) It went down exactly how I thought it would go. (MELANCHOLY MUSIC) You know, I've said that I'm going to stick out the six weeks, but I don't know how I can be spoken to like that and to just be OK with it. (BREATHES SHAKILY) If that's how it still is at the end ` no way in hell am I going to be uplifting my life for that. (UPBEAT MUSIC) ...when Jay-Jay, Dom and Randell catch up with the stars of Married At First Sight NZ... Tomorrow night, the couples embark on the next phase of the experiment ` home visits. (LAUGHS) What are you doing? There he is. Don't eat me. The experience may bring them closer. Welcome to Lincoln. Whoo! It's just nice to see him, like, light up and do the things he loves. Like, he's absolutely fizzing. But as reality bites,... So you say Aaron's, like, really caring and really considerate and stuff like that. Do you feel like you reciprocate that? ...they will face some life-changing decisions. They could be throwing themselves into something that could be a freaking disaster. I can't really be bothered anymore. Like, I just feel like a relationship shouldn't be this hard. Copyright Able 2017