Previously on Married At First Sight ` Our couples met for the very first time... Hey, how are you? Hi. Aaron. Ben, nice to meet you. on their wedding day. Nice to meet you Vicky. You look beautiful. He seems like a guy that I need. They've honeymooned together,... Cheers. Cheers. Am I living in a dream, like is this to good to be true? met each other's families, Don't eat me! It is... different. So, you say Aaron's like really caring and really considerate. Do you feel like you reciprocate that? And some have stirred up trouble,... I feel that way with my one as well. at explosive parties. So when he comes to me and says that he's in it for the fame? Who said that? Get off my husband's dick for two seconds, mate. What the (BLEEP) are you on? Tonight in the final therapy sessions,... Here we go, babes. Final time. our couples put everything on the table. It feels like a bit of trust has been broken. Trust and loyalty ` if you mess those two things up, I don't really want a bar of you. As their vow renewals draw closer,... Do you want to be more than friends? they all face a huge decision. Do you feel you still have the same level of commitment as you did when you first came into the experiment? Will they recommit? I feel like I'd be setting myself up for failure and an unhappy relationship. Or will they leave? We have to talk. As uncomfortable as it's going to be, it needs to happen, and it needs to happen today. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) Able 2017 (POP MUSIC) ...with Jay-Jam, Dom and Randell for breakfast on The Edge, bringing you Married At First Sight NZ. (WONDROUS MUSIC) It's a new day for our remaining couples, and tonight, they face their final therapy sessions. Let's do some therapy before therapy. Oh! (LAUGHS) With only a week to go in the experiment, it's a last chance for them to raise any outstanding issues, and get our experts' advice before they each make their final decision ` whether to renew their vows. One couple unfazed by the upcoming therapy session is Brett and Angel. You chuck it out of the paper, eh? (LAUGHS) There'll be a little plastic bag at the bottom that has water. Oh, yeah. Oh, I know I've gotta cut off the stems, cos it rejuvenates the ends. It was our one-month anniversary yesterday and Brett told me he was going for a run, but actually the cheeky bugger went out and bought me some flowers. That was really cute. No one's ever bought me flowers. I cried. (LAUGHS) Oh, F a D! Just cut one at the top. I'll be here all day! Oh, no! (LAUGHS) I'm gonna get` (LAUGHS) Yeah you probably need clips or something. Oh no, that's so embarrassing. I don't wanna let them go. Like that? There you go. Done. Ah! Therapy tonight and there's not really that much that me and Brett are gonna really have to talk about. I mean, we've got the week apart coming up and, yeah. Other than that, nothing has really changed from the first time. Maybe we've, um, aged a bit? (LAUGHS) Happy one month, babealicious. The relationship is right on track. Also feeling relaxed about tonight's therapy session, are Vicky and Andrew. So therapy tonight. What do you reckon? Love it and hate it. Not looking forward to it. Don't need it, do you need it? I don't think so. Not concerned. Haven't got anything to really bring up. I think we're just pretty cruisey. We're like, two more days. It's Friday, we leave on Sunday. We've got a week apart, like... there's not really much that we can put on the table that's gonna make this week apart any easier. I think I'm looking forward to it. (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) I'll miss ya, but like` Will you? Yeah. We'll probably still be friends after all this, but who knows. I mean we'll definitely be friends to say the least, and whether we continue to progress further from there, that'd be nice. I'm totally willing to continue to see how it goes. I don't have nothing to really say, to be honest with you. I think we're sweet, to be honest. We are sweet. Pretty, like` Nothing to go over in our relationship. Yeah. He is a great guy, honest, but I do care about Andy. Like, I think maybe he wants to push it a bit more than I do. I think we're on the same page, to be honest. How are you feeling about stuff at the moment? Um, yeah, pretty good. I'm feeling way better today. Had a bit of talk with myself to just kinda, like, step back from everything and kinda get back into it. I've come back to, obviously, today a little bit happier. Yesterday went and got a haircut, I went and got my nose pierced, Patty and Theo came over. Oh, yeah. And we had some bubbles. We just chatted. We talked about what we're gonna wear to Halloween this year, cos that's coming up. Like, cos we are gonna do, like, a trio. Cos, you know, it's like Pretty Committee stuff. Right. So there's like the Pretty Committee Halloween party at Devonport this year. OK. And... Cos my birthday's, like, two days before Halloween. (SIGHS) Yeah, it is. Well, where are you going to be? Well, I don't know. Hopefully with you somewhere. Just come up to Auckland. Come to Pretty Committee. What about my friends then? OK. Well, I don't wanna come to Christchurch for the Pretty Committee Halloween party. Seriously, I'm not missing that party. It's like the party of the month. (CHUCKLES) The party of the month? This is my birthday of the year. Mm-hm. He's obviously in a better mood today, I think the time away yesterday has done some good. I think last night actually did help quite a bit, to be honest. Cos I haven't caught up with Dan during the day. So he was doing his shift last night and was meant to be on with the volunteer, and I was like, 'Actually, I'm kinda really missing work a little bit, and, like, just some normality,' so he likes to come out, and then the volunteer didn't show up. So yeah. So it was just us two. It was really good. Yeah, so I got about 3.30. I'm not particularly chuffed with, um, yesterday. I mean I was already feeling pretty low this week anyways, and he just decided he was going to spend the day, and the night right up until 3AM in the morning with his ex partner. So I don't know anyone that would be, like, cool with that. Yeah, it was a good shift. Few drunks, a few car crashes. Initially it was just a coffee, which I wasn't even cool about it in anyway. It turned into the night and turned into 3.30 in the morning. So, I just think there's a little bit of a double standard. You know, like, two weeks ago Aaron has this huge meltdown that I didn't` that I stayed at my house. That's all I was doing ` staying at my house. But he's allowed to go spend the day and the whole night with his ex-partner. That doesn't sound` that ain't right. How are you feeling about therapy tonight? Do you think they'll bring up dinner? Dinner party? Probably. It's like that's affected our relationship for the last week, cos I haven't wanted to be here. Like, I've wanted to get away from it, because of, like, when you're attacked by someone, you know, like, I'm the victim. It's just been super high stress in the last couple of days, and we're very different people and how we deal with that sort of thing. I know we talked about it, and I know you said that, you know, 'Don't take it personally.' I've tried not to, but it's just yeah, it's hard when it's like... you know, we've hardly talked in the last couple of days. It's just like` What? ...again, like I'm not taking it personally. I'm not. But it's still hard when you're just like, 'ugh'. 'Where are things at?' And rah-rah-rah. So, we're good? Yep. Good. I feel like he's kinda missed the mark on a lot of things. There is going to be issues that I'm going to bring up tonight that I think need to be addressed. I expect that this last session is going to be a difficult session, it's going to be a challenging session. This is their last opportunity to have those difficult conversations, and it won't be a passive process. It'll be one that will be facilitated by Pani and I. ANGEL: Here we go, babes. Final time. Oh, hi. Evening, how are you? Hello, how are you? Hi. It's really important for the couples to come into this final therapy session open, honest and transparent. How are you two doing? Same as always. Good, yeah. Oh, come on, give me something different. Everything's just going smooth sailing, eh. So, um, yeah. How about we start off then, dinner party. We'll get it out of the way. I personally thought it was quite childish. I just feel very fortunate we haven't been caught up in any of it. You would've had no idea of the role of impact that you guys had in the dynamic that was going on. What you were doing throughout the evening is you were diffusing it, you were de-escalating it by your presence and by your relationship. At one point you were in the middle, the heart of almost what was potentially going to be a little bit of a` well, it was a standoff, but it was just this absolute glow of the Brett and Angel land that kinda just meant, well, we can't be angry with other people or each other because they're right in front of us. Are you aware of the role that you had? Were you doing it on purpose? Or was it just`? I don't know if I was aware of that like role in particular. But, obviously, I knew there were certain, say, recipes in the room that weren't good ingredients together. Your husband did a fine job, and your wife did an outstanding job. So well done you guys. It really made you appreciate how strong it is ` what you've got. What is it that you've got? Tell us more. How do we all get it? Well, we just got on the honeymoon and turned our phone down, you know? And we just focused on each other and we also, we've just been living in the now. We're both just positive people and choose not to get involved in negativity, really. Yeah. Yeah. Realising what me and Brett have created as a unit, and just how we are in such a great frame of mind, it's` yeah, it's pretty awesome. So, you have a week apart coming up. (LAUGHS) Yeah. Yeah. Were you just about to clap then? No, I was like... A week apart! I was like, oh my God, like this is crazy. It's just so weird. To think that we've like reached this point, I just can't believe the journey we've had. It's almost feels surreal. (POIGNANT MUSIC) It's just going to be real good to like, I think, reset and appreciate each other on another level. Yeah, I guess there's a reason why you guys are doing it, and you've done us well so far. So, we'll just` we'll do it! We'll do it for you guys. You haven't put a foot wrong with us, so. Thank you for giving` for having faith in us, but also having faith in the process, and just committing to the relationship, because you got exactly the relationship that you deserve, which I'm sure for many people watching this, they will be pretty jealous. (BOTH LAUGH) Nah, thank you to you guys as well. We look forward to the next step and getting back to normal life. It's gonna be good. Wonderful. Well, good to see you anyway. Thank you so much. Toni and Pani, they were an important part of our journey, but it's great to hear how much we are also an important part. So, it did feel good. It really felt like we're on the right track. All right. OK, all the best. See ya! See? Even leaving hands together, honestly. (ANGEL AND BRETT LAUGH) Hi. How are ya? Nice to see you. Good. Nice to see you. I didn't really have any expectations of tonight. Apparently, we're good. I think we are both on the same page. Come on in. Something that has been kind of playing on mind the last couple days is just certain issues that me and Aaron kind of have to face together. Busy couple of days and certainly an eventful week. Um, where would you like to start? You go. Oh, come on, you can't just put it on me like that. You go. (SIGHS) No, I want you to start. No. Gosh, OK. Well, Ben has had some time away and he's feeling much better today, so that's good. I feel like he's back to himself, yeah. So, time away? You've had a bit of a difficult patch? With the whole experiment and being involved with other couples and that kind of thing, it was just` it got too much for me and I just needed to take a step back from it. So, Aaron, how was that experience for you? It's been hard because, you know, we talked about it and he talked about, 'This is what's going on'. He's really stressed out. He just needs to take a step back. It's nothing personal against me. If I'd pissed him off, he'd tell me, I know that. I try and respect that and give him that space. It has, yeah, just been difficult because we deal with things in very different ways. So I wanna be there and try and help out and offer help and 'What can I do?' Whereas, you kind of want to just get back from it all. I think Ben was, in his own way, trying to take care of you, you know? By saying, 'Look, I'm feeling a little bit out of sorts. I don't want it to hurt you or upset you. 'I'm gonna remove myself from the situation. I'm going to let you know it's not about you.' So Ben, how are you feeling at the moment? Uh... it was probably the hardest week I've had so far in the entire experiment. We had a group dinner, which was fabulous, and that kind of set the tone for the whole week going forward, yeah. Tell us a little bit about how the dinner was for you? Either of you. You can start this time. Um... (SIGHS) I think it was like a long time coming that particular dinner, that particular, I guess, showdown, but by and by, I'm pretty happy with the fact that it has been addressed now. As a couple, we were OK at that dinner. Like, I wasn't particularly thrilled, like I think Aaron potentially could have said more like to support me or kind of back me up and that circumstance and situation. Do you think you needed backing up? (LAUGHS) Not really, but it's kind of just nice to show like a united front as like a couple, because usually if you are saying something and then your spouse is remaining silent, it almost shows they're kind of neutral or they disagree with you. You're not a confrontational person and that kind of thing, I know that, but I kind of hoped that you would have put that aside and just backed me the whole time, but you kind of didn't. I guess it just comes down to the fact that I'm very much a peace keeper. You know, if I don't like someone or someone has pissed me off, I generally will not make a big thing out of it. I will just kind of like, oh yeah, I'm not going to spend any time with that person. The second point ` he said that, in fact, it was you that said that I was fake. Like, I have actually read the messages between you and Haydn, and they're not particularly like, pro-me. Like, Haydn obviously wasn't just saying to you, 'Hey, Ben's fake', and he was just bitching about me and you weren't doing anything about it, and that's again like you not really sticking up for me or having my back, so. Well, I mean, yeah, I'm sorry you feel that way. I just, you know, I guess it's` I guess again it comes down to that case of, like, he's got these opinions, he's throwing them at me and he doesn't know us, he doesn't know what our relationship is like behind closed doors, so I didn't really value that opinion. So, I wasn't gonna go into it and get into an argument with him and be like, 'Well, actually Ben's done this, and Ben's done that, 'and, I think, he's not that rah-rah-rah,' Because it was more of just like, 'Well, actually I don't really value what you're saying that much so...' I'm sorry you feel that way. I know but you` the conversation still carries on. You still like perpetuate it and still like carry on. If literally, if someone messaged me and was like, 'Aaron's this, that, and the other thing,' like, 'What the hell, mate? Cut that out'. Like, hell no. And I feel like that's kind of broken like a` there's like been a bit of a trust broken there. I don't` and loyalty, actually. Trust and loyalty, which are two massive things for me. The last couple weeks of even knowing you, both of those have been kind of shattered to a couple of pieces. So, there's a big issue there. Kind of deal breaker things. Like, if you mess those two things up, in even just a relationship or a friendship, like I don't really want a bar of you. And yesterday, I needed the day` just a day away from everything. I don't know why, but you kind of opted to use that time to kind of spend with your ex-partner, which is again like this whole other (SIGHS) like shitty, shitty thing to do. Like, I just think it's really crap. I think I would be lying if I said I was feeling positive. Ultimately, for me in a relationship, loyalty and honesty are pretty major cornerstones in a relationship for me, and if I don't have those, it makes it very, very difficult. (TENSE MUSIC) This last week that you know has been like the hardest week, (SIGHS) the hardest week of the experiment for myself, and yesterday like I needed the day` just a day away from everything. I don't know why, but you kind of opted to use that time to spend with your ex-partner, which is again, like this whole other... (SIGHS) like shitty, shitty thing to do. Like, I just think it's really crap. (SIGHS) Ultimately, for me in a relationship, loyalty and honesty are pretty major corner stones in a relationship for me and if I don't have those, it makes it very, very difficult. Initially it was just like a coffee, which I wasn't that stoked about, but that's fine, but it ended up being a whole, like, right into about 3.30 in the morning thing. I never said like, 'Yeah I'm really OK with it or cool with it.' (SIGHS) You kind of just, I don't know, you did you, and I was kind of just... But there are also some events where, I know for you, Ben, that you also chose to hang out with your friends and do different bits and pieces, and you were socialising elsewhere outside the relationship, and that's something that we spoke about at our last session. But the issue, what I'm hearing, is around trust and loyalty. Yep. Yeah, I agree, but I think like also, in fairness, like hanging out with my friends is completely different to hanging out with an ex-partner. I don't really know anyone that would be OK with their partner spending well into 3.30AM with their ex, that's just super off mark. Yeah, I mean, you know, I do want to touch on that. It's a case of, that was a point where I was trying to give you a lot of space, and I know you need that space. I don't have a lot of friends up here and my ex-partner is still a good friend. We dated for about eight weeks, so quite a short relationship, not that that changes anything. He's got a new partner, and we went out just to catch up for a coffee, and then late in the morning was not kind of like out in town drinking, it was doing an ambulance shift with him to try and get a bit of normality back in my life. I was missing work a bit, and that sort of thing, and, yeah. We ran an ambulance shift from 7PM till 3 in the morning, and came straight home afterwards. A little bit surprised about the shift I did with my ex/friend. I honestly hadn't even thought about that that side of things. I definitely see where you're coming from, and I get that. I mean, keeping in mind as well, you do have a` you've told me that you have a history of like cheating as well, so. It made me feel pretty awful, to be honest, that he felt that way, and that to even think that there was a concern, that something would've happened, it hurts. It sucks because I don't wanna make Ben feel like that. It just adds all the stuff to the mix and I'm just sitting there having the worst week of my life, like. Yeah, no, and I think that's really understandable. It's been a difficult week. It was a difficult dinner. Has trust and loyalty been broken significantly in previous relationships? Hell, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's why like I'm still single and going through this experiment in the first place. How can that trust be rebuilt? (SIGHS) It's` Yeah, I don't know. It's a whole another` It's really` It's really hard. I get` like, I'm very much like a, 'You break that trust, we're not` you don't get a second chance,' kind of thing. So, that's very difficult for me. Sometimes, I think, in the past when we've experienced difficult things, if we've been cheated on, we've been betrayed, if something in the future comes close, I would say in terms of the gravity of Aaron's actions, your feeling or reaction to it is feeling quite serious, and I wonder if there is a way we could kind of match that a little bit with the acknowledgement that it's been a stressful week, these are trigger points for you, and feeling like it's the fight or flight. Something that's very familiar has happened, and even though it hasn't been that serious, it feels serious to you, and you're wanting to get away from those sorts of feelings. You've got a point, definitely, with regards to emotions are definitely heightened this week. And, like, I don't... genuinely believe like anything happened with you and your ex yesterday. If I think about it, I don't genuinely believe that. I just think, in terms of like thoughtfulness and that kind of thing, it was poor timing on your behalf. I want you to know that it never would as well. You know, I've made a commitment to you in being here, and that hasn't changed and what happened last night, is, yeah, crossed a boundary for you, but I just want to make it really clear that that would never happen. OK. (SIGHS) I've heard that before by the way, but... From somebody else? From other people, yeah. OK. Um... Just remember that Aaron is someone new. I know, I know, I know. So, you know, so that's new and that kind of thing, and obviously we are married, so we've got like... And it is difficult, and I really wanna acknowledge that this is a sensitive area for you. Mm. No, I mean, it's good to hear that. It sounds like, you know, it's a commitment so we'll just see how it goes over time. It's not something I can just be like straight away, 'Cool, yeah, sweet. We are good'. Yeah, yeah. OK. Well, it's been fantastic meeting with you again this evening, and all the very best for your conversation tomorrow, and enjoy life outside of this experience and normality. Oh, we will. Yeah. For him to be here and talk about what's going on and have feelings around it, shows that, you know, there's obviously commitment there. I'm feeling good about things at the moment. Obviously, there's things we need to work on, and it's not a perfect relationship at this point, but hopefully with some time, and getting back to our normal lives, that will kind of step up from there. (POIGNANT MUSIC) Lovely to see you both. You too. Good to see you guys too. How are you doing? Yeah, we're good. We're good. I wasn't really sure like what was going to happen when we walked in. I don't think there's anything we need to talk about. I think we're OK. So, it's been an interesting couple of days. The dinner party. How about we start off there? Well, we'll get the ring leader here to start. No, no I'm not the ring leader. The ring leader. No, I'm definitely not the ring leader. Nah, nah, definitely not the ring leader. How dare you? Nah, that's not fair. I mean, stuff needed to be said. Stuff needed to come out in the open. What were you hoping might transpire? Well, I was hoping for some honesty. I was hoping for like Haydn to just stop lying about everything, and maybe even an apology would have been nice. The fact that he was calling people like Ben and Vicky, and saying that they were fake, had never even spoke to them. Exactly. Was hurtful to Vick and Ben and looking after Vick, she looking after Vick. she pisses me off too, to be frank, and regardless, it's a shame that it got as heated as it did. And Andrew, you mentioned, you did say it in jest so I'll disown that, but you said kind of Vicky is the 'ring leader'. That's not. No, no, no, so just unpacking, what about` so, Vicky, how` He just meant I was the person who said the first thing. Yeah, that's what I meant to say. That's what he meant. Hmm. Obviously, cos I'm quite an honest person, so, I'm not shy to like say anything that comes to my mind. Vick isn't like a bad person or anything like that. No. She's great, like, you know, she's just real cool and like down to earth and stuff, which is wicked. So, in no way shape or form has what I said should reflect anything on her. Like, she's real cool. Where's the worry or concern about coming off as a horrible person come from? I don't know. I'm nice. (BOTH LAUGH) (LAUGHS) I don't know. Are you concerned about something that might've` that might come across? No, nothing specific, just like in general. Sometimes I can, maybe, not come across like as nice as it could. I didn't want to come off as like this horrible person, which I'm not. Yeah, you're not. So, like I'm not actually like nasty. I just- I just say what I think. You and Ben were having a little chuckle in the bathroom with the whole calling each other, 'Mean girls.' Obviously, we are joking about that. Yeah, yeah. Like, we don't want to be the mean ones, but it's just a joke. We are actually like quite decent people, we're just honest. But like it's just like our humour. Like, you know it. Oh, I know, yeah. You know our humour. Yeah, pretty much. I have to say, it's nice to see a bit of playfulness between you two this evening. It's really` it's fun, yeah. It's cool. No, we've been` we've been great, eh? Yeah, we're good. We are really good. We've been, since the last time we've talked, obviously, we weren't good. Hmm. But we have been really good. Why do you think things have been working since last time we spoke? We just left everything in the past, right? Yeah, we are just a little bit more light hearted about situations. Like, when things come up, we're not like getting angry straight away and kind of more, just laughing about things, you know? It sounds like maybe what you've done is you've gone through some periods of disagreement, and you've kind of like settled into a bit of a rhythm or groove that now is working, and perhaps what you're saying is you've kind of found some kind of comfortable zone that is suiting both of you. Would that be fair? I think so. Yeah, I'd say so. Yeah. Like, it's just like, 'Do you want to go out?' Go out. Sweet. 'I want to go out.' Go out. Sweet. But, it's not like a communication breakdown it's like just... I feel like, yeah, we just kind of do what makes us happy, and as long as we kind of communicate what we're up to, then it's fine. Do you feel you still have the same level of commitment as you did when you first came into the experiment? Well, like we both care about each other... Yeah. ...end of the day, but we don't know whether we want to` we don't know if we're gonna be able to progress this into like a long term thing, right? Yeah, I feel like we are kind of more on like a friendship level. Um, yeah. Yeah, and I mean, like, we both kind of want to have the same thing, and I guess not going to as soon as we are done here, we're pretty much going to renew our vows, we talked about that. Well, yeah, like we're not gonna force it. We're not gonna pretend like that we're in love with each other if we're not. But, at the end of the day, we both care about each other and like Andy is a cool guy, like, I think he thinks I'm cool as well. Oh, yeah, you're alright (LAUGHS) No, you're great. You're going to get it. (BOTH LAUGH) And the friendship we can see and the playfulness, which is fantastic, and quite a bit of research has been done about relationships that have gone over an extended period of time and three things have been quite consistent over those relationships that have really held the test of time ` commitment, communication and the third one was friendship. So, it's really just being mindful and aware that actually, not to look too far ahead and not to write your relationship off too soon. I suppose that's true. I don't know, obviously, we had a few blow outs and stuff like that, which makes, in all fairness, us question everything, right? I'm not writing anything off and I don't think Vick is writing anything off either. I don't know. But, at the end of the day, I think those are pretty good fundamentals to have, personally. So, Vicky, what are the qualities and attributes around Andrew that really are ones that you respect and appreciate and value? There's heaps of things that I like about Andy. He's a good dude. He's kind and he's thoughtful and, you know, I mean, there's heaps of amazing qualities about Andy. So, kind, thoughtful, what else? Um... I don't know. Andrew, would you like to maybe tell us a little bit about the qualities that you've learnt that you really respect and like about Vicky? She` You know what you like, you know what you don't like. As a person, she's very family orientated, she's got good morals, and she knows what's good for her and what's not good for her, but she's also like willing to try new stuff. What about values? Family and friends are huge ones. Absolutely massive for me. Honesty and communication. Yeah, yeah exactly, honest and just truth. What we've always talked about. Yeah. Truthfulness. Truthfulness, and, you know, she's not afraid to give me arseholes when I'm out of line. (LAUGHS) That's to my` That's my` You know, I'm the one out of line so that's cool. You helped me grow, you know, as a person, which is awesome. So, you know, I could probably keep rambling on about stuff, but those are the main ones that I sort of... I fancy. You also mentioned that you've learnt a lot about yourself. Vicky, what can you take away from the experience so far? What have you learnt about yourself? Hm. I don't know (LAUGH) I don't know. I don't know. Lots of things. Anything in particular that you'd like to share? Um... I honestly don't know. OK, and so we know that you have a date tomorrow night before you have a week apart. Yes? We'd just like to encourage you to go in it with a willingness and a capacity to discuss anything that you'd like to before you go and have your break and before your commitment ceremony. And as for the break, you've been in this environment now for a number of weeks, and it's pretty unique. So, next week, when you're apart and separated, how are you going to manage that? I know I'll miss Vick, cos that's kind of` I can see it happening. It doesn't mean, you know` I'll know I'll miss you because we've spent six weeks together, five weeks, whatever. It's just, you get used to that. We know we can talk to each other, whether we will or not, we don't know, right? I guess, we will. I don't know. We'll see. This is like, are we? I think it's important to have that week apart as well so that you know how you are going to feel when you are not with this person 24/7. It's kind of like, we haven't really had that chance to like miss each other. I read into that a little bit of a almost an openness to a change in that relationship and how it might be different. Would that be fair? We're friends, but I don't want to just` we can see what happens after the show. See where we are at. Maybe nothing happens, maybe something will happen, who knows? But I don't think either of us are just going to be like, 'See ya!' Because we're not like that, are we? New Zealand hasn't heard the end of Vicky and Andrew, let's say. We'll just see what happens. I guess time will tell. (TENSE MUSIC) on their wedding day. Oh, my god. Oh, my god. It's hard to believe that just five weeks ago... Hi. Oh, hey. ...our couples met for the very first time at the altar. Hi. Hey, how are ya? Aaron. Ben. Will you take Andrew to be your husband? I do. Without doubt, the relationships within this experiment are certainly different from those that we would expect to see outside of this experiment. This is my room. You can sleep in the other room. (LAUGHS) What we see, over a period of six weeks, is ordinarily what plays out over five, 10, 15 years. You say Aaron's like really caring and really considerate and stuff like that. Do you feel like you reciprocate that? This part of the experiment is hugely important. It's when they decide whether they would like to spend the rest of their lives with one another. I just feel like relationships shouldn't be this hard. At this stage, intensity really starts to build up. They're moving towards having to make that decision ` are they going to stay committed to this relationship and committed to the process? What are we doing today? We've got white water rafting. That's gonna be fun. Well, hopefully it will` it isn't raining in Manukau. (LAUGHS) Last day with my husband. I'm looking forward to it. I think that we've said pretty much everything. I'm just glad that we're on ` well, as far as I know ` I'm just glad that we're on the same page. I honestly need a new phone. It's gonna be fun. Yeah. I hope it doesn't rain. You know, we'll probably get wet anyway, but it will be better if it doesn't rain. It has been a confusing week in regards to how I think she's feeling or not. I don't know. We kind of talked about being friends and then I messaged` I was actually just messaging Bel, because we wanted to go watch It, and Vicky got real like, kind of jealous and there was no intent there. It was just I wanted to go watch It. So, that kind of threw me off a little bit. Have you done it before? No. Haven't you? Nah. It's really fun. From the very beginning, it would appear that Vicky has friend-zoned Andrew, and not really given him a chance in the romantic arena. This is an opportunity for Andrew to really step up and let Vicky know how he truly feels about her. I'm actually looking forward to going home, to be honest. I agree, we are friends, but I also think that, in my opinion, that we should probably at least give it a crack outside of this. Vicky and Andrew were at a similar level of emotional maturity, and what we were hoping to see along this experiment, is a mutual growth of the maturity for both of them. Hm. You're still waking up, eh? I'm still waking up. I can tell you're like half asleep. A big challenge for the relationship ` Vicky's real want for a certain type of person that historically has not worked out well for her. So, what we really need Vicky to do is just to look beyond that, and look at perhaps why we've matched her with Andrew, because there's a reason for that. There's just been so much time put into this, so much effort. I actually do care about her a lot. I totally am still wanting to give it a crack, should her feelings change. Which they probably won't, but, you know, you never know. Yeah it's our last day. It's a bit sad isn't it? I don't really think of it as the last day though. Yeah. Maybe it's the experiment, but it's not the last day. It's just like this chapter ends, you know? It's quite a big step from going from living 24/7 with each other to having five days apart, but I think it's going to be a really good time to reset and refocus. I'm looking forward to moving down and packing up my stuff and coming down to Lincoln. Do you think Lincoln is ready for me? We've just had the most insane roller coaster one month of our lives. I don't even know life before Brett anymore. Who was that girl? (LAUGHS) I've lost her. I could bring the Ute up, see. Sometimes it does worry me that it's too good to be true, but then I just realise why would you sit there and worry about that? That's a bloody waste of thought, isn't it? Are you going to pack tonight or tomorrow? Um, I might start packing tonight. That's the most annoying bit. One thing I want to say to Angel before we have that week apart will be, I will just have to thank her for everything she's done, all the small things and that. I find it hard sometimes to put that into words. (LAUGHS) That was cool. Yeah, I'll definitely thank her 600 times today. (LAUGHS) How long is the ferry ride over? With Ben and Aaron, it's been a shame because I don't believe that they've actually even touched the surface of the potential for their relationship. A large reason for that is because they haven't really got past the type. But can they overcome that for the future? I feel like I can commit to the relationship at this point, but I feel like I'd be setting myself up for failure and an unhappy relationship if I was to move up here. He's still sitting there across the table and I'm hearing, 'I'm not attracted to you'. That's not a healthy relationship. I couldn't move myself up here when that is still a big issue. (TENSE MUSIC) The other thing is that I also need to lay it out there that I need a commitment that if I was to move up here, I would be able to finish my studies in New Zealand before we went overseas. That needs to be laid out on the table and I'd need that commitment from Ben. It's non-negotiable. Obviously, location is an issue for this couple. However, what is needed first is confirmation from Ben that he's actually committed to this relationship and wants to go forward. I don't want to go away with anything sort of left in grey areas or sort of hasn't been talked about. As uncomfortable as it's going to be, it needs to happen and it needs to happen today. We would be silly to walk away at the end of the six weeks and split up. The whole point of coming here for the experiment was that we were going to work through problems. For me to walk away at the six weeks because things aren't there, defeats the entire purpose of this whole experiment. (POP MUSIC) Sunday night ` total commitment dates... This is D-day. A final hoorah. reveal hidden emotions. We get along so well now. Like, if we get along like peas and carrots, we should fall in love. You wonder, is he feeling the same way? Like, has something changed for him? But after a week apart.. Maybe we can get married someday. who will stand up for their marriage? I don't really want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me one 110%. So, I don't want to waste too much of my energy. And who will be left broken? (TENSE MUSIC) Copyright Able 2017