Previously on Married at First Sight ` our remaining couples faced the biggest decision of their lives... BEN: I've basically put everything I have into this relationship. VICKY: You have the chance of getting hurt. You have the chance of finding love. You have the chance of things turning badly. ...as they chose whether or not to renew their vows. While Andrew was keen for more... I'd like to keep working at this. ...Vicky just wanted to be friends. I have decided to bring our relationship to an end. (SNIFFLES) That sucks, man. And while Aaron still had hope,... If we are both crazy enough to be here, we are crazy enough for this to work. ...for Ben... From the moment we married, I maintained you didn't fit the brief physically. ...it was the end of the line. (RAIN FALLS HEAVILY) I think I'm just still a bit shell-shocked. But for Brett and Angel, there was never any doubt,... You are the one. (LAUGHS) Awesome. ...as they committed to a life together beyond the experiment. Yeah, I think we both were looking for someone to laugh and smile with. Life has changed, and it will forever be different, but it's a good different. Tonight ` I'm hoping there's going to be no drama. as the couples are reunited for the final time... Oh, it's my wife! Oh! ...we relive the highs... Well, the honeymoon was awesome. Probably the five funnest days I've ever had. I'll have to buy an engagement ring, I guess. (LAUGHS) ...and lows of the experiment. Oh, it was just really frustrating. I hated you. And sparks fly as our experts ask the tough questions. I know people out there are wondering. I'm not answering that. It has absolutely nothing to do with this show. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) Copyright Able 2017 ...with Jay-Jay, Dom and Randell on breakfast on The Edge, bringing you Married At First Sight NZ. (EXPECTANT MUSIC) It's the end of the experiment, and our couples are meeting with the experts one last time, apart from Haydn, who is travelling overseas. I'm so excited we are actually going to see the experts, and it's a reunion show, so I get to see everybody, which is so exciting. I've actually been really excited about tonight, seeing everyone again, because this, to me, has been nothing but, like, positivity. A little bit nervous seeing everyone again. I haven't seen anyone for quite a while, and then obviously seeing Lacey as well, because the last time I saw her, that wasn't very good. It didn't go down that well. So, yeah, I guess that will be quite interesting. I'm not nervous. I don't have any hard feelings towards Luke. I take the opinion that everyone is responsible for their own actions and you kind of have to move on with life. Just catching up with everyone will be cool. Sweet, just kick back. I'm not looking forward to... drama. Like, I am hoping there's going to be no drama. Not with anyone in particular, but just in general. I feel alright about going into tonight. I know that I am facing this alone tonight, so I am feeling really good about that. It will be really good to see Aaron and Vicky and the girls. I don't really know how it's going to be with um some of the other cast. So we'll see how it goes. I just hope it doesn't get too heated and out of hand. And, you know, I don't want another dinner party on our hands. Nah, just looking forward to tonight, eh. It's like the end of the journey, you know? As long as I've got Brett on my arm, then that's all that matters (LAUGHS) Whoo! (EXPECTANT MUSIC) Hiya. You look so good. You do. (LAUGHTER) Oh, it's my wife! Oh my God. TONY: Good evening, guys. Hi. Good evening all. Fantastic to see you. Hi. It's certainly really exciting for us this evening to be able to catch up with you guys as I'm sure it is going to be interesting for you guys just to have this time this evening. PANI: This is just an opportunity for us to all catch up, talk about your journey. We know it's an intensive process. we know it's a condensed relationship situation, and it's a chance for us to all chat about what your experience was like and get you to have an opportunity to talk about anything that you'd like to talk about. (INDISTINCT CHATTER) Hello, you two. Luke and Lacey, lovely to see you again. LUKE: Hello. Good to see you guys. We're going to start off with you and have a little chat about your journey, but before we do that we'd like to just have a little clip showing you the kind of highlights of your journey on Married at First Sight. Cool. Funny man Luke made a strong first impression on Lacey. Hey, how is it going? (LAUGHTER) I hope when she sees me she's just, like, double thumbs up. I look up and I was like, 'Good job.' This is a bit different, eh? Only a little bit, right? Yeah. Pretty much got along straight away, and it's kind of continued along that path, so up and up. (LAUGHS) But when it came to the deeper conversations, Luke struggled to open up. I take things day by day. Mm-hm. And I took today by today's day. I took yesterday by yesterday. You get it. It can be disheartening when you are trying to have a serious conversation and everything is rounded off with a joke. We should be all cute and eat some food out of my hand. That is not going to happen. OK. The hard thing is that I actually really,really like Lacey, and so I've just... It's more the fear of rejection that I have, because I do really like her. But Lacey cut the honeymoon short with a bombshell. Lacey just told me it's over. Uh, so I feel a little bit, um, shaken by that. While they were apart, Lacey heard a rumour, which added fuel to the fire. You lied to me and to all of my friends and family. I never lied to anyone. I feel like he still thinks that hiding behind a joke is a good idea. I may have, like, made jokes to people because I` If you are going to yell at me and raise your voice, I'm going to walk` I'm not yelling at you. I'm just` I'm going to walk out of this conversation. Please just listen to me and kind of believe me. Like, believe me! Like, I'm not bullshitting. But it seems Lacey's mind was already made up. Does Luke know that you're leaving tomorrow? Well, I do now, yeah. I don't see us working on this relationship. Like, it isn't going to work out. Luke's a nice guy and I hope that he finds the perfect thing that he is looking for, but I'm not it. Unfortunately that's all we'll ever have is a honeymoon that ended shortly. That's it. So, um, yay for marriage for me (!) Fantastic (!) (LAUGHTER) (TENSE MUSIC) So seeing that played back there, any reflections on the time? Yeah, I had a really good time. It was a great honeymoon. A really good experience. Yeah, I don't regret anything. No, yeah, like, the honeymoon was awesome. It was probably the five funnest days I've ever had, and we got along really well. Was it a surprise to you when Lacey left? Um, yeah, it was just` it was pretty abrupt. Did you have any sense that something was brewing for her? Nah, nah, I mean, like, I know myself very well, and I know that it takes me a little while to open up, and I was very aware of that coming into this, and I wasn't going to rush myself too much, because I wanted to get to know her, and, you know, trust her before I really kind of opened up. Lacey, how did you find that pacing? I found our honeymoon to be really hard. It was fun. We did heaps of activities. I honestly thought we were having an awesome time. Like, we were having heaps of fun. All we had was fun. Yeah, fun is awesome. It's a good way to learn to know someone. You can't have a relationship based on fun. It was five days. We were just starting our relationship, and to me, I find a foundation is having a lot of fun with someone. That's how I do it, at least. What did you want? And I guess I don't. I think a relationship is more serious than that and when you step into an experiment like this, you know that it's a short period of time and you kind of need to put a little bit more effort or kind of put yourself out there more than you normally would. Do you think if you'd said to him, 'Hey, Luke, I don't feel like you're taking this seriously. 'I would really like us to actually get to know each other more intimately,' he would be able to hear that? What do you think would happen if you'd actually told him what was going on for you? That would be me putting myself even further out there than I already had. It wasn't going to happen at that stage. TONY: We've seen it play out and one of the key issues was around, especially probably the cocktail party, during the cocktail party, around the rumour, the statement that was made by somebody around wanting to be a comedian, that seems to be the crux of it. Luke, how much truth is there to that? Um, pretty much no truth in that, no. Well, like, I do my surf report thing. I told Lacey about it pretty much, like, the first day of our honeymoon, because I wanted to be honest, and if that was an issue, it would have been good to talk about it I guess. What would you have liked from Luke on the evening of the cocktail party? What would have worked for you? Yes, please, please. There were times that` certainly opportunities that weren't working. What would have worked? Because it appeared that you went into that evening open to something. What did you need? Other than what was shown on the TV, probably having a conversation with me right up front would have been a good approach. So different to what happened that night you mean? So can you explain a little bit more what that would look like? It could have been the same conversation that happened, but it just wouldn't have happened three hours into the cocktail party. I think that when people are in a relationship and they have something to talk about, you should deal with it quite quickly and quite swiftly. I absolutely 100% agree. The whole cocktail party was an hour. However long it was. I 100% agree. That's why when you brought up the issues, I tried to talk to you about it before the cocktail party. I contacted you. I tried to talk to` You emailed me about yourself. I didn't even have your phone number. I couldn't call you. I couldn't talk to you. I wanted a conversation between two adults and try and work some problems out. Out of respect for me, it would have been nice if we could have communicated, had a conversation. Yeah, well, you weren't communicating in the channel that worked for me, and I wasn't communicating in the channel that works for you. That made that really clear. That goes back to my question, though. What would have been the channel? What would have been the method? Him turning up. He could have turned up to wherever I was. He could have called me. (MOUTHS) Sending an email is such an easy way to say something... (MOUTHS) ...to someone without actually saying anything. You know what, Tony? I don't think Luke and I are ever going to have the same communication approach. No, we can't even communicate at all. I think we agree to that. No, but you don't need to have the same` I'm over here somewhere, and then Lacey is, like, way over here. Like, that's how far apart we are. It's just, like, the divide is humungous. And we both get that. Yeah, we both understand. What we're trying to understand is sitting back at the cocktail party, watching him communicate with you, he was using plain English and quite clearly communicating to you very simple ideas that we could understand. He said sorry multiple times. But his repair attempts were falling on deaf ears, and we are trying to understand why. So, Luke's behaviour at the cocktail party, I didn't find appropriate, and I would've preferred if he had spoken to me at the beginning, but he didn't. He waited until the cocktail party had been quite developed, and for me, that wasn't the right time to do it. So he missed his window? It just wasn't the right time to do it when it happened, and I think that, you know, other opportunities could have been there, but` So, it's not the communication, then; it was the timing. You know what, Pani? If that's what you want the answer to be, sure. I'm just trying to understand, Lacey, because we are just having` we are struggling to understand and I'm trying to offer you the opportunity... You don't have to understand it. ...to explain yourself, and there's people who want to know what happened, and this is a forum for you to tell your sides of the story. It did take me a lot of courage to actually go and, you know, approach Lacey and talk to her. So if that means anything. And that would have been difficult to do, because when Luke` Oh, it was. It was hard. I'm in a room full of all these new people and there's a lot going on, and so, yeah, it did take a little while and I thought, 'OK, I'm going to do it.' How did you feel about Lacey in those earlier days? I was` I was happy. I was genuinely, like, really happy. I was, and on the wedding day I was just like, 'Cool. Like, she seems like a really fun girl.' And now she's walking off and doesn't have the respect to sit down and continue with this conversation. So, I mean, I guess that just sums it up or whatever. ...as they chose whether or not to renew their vows. At the Married at First Sight reunion, Lacey has left Luke alone with the experts. No, I did have a lot of fun, and I did genuinely think she was an amazing girl, and that's a bit disappointing that it didn't work out, but we are very, very different people. Are you OK? Yeah, I'd appreciate an even approach to this from the experts and not an attack on me as a person. OK, an opportunity for you ` and it's not an attack, it's not at all ` the backlash, social media, how have you...? I mean, I obviously have been painted the villain in this relationship, and you know what? I'm OK with that. But there is so much more to our relationship than just what I did wrong. I have one last question and I am going to ask this because I know people out there are wondering. You talked to Luke about his possible desires to want to be a comedian, which you weren't happy about, and yet you've auditioned to be a host for Bravo. I'm not answering that. It has absolutely nothing to do with this show. Well, it creates a situation where people might think you're hypocritical, so we are just trying to give you an opportunity to answer that if you want the opportunity. You don't have to. No, I don't need the opportunity to answer that. (TENSE MUSIC) Now it's Claire and Dom's turn to talk to the experts. OK, Dom and Claire. Lovely to see you. There were some early doubts. I would've liked him taller. Hello. Hi. But he's got a really nice sense about him, like, very open and very welcoming. But the feelings soon grew for Claire and Dom. She just seems like a really wonderful woman. The kind of woman that would be easy to fall in love with. He knows what he's doing so I'm pretty impressed with that side of it. Aw, give us a kiss. This is what it's about, isn't it? I think we are going to christen every spa bath and every bed in that house. I can't wait. And despite personality clashes... Long may it last. Well, at least` Can you just shut up and let me drink for God's sake? It is difficult being around Dom 24-7. ...the honeymoon seemed to strengthen their bond. Keep it moving and blow it out. I can see us going a very long way. But at the cocktail party, Claire fell ill,... And now I'm in hospital on a drip, and I'm waiting to get a scan done. I really miss Claire, because we've had so much fun together, and suddenly there's this great big sort of vacant spot in my life. ...which kept them separate during a crucial time. Five days apart is a long time when you've only been married 12 days. Shall I just clean and put things away? It just feels like we are starting again. Then a grave mistake from Dom... I felt Claire had been slowly distancing herself from me. I'd sent off a text to a mate, really having a go at relationships and how they are frustrating. I thought I'd sent this text to my mate, but I didn't. I'd sent it to Claire. ...pushed them apart forever. I got a text from Dom, which I shouldn't have got, just saying a few things about me and how unhappy he was. Dom and I have decided to split because we are not each other's type ` physically, everything. We've made the right decision, so gone. If I could have turned the clock back, I would. I am going to be forever regretful, wondering what could have happened. There you go. Aw, Dom. Aw, Claire. So, Dom, just finishing off there, it seems that you left with some regrets. Do you still hold those regrets now? Oh, Claire and I both wanted to go to the end, didn't we? Totally. But of course Claire became unwell, and unfortunately she had the bereavement as well. And I totally understand why Claire left, because there were far more important things and pressing things in your life, eh? Mm-hm. And I think that's one of the things we wanted to acknowledge, Claire, because we know that you were under a lot of pressure, and I know you both came in, and you had a few concerns at first, but you were really keen to give the experiment a go and trust the process and you both had your ups and downs, and we thought you did an amazing job to stay in while you were quite severely ill, actually. That was the easy part. (LAUGHS) The real turning point seemed to be that text. So if that text hadn't have happened, do you think it would have played out differently for your relationship? Well, I personally don't think it was a turning point. I mean, Claire and I came off our honeymoon ` which was incredible and it was fantastic ` we both realised that we just didn't have that romantic connection, did we? Mm. Yeah. You've mentioned not having that romantic connection, but you obviously had a physically intimate, awesome sexual chemistry. We had to try. You had to try. You put us together, so I had to try everything I could. Absolutely. We do. Yeah, totally. (LAUGHTER) Well, I was. I was 110% committed to this, and you put us together for a reason. I was just struggling to find that reason. Sorry, Dom. That's OK. No, no. Because you weren't attracted to me either. We were both on the same track, so... At the end of the day, Claire, we just weren't right for each other, on virtue of` apart from having a great time together and being really good friends, we're just not right for each other. What are the attributes that Claire had that drew you towards that friendship? Really good laugh. Claire is a straight talker. Funnily enough, straight talker. CLAIRE: But nice with it. Yeah, nice with it. And caring. Yeah, very caring, really generous. Great sense of humour. And, um, yeah, we could talk about anything, and we did, didn't we? Yeah, because there was no emotional... connection, so I could talk to him about anything, because I didn't care what he thought. I'm not bothered. PANI: There wasn't that much at stake for you. No. If there was, I would not be the straight talker, I would be the lover. No ill feelings against you. No. Me neither. It would be lovely for you to find a lovely lady, little petite tiny one that doesn't say much. (LAUGHTER) Well, I'd like them to talk. Yeah, but you don't like them to raise their voices. Well, we don't like shouting, do we? I never shouted. I'd just like to acknowledge your commitment to the process from the beginning, because it wasn't love at first sight, but you were keen to give it a go. So we just want to say thank you for the time you spent on the experiment. It's been a pleasure to meet you both. We just think you're wonderful, and we are looking forward to seeing how things unfold for you and your separate journeys. It will be interesting. Thank you. TONY: Thank you very much guys. (APPLAUSE) Coming up ` the pain of a failed relationship. It's hard to watch, because I stuck 100% to who I was. Oh, it was just such a rollercoaster, and it was really frustrating. At the Married at First Sight reunion, with Haydn overseas, Bel is facing the experts alone. Hey, it's lovely to see you, Bel. Before we get into it, let's watch a little bit of your journey. There was an instant attraction for Bel and Haydn. I'm Bel. You look beautiful. I'm Haydn. She's gorgeous. There's just a mixture of emotions of happiness, relief and, yeah, just excitement. I think I've got a crush on him, which is a really good sign. Right now I can definitely see a future. But their honeymoon was full of ups and downs. Yeah, I need some time away from him. Things basically just turned to crap. She's just shut down, won't talk to me. I'm not texting him. He can either turn up or he can't, and that's his decision. I know I've put everything in to it, so there's not much more I can do if she doesn't want to talk to me. After their bumpy start, time apart brought them back together. The contrast for me and Bel from this morning was just black and white. That is this experiment in a nutshell. It is going to be highs and lows and go from one emotion to another. I think this is really good step in the right direction. But again, a communication breakdown led to heartbreak. Yeah, the cocktail party went really well, and we left together and, yeah, and then things just went weird again. I found out he has been messaging one of the other wives and agreeing that they should have been matched, not us, and I just felt so betrayed by that. And after many attempts to make it work... We're back. Good morning. Morning. We, I guess, have realised that there is still a lot here that we want to explore. I think it will be better this time. ...old obstacles resurfaced. You left your wife and you cut her off from speaking to any of us. I did not. Yes, you did. Did that happen? Are you going to speak up? Did that happen? Whatever. And they couldn't find their way back together. PANI: Following the dinner party, we met with Bel and Haydn, who after many ups and downs have finally left the experiment for good. So, Bel, looking at that was a bit difficult. Would you like to tell us a little bit about your reflections on watching your story? It's hard to watch because I stuck 100% to who I was. I was open, honest and genuine, but his expectations were here and, say, I was here. Instead of meeting half way, I had to go fully up to here. So I did that. I just completely went up to there, and he still wasn't happy. So then when I realised there's nothing that I could have done to have made him happy. Because as it tracks through, as we know, there are those lows, but there are those times where you reconnected and you were back together. Can you tell us a little bit about those times? I won't call them highs. Just those times when you were back together. Mm. When Haydn is happy and it's going well, it's really well. It's really, really good. So, they were genuine times. So when Haydn was happy, you were happy within that dynamic? Yeah, there were` Yeah, I'm not going to sit here and say there wasn't, and I think that's why I stuck at it, because there were patches that were good, but they were very short. And what about the role of people here today? What were they for you? They were a huge support. Oh my goodness. The whole texting with Vicky, Vicky was 100% honest with me, so up front, and he'd said to her 'secret' or something at the end, and he didn't want me to know. And then he got upset that I went out that night and said all I wanted was a party, and I'm not here for love. Um,... But I think that he just didn't want me finding out about those text messages. What really bothered me in our relationship was Haydn made me close off from everybody. He wanted me to block everybody, not speak to anybody, and I came here for love. I came here extremely genuine. So I did that. I blocked them out for quite a while. But behind my back, he was actually meddling in their relationships. But then I thought, 'No, I'm not going to shut them out if he's not going to do it as well.' These guys are the only people that know what we're going through, you know? So, I want to keep them around. I want to go out and have a coffee with them and chat because these guys are literally the only people who know what this is like, and they have been a huge support, incredibly. Well, we're really happy that you've made some great connections, and we wish you all the best for the future, and we do hope that you find that big, powerful, wonderful love you are looking for. And we know that Haydn is not here tonight, but we just wanted to let you know he will be having a chat to us now as well. Cool. BEN: Good job, Bel. Well done. TONY: Good job. (RINGING TONE) (TENSE MUSIC) Haydn. Hi, Haydn, how are you? I'm good. It's a really great opportunity to have a chat with you and just to talk about how that experience was for you. Can you tell us a little bit about that? Oh man, the experience, yeah, was such a roller coaster, and by the end I was just emotionally drained and spent. Like, I'd put everything into it, and by the end I just basically had to walk away. I just didn't honestly have anything left to give. Yeah, I mean, I'm disappointed, obviously, with how things worked out, and obviously had hoped that it could have been a bit different. And those lows, can you tell us a little bit about those? Yeah, I found Bel was someone that I hadn't dealt with her kind of personality style too much before in my life. So maybe I wasn't used to communicating effectively with someone like her, I suppose, and we were just so different in the way we communicated and quite different as people as well and just when I think dealing with the other factors and other influences and other people trying to influence our relationship just made everything 10 times more stressful. I honestly think it could have been a little bit different. Are you talking about the group dynamic? The others along on this experiment? The committee? Um... The committee. (LAUGHS) It did make it hard because, you know, she was being told things that weren't true and then I was behind the scenes trying to repair that as well, and then Bel would say, 'Oh, no, I can see it for what it is now,' and then something else would happen. As a 31-year-old guy applying for this show to find someone and settle down and build a life, I did not think I would be dealing with that kind of thing, to be honest. Is there anything you may have done differently looking back now? You know, I can probably use a little bit more tact in the way I perhaps say things. You know just to identify people's communication style a bit more and, you know, alter the way I communicate with them based on that and not just be like, 'This is me. This is how I am going to communicate the whole time.' Actually, you are pretty capable and pretty able, so when you had the opportunity to just express what's going on for each of you, you tended to repair whatever damage had been done and then came back and engaged in the whole experiment again. Yeah, and I suppose that was also part of the frustration for me, because I knew that if we just met up and talked about things, that it would actually be all right, and so that was me kind of pushing to, 'Come on. Let's sort it out.' And her approach was just take a step back and go to ground for two days, which, for me, was just really frustrating. What's next for you? I don't really know. I'm just going to try and get back into a bit of normal life and see what comes in the next few months. I mean, I could look back on it and be bitter or anything like that, but I just don't see the point. I'm healthy. I'm happy. I've got a roof over my head. So, I mean, I've got a lot to be grateful for and, yeah, we will just see. I'm just ready to get on with the next chapter of my life now. Coming up ` Vicky and Andrew are on the spot. Was there a time where it did become something more intimate between the two? (CHUCKLES) OK, so Vicky and Andrew, welcome. It's lovely to see you again, and we are looking forward to watching your journey. (ANDREW CHUCKLES) Cool. At their wedding, Andrew was smitten,... I'm Vicky. Nice to meet you, Vicky. You look beautiful. Thank you. ...while Vicky had her doubts. He probably wasn't what I pictured in my head. A lot of the kissing and touching, maybe not so much. It sort of made me second guess my approach. I just won't put myself out there as much. On the honeymoon, their friendship grew. There's heaps of things I like about him. Like, he's really fun to be around. She's a cool chick. I'd say I could totally fall for her. We are real comfortable around each other. Hopefully I don't get friend-zoned. (LAUGHS) But back in Auckland, their relationship plateaued. You can sleep in the other room. Why? Are you not sharing? But there's two beds. Hmm. It would be nice if I could get to know my wife a little bit better. You have to understand that I can't be glued to your side every minute. He's like the woman in the relationship. Getting annoyed at nothing. And the cocktail party highlighted their differences. I'm punching. I'm punching. So, yeah, your first impression was, yeah. I'm punching! Yeah. What? Like, not on the lips, but he's always like (KISSES) on my forehead, and I'll be like... I'm still not super attracted to him yet. At the final therapy session, plans were laid bare. We're pretty much going to renew our vows. We talked about that. At the end of the day, like, we both care about each other. I don't think either of us are just going to be like, 'See ya!' I guess time will tell. And in the end... What I'm saying is I'd like to keep working at this, and I'm willing to give it a go, even though we've talked about it, and I know I have feelings for you. Are you all right? ...time did tell. For everything that's been amazing, we haven't been without the hard times. It is hard for me to deny, however, that the chemistry between us has been lacking from the start, which is why I have decided to bring our relationship to an end. Hearing um those words, 'Bring our relationship to an end,' that sucks, man. That really sucks. Aw. So... Yeah, it's tough seeing that sort of` seeing that. Yeah. Why is that? Oh, I mean, we both came into this with the same intentions, and I guess it's just` probably it is a bit disappointing it hasn't worked out for both of us, you know? Couples therapy, and we saw it briefly there, where you said that you were going to renew the vows, so were you surprised? Uh, yeah, that was a funny one, because Vick and I had talked about it, but Vick had forgotten we'd talked about it, and I don't know if she sees it that way, but that was the way it went and I thought we were on the same page, but... What do you mean? Oh, when we talked about it, 'We might renew our vows', blah blah blah. And then I told you, and then it was just like... But I guess it wasn't set in stone. So I might have jumped the gun. What about, like, saying yes? Yeah, yeah, yeah. No. No, Andrew, because we talked about how we were both happy as friends and we were both going to make the same decision, and then we got there, and he'd changed his. So, on the vow renewal, you were expecting Andrew to say, 'Hey, friendship not relationship.' Yeah. She was expecting that, yeah, yeah. And Andrew certainly brought something that you really expressed a wish for through the application process. You wanted somebody that was affectionate and that was going to invest time, because that wasn't your experience from previous relationships. I tried that. It didn't work. (LAUGHS) Can you tell us something about that perhaps? It was just, like, because we'd just met, and it was just quite full on. So it was too soon? Too soon, yeah. You wanted it from a relationship, but it was too soon. Yeah, yeah. Like, someone that you're, like, in love with, you want affection from, not someone you just met straight away. Was there a time where it did manage to go beyond the friend zone and it did become something more intimate between the two? (CHUCKLES) Nah, that's, uh` that's private stuff, um... (CHUCKLES) Uh, so, nah, I'm not going to discuss that. That's between us. That's cool. That's totally fine. I've said that since day one. I haven't told the cameras. I haven't told anyone that kind of stuff. It's no one's business except for ours. I think, at least for you, Vicky, you didn't feel that initial spark at first, but you were there and... Well, I mean, yeah, we came into this for a reason. Like, I'm not one to give up so easily, and I don't think Andy is either, so we've... I've never quit anything. Yeah, well, we gave it a good shot. We both put everything into it. So, you know, at least we can say we gave it a good go. A little bit of an elephant in the room. Do you regret those texts that were such a big feature? Oh, 100%. 100%. Um... I know he has said that I was the one messaging him. To clear that up, he messaged me first. I replied, and I 100% regret everything I said, but I was honest about it. I told Andrew, I told Bel, and I cut contact straight away. And I say 100% that's not OK, I know that, but I tried to make amends and I tried to do the right thing, because that's not what I'm about. I'm not that type of person. TONY: What about the group dynamic? How did that help or hinder your relationship? Well, like, it gave us a chance to get away from each other, like, maybe too much, you know? What do you mean? What do you mean? What are you talking about? Like, Brett and Angel didn't come to any of our things, and they have gone so well, and then I look at everyone else around us and they are all hanging out and stuff and it hasn't worked. Do you think that's the reason everyone didn't work out? No, but I don't think it helped. Um, we should have been working on ourselves more than other people's things. I don't think so. To be honest, if I didn't have, like, Ben, for instance, to go and have a coffee with to have some space, I feel like we would have bitten each other's heads off. Probably, yeah. The important thing to hear is just that that's how Andrew felt. That was Andrew's perspective, That's how he felt. You feel differently, and you had quite a unique friendship with Ben and other members, which was a support, as you described. He was there for me too. Likewise. So, going forward, are you going to stay friends? Of course, yeah, 100%. Will you remain in each other's lives? We've already hung out heaps since. Yeah, and you're happy to have met each other through this? She's great. I will not say a bad word against this girl. Well, we are really pleased that at least a strong and wonderful friendship has ensued out of this experience and we wish you` She's going to fall for me one day, I'm sure. (LAUGHTER) You're going to keep on trying. And we wish you all the best for the future, and it's been lovely` Well, I appreciate you guys bringing us together, you know? Like, it's... Thank you. It's been lovely to see you. Yeah. Come up and give us a... (APPLAUSE) After the break ` Ben doesn't hold back from Aaron. I hated you. (INTENSE MUSIC) So, Ben and Aaron, we would love to invite you to the couch. No, thanks. Go the gays! Go the gays! (LAUGHS) 'No, thanks' PANI: Lovely to see you both. Yes. And we are looking forward to seeing your journey. This is going to be terrible. Argh! (APPLAUSE) Hiya. Ben, nice to meet you. Aaron. Thank God, I'm attracted. Yeah, he's definitely my type. As soon as I saw him, I thought, 'They got this wrong.' From day one, Ben struggled to find an attraction to Aaron. I'm a pretty optimistic person. The worst that could happen is that we really clash. While Aaron tried to show affection... Why do they have to keep showing this? (LAUGHTER) ANDREW: (LAUGHS) Shit. ...Ben continued to put up walls,... I was quite surprised that they had matched me with you. I know that you would not want to move to Christchurch. Am I right in saying that? 100%. Like, I would probably rather swallow razor blades than live anyone else in New Zealand at this point. ...pushing the tension to breaking point. I have four weeks to decide if I am going to drop my entire (BLEEP)ing life for you. I don't know how much more attention you can give, like, another person. Like, I am with this guy 24-7. No way in hell am I going to be uplifting my life for that. Insecurities started creeping in. Aaron's decided to spend the day with his mate 'Dan', who is in fact his ex-boyfriend, so... TONY: Has trust and loyalty been broken in previous relationships? Hell yeah, yeah. That's why, like, I'm still single and going through this experiment in the first place. But despite some good times... To Ben. Yes! ...and Aaron's attempts to make it work,... Doing that post-grad year overseas. I think that would be really good. ...in the end, Ben had other ideas. From the moment we married, I've maintained you didn't fit the brief physically and who I was looking for for a partner. It's been my biggest challenge, which is why today I can no longer carry on this relationship with you. I think I'm just still a bit shell-shocked. All I can do is kind of move on with my life, and I can say that I gave it a good shot and put everything I had into it. So, you know, that's all I can do. Well... (LAUGHS) So, how do you feel? What are your reflections on seeing that now? Watching it back, I kind of feel like I could maybe come across less harsh. Mm. Like, I feel like I've always been quite like that as a person ` very, like, straight forward and that kind of thing. And that's great, but in hindsight, it's kind not the nicest way to go about things. So, that's what I've learnt about myself. Like, I don't necessarily approach things with the nicest attitude. No, and I think... (LAUGHS) I'm not going to disagree with you there. I'm trying to reach out to you here, Ben. The honesty that we see with you is the honesty that comes from what you're feeling inside, but we see it on your face. So, yes, it looks exactly as you've reflected it. It's not ideal, it's not preferred, but also it's a deeper layer of the level of honesty that you brought. Maybe too much. Yeah, but, look, yeah, I'm proud of that, though. Like, I was never going to sit there and lie to Aaron and be like, 'Oh, you are really my type,' and just go with that and lead him along like that. That's not what I'm about. I think that's wrong. Do you think you closed off too soon? Because it was pretty early on. Yeah, yeah, I think being out where we were for the first like couple of days was a mistake. We were cut off from the world. I really think that was a bad idea, because I got to a point where I was like, I hated you. But, like, I didn't hate you, but I was just like, 'Oh my God, like, I don't want to deal with it.' So, yeah, 100%, like, we were just around each other the whole time and I was like, 'No"' I don't think there was any mystery about how Ben was feeling throughout. When it was so challenging and it was so hard, why did you just stick to it, just stick around? I looked at the experiment as the entire purpose of it was it was going to be hard, issues were going to come up, and my past relationships that hadn't worked, something had come up, I'd kind of been like, 'Ugh, this isn't working. This isn't a good match. I'm out.' The whole premise of it for me was to push me out of that comfort zone and go, 'OK, this has come up and usually this is where I'd walk away, 'but this time, no, I actually need to push past that and continue on.' And, you know, there's all the social media stuff saying, 'Oh, Aaron, you should just drop out now,' that would just defeat the entire purpose of it. You know, then it just becomes a date. So that, for me, is what kept it going. I was like, 'This is a bit shit right now, but push past and see if we can fix it.' So that commitment to the process. Yeah. This is a little bit of a tricky question, but I am going to ask it because I think people want to know. When you caught up with your ex-boyfriend, was that an attempt to make Ben jealous at all? No, not at all. So, it's a funny one, because I hadn't even thought about that when I went to hang out with him. So it came as quite a shock in the therapy session and I was like, 'Oh my god, you're an idiot, Aaron,' because I really hadn't even considered it. So, no, definitely not an attempt to get you jealous. So, Ben, the dinner party. It's my favourite night. Oh really? Best night of your life. Any regrets? Anything that you would have changed or...? Um,... I definitely would have had less wine. I don't think I got my point across as eloquently as I would have liked to, but otherwise, you know, like, I was going in to bat for a couple of other people at that table, so I don't regret it. There were a lot of feelings that were hurt at that table and prior to that night. I think that someone needed to stand up and say something, and that was myself and Vicky and Andrew. So no regrets. Hey, so, Aaron, when Ben didn't renew his vows, you seemed quite shocked. How come it came as such a surprise to you? I think because, you know, on that week apart before the vow renewal, we had this discussion around, 'Hey, right now, it's not great. We are getting along all right. 'We have fun when we're together,' and at that point we were saying, 'We would both be silly to drop out at the end of the six-week mark 'because if there's something potential there, 'why not give it a further shot once the stress and the cameras are all gone and 'a bit of normality back to life has returned, maybe that's going to help things.' I think I talked to you maybe two days before the vow renewal and was like, 'Hey, am I in for any surprises?' And I think you said no, which um... So, yeah, a bit of a shock at the end, but also ` in the nicest way possible ` a bit of a relief. I think you would have felt that as well. Yeah. All the pressure came off and being able to then kind of reflect on it and actually look at, hey, we gave it a really good shot. We made it to the six-week mark, and I think we've got to pat ourselves on the back for that as a whole. What happened for you, Ben, to change your mind? It wasn't so much that I'd changed my mind. At the end of the six weeks, there was still no chemistry or, like, physical attraction between us, and I just thought, 'This has become a friendship,' like, which would be great if this was like the Sweet Valley Of The Travelling Pants, but it's not. It's Married at First Sight, and, you know, it's marriage, it's not a friendship. As a person, Aaron` OK, and no offence, Aaron is the best guy, like, in the room. Like, he is like the sweetest guy. Why would anybody be offended to that? (LAUGHTER) Because this is the side that I believe that we've only seen glimpses of. This is the side that` And it's OK to say positive things. Like, I wouldn't have done the experiment with anyone else, to be honest. Like, we had so much fun. It was great fun, and that's why, like, we are good friends. Like, at the end of this, no matter what was said or what's been done, we can still put that aside and just be like, 'You know, that's cool.' We've got to point now where we've just kind of... We just laugh about it. Yeah, we can laugh about it. What's done is done and just... Yeah. It's been fantastic to have you both here, and I look forward to hearing more about the friendship, so thanks very much for your time. (APPLAUSE) Aw, nice to see you. Still to come ` the truth about Brett and Angel. You know, we knew the risk, like everyone here, coming into it and, um... Like, I can't believe how much my life has changed. PANI: So, Brett and Angel, lovely to see you again. For Brett and Angel, it was love at first sight. Hey, how are you? Nice to meet you. I'm Brett. I'm Angel. The first time in my life, I'm honestly speechless. Tall, dark and handsome. I was like, 'Spot on the money.' I promise to ensure that every day you will feel like you've hit the wife jackpot. (LAUGHTER) Man she's way better than I ever imagined. I feel like I've won the lotto, eh. It's been so surreal. But on their honeymoon, insecurities crept in,... You seem to be happy to jump in here with me after one day. Is there anything that actually scares you? My main fear is, um, rejection. To think that he couldn't have feelings for me at the end of this, it's actually terrifying to me. ...which in the end, only cemented their bond. (LAUGHS) What are you doing? Welcome to Lincoln. Whoo! Yeah, I couldn't be happier with my wife. Oh, cheers. (LAUGHS) I'm just stoked with how it's all going, and it just gets better and better, really. TONY: What's behind the tears? I didn't know what kind of person I imagined being with. But now I can. (LAUGHS) I don't even know life before Brett any more. Who was that girl? Time apart set them new challenges. I've been living in the experiment bubble. Will his feelings still stay the same? Like, is this really real? But their love couldn't be broken. I truly believe that this wedding, our wedding, would be the best day of my life. It was. Brett Renall, there is no doubt in mind I will spend the rest of my life with you. You are the one. I feel very humble and blessed to be your husband. I look forward to laughing together, to adventures, you moving to Lincoln, and one day starting a family of our own. And right now, I truly believe I've hit the wife jackpot. (LAUGHS) Yeah I feel like we were both looking for someone to laugh and smile with. Life has changed, and it will forever be different. But it's a good different. I'm pretty stoked that we know already about our future. But we already knew this from the first day. (CHEERING) TONY: So guys, you're both quite emotional. How does it feel seeing that play back? Yeah it's pretty surreal. We just both feel` Um, you know, we knew the risk, like everyone here, coming into it, and we're just so thankful to you guys and to everyone really that we're just` Yeah, we feel like we've hit the jackpot, yeah, for the third time. We'd both got to a point in life where, you know, couldn't find someone and here we are and just it couldn't have gone any better, really. And we're just stoked about it. We just wanted to hear a little bit more about how the experiment went for you. Because it wasn't, like, always smooth sailing. Mm. So I think me and Brett are really lucky because we had, like, an instant connection, and we were just so open with each other, and as we've gone on, the most intense thing about it is 24-7 you're living with someone for 30 days, so you kinda learn each other's emotions pretty quick, like when he's hangry or when I'm hangry, and it's those kind of ones that are, like, I think the make or break. (LAUGHS) But the thing about it is now that we've done this and we've come out, like, I literally feel like me and Brett, like, what can't we achieve together? Yeah, I mean we've just communicated together really well, and we've just laughed and joked the whole way through it and not taken it too seriously and just being really open minded and positive and listened as well, I think. Can you give an example of that? Of just that listening and just that communication that you've spoken about? I guess if you get put into a bush bath, you gotta talk about something, eh? (LAUGHTER) And you've only known this person for 36 hours. But, no, I think we both are such similar people. I think you guys have done a great job matching us. We're two peas in a pod. We're just the same and, yeah, nah, it's all worked out well. Yeah. Like, I can't believe how much my life has changed, and now I have, for the first time in my life, I just really know my future and, like, that's awesome. Yeah. And so we know that you've decided to move down to Lincoln. How was that decision for you to really sort of change your life to be with Brett? I would've gone on the plane in a second if I could. (LAUGHS) Another thing with me and Brett, we were willing give up anything to find love and happiness, and he's got his business and he was willing to give it up, and I would've` I would've done exactly the same thing. I think we're the kind of people that will take a realistic approach. Not plan too far ahead but at least we've got someone to plan it with this time. And I think that's one of the things that we wanted to really acknowledge you for. You really put your trust in the process of the experiment, you had some hurdles, you seem to be able to communicate through those, and I think you're sort of reaping the rewards of working really hard to trust the process and really focus on your relationship with each other and build that secure foundation that I think has led to the strong relationship we see between you. So we just really want to acknowledge the hard work you've done to get to where you are. Well, I feel like the happiest ` or now the luckiest ` human on earth, basically. Same. Yeah, very lucky. So moving forward, are you planning of doing some vow renewal in Lincoln? Yeah, obviously the wedding was quite small, so, yeah, we would love to have a second wedding. Um, and, yeah, I guess I'll have to buy an engagement ring I guess. (LAUGHS) More signs too. It's good for business. Very smart. She deserves a big ring, so now I have to sell a heap of signs. Aw! Gonna start with a French bulldog first and then we'll work towards a family. But we'll start small with a dog and work from there. Yeah. OK, well, please keep us posted on everything. And we look forward to watching your beautiful journey unfold and hopefully you have years ahead of you to grow old together and have a wonderful life. Yep, thank you so much. Yeah, thank you. Thank you all being here tonight. We're so proud of you for being part of this process, for putting your trust in us, and taking this leap of faith in your search to find love. We just wish you all the best for the future. Shot. Thank you. Thanks, guys. Thank you so much. (LAUGHTER) (INDISTINCT CONVERSATIONS) Thank you. Thank you. Aw! Do the hug. ...with Jay-Jay, Dom and Randell with breakfast on The Edge, bringing you Married At First Sight NZ. It's been a real privilege to be a part of the show. I never thought I'd get picked. The experiment was great. Like, I have no regrets. There's nothing I would've changed. Went through some crazy emotional stuff that I've never experienced ever in my entire life. I don't know if the success rate is possibly what we were looking for. The experimented, my final word is that it's crazy. Crazy. There's been a few ups and downs, but I am actually really sad it's all over. I learnt a lot about myself. A lot. I think I've handled myself well and been myself. Goodbye, New Zealand. Thank you for everything. I'll probably just piss off back across the ditch now. See you later. I've found the perfect woman in Angel, and, yeah, it does seem very surreal. It has been completely amazing and changed my life, and it couldn't have gone any better. Captions by Ingrid Lauder. Captions were made with the support of NZ On Air.