I don't know what love is, but when I met her first time, that instant connection was there, you know? The quest for love isn't always easy. Finding a groom is worse than looking for a job. But what happens when love comes after marriage... In our tradition, girls never have romance before the marriage. ...and your family has the final say over who you marry? So, before the marriage, will you allow the girl to talk with the boy? I had no idea who she was. I was ready to say no, but when I saw him, I said yes. (CHEERING) Meet the Kiwis who are putting their tradition first and their parents in charge of choosing Mr or Mrs Right. Seriously, I'm so nervous. Copyright Able 2018 It's not always easy looking for love in a small town, so kiwifruit contractor Gurjeevan found his bride to be on a matrimonial website. I rang my parents, and I said, 'I talked to this girl, and she seems to be a nice girl. 'So now it's` I'm not deciding anything. I want you to talk to her mum.' Gurjeevan is a Kiwi bachelor who let his parents decide who his wife will be. Now he's just three weeks away from marrying Japjot, a woman who he has met just twice. Yeah, just getting ready for the wedding now. All right. Yeah, I'm feeling excited. Uh, not scared, but a little bit nervous, cos lots of things I have to do by myself. It's hard to find a nice girl in Opotiki. Yep, yep. It's hard. Unless some magic happens, you know. Yeah, because we're always busy in the sheds. What time are you gonna go and find girl? Gurjeevan moved to New Zealand eight years ago and is now running kiwifruit gangs in Opotiki. His bride will be coming from a very different background. She's from Brisbane. Yeah. And we got in touch through the internet. I met her twice. While Gurjeevan has created a successful career for himself, it hasn't always been easy transitioning into a Kiwi life. I came here in 2008, so I'm a little bit stuck in-between with the Kiwi culture and an Indian-background culture, so, you know, the food, the clothes, the way you talk and the way you think, I feel like I'm sandwiched. Like, I want to get settled. You know, I got a nice job. I feel like I need a partner whom I can share my feelings with and my experiences. So I feel arranged marriage is good for me at this stage. Moving to rural New Zealand from the big city of Brisbane will take some adjusting for the bride-to-be. Life in Opotiki, I think it will be a little bit hard for Japjot in the beginning. She's from a place where it's crowded, you know. You got green lights, red lights. We don't have anything here in Opotiki like that. It's a small town. I know Japjot is making big sacrifices, and it's my duty now to look after her and prove her right that she is making the good decision to marry me, so, yeah, I will try my level best to look after her and keep her happy in her life. In Brisbane, accountant Japjot is preparing for the move. She was born and raised in India and grew up knowing she was destined for an arranged marriage. Everyone was asking, 'When is Japjot getting married?' So my mother was making matrimonial profiles, you know, on different websites and putting advertisements in newspapers. So, it all started with my mother. Her mother initiated the match, but the decision to wed was all Japjot's. Making this decision was definitely not an easy one. I have sacrificed so much for Gurjeevan. Leaving my job, my career, and then I have to leave my family, you know, my brother, who's been there with me since my childhood. Rashid, I think we're getting late for work. Yeah, let's have a quick breakfast. Since my father passed away, I've been with my brother. He took over both the roles. I'm sad. Like, it's gonna be new beginnings, new life, new chapter. When I spoke to Gurjeevan the very first time, sounded like a genuine guy. The only worry is that she's moving to a very peaceful place with very little people, big, big wide roads, no traffic, so I'm just a bit worried that she might be bored. Japjot is my sister, fantastic person, very, very pure, very honest, simple, so I think there will be a big gap in day-to-day life and missing her. But we're happy, very happy, for her. I also love New Zealand, so I have a reason to probably visit four times a year, so... (CHUCKLES) All right, you have a good day. Thank you. You too. See you. See you. 26-year-old radio DJ Jilesh is one of Auckland's most eligible Indian bachelors. Yo! What is up, everyone? (ALL CHEER) He's had lots of luck with the ladies, but now he's ready to settle down. I've had a lot of fun, you know. I've lived my life. So I want to get married. It's a beautiful thing. The sooner you start beautiful things in your life, the better it is, isn't it? Hello. Hi. I'm just for a haircut. Sure. Come take a place. When it comes to finding a life partner, Jilesh, like most Kiwi Indians, has a choice between modern dating and traditional matchmaking. So, I'm 26 right now. I actually do want to get married. Like I feel I wanna get married. So how will you know when you meet her, then? Good question. On the cultural background that I come from, you can either go with an option of arranged marriage or love marriage. I've never met anyone that's had an arranged marriage before. Really? Like, it sounds kinda crazy. So, with arranged marriage, the involvement of family is super important, so I've not really involved my parents into it. I've not really told them that this is what I want and can you help me. But it's an option that's open. I'm also open to the idea of finding my soulmate myself. Do you fall in love before you get married in an arranged marriage? When do you really fall in love? It's a continual thing, isn't it? It just keeps on happening. You see, the thing is it's so difficult to find the perfect girl, and with me, I also have, like, specific things that I'm looking for in a girl. So, I don't smoke, I don't drink and I'm a vegetarian. So it makes it even harder. I'm feeling pressured as to ` 'Will I really get there, and if I do, in what time period?' Not wanting to waste time and still hoping to find someone himself, Jilesh is at an Indian club on the lookout for love. Tonight, I'm gonna go to Bollywood Affair. It's a place where a lot of young Indians celebrate Bollywood music. And it's also a place where a lot of new love stories begin. Helping him in his search are good friends Simiron and Lipsa. I think he is serious. He does talk about it quite a bit. So I know he's serious to get married. It's just finding the right girl. Sure there will be girls out there that know who you are already. Really? Like, 'Oh my God, Jilesh!' Right? I'm good. How are you? Told you. What's up? See, it's already starting. I'm just gonna go up there, you know, have a good time, dance, and also maybe meet somebody really interesting. Maybe my potential wife is there, you never know. (LAUGHS) (BASSY MUSIC PLAYS) I don't think Bollywood parties is a place where I can find love. Love can happen there, but Bollywood parties are not for me. After another disappointing night out, Jilesh is meeting family friend Lipsa to reconsider his options. Do you think modern dating hasn't worked for you because you're so picky? Partially, yes. So I think honesty is something that I look for and qualified. When I say 'qualified', all I mean is` You mean has an education? Good IQ, yeah. Good IQ, that's it. Education, formal education, doesn't matter. But just great IQ would turn me on. So would you prefer choosing a girl in India or in New Zealand? Oh, I haven't really thought about it, but I love New Zealand. I'm not leaving New Zealand ever. What about looks? I wouldn't want anybody who was presentable, if that makes sense. And someone who just smells great, that's it. If you are unable to find a girl for yourself, what's the next best option? The next best option is you take suggestions from people who are near and dear to you. Yeah. (CHUCKLES) I know he's tried a lot to do it on his own, and it's been super difficult. I think he needs people to help him now. Falling in love before the wedding is not expected in an arranged marriage, especially after one meeting, but for Gurjeevan, it may have been love at first sight. Japjot and I met the first time. That instant connection was there, you know? I don't know what love is, but I think this is love. Japjot and her family travelled to Opotiki for a traditional engagement ceremony, but Gurjeevan was planning a more romantic surprise. I put this note in this bottle, and I hide this bottle somewhere in the bushes, and then I went` I took Japjot, I said, 'Let's go for a walk.' And when she was walking, I said, 'Hey, people just throw rubbish.' I said, 'Can you please just pick this bottle and we throw it out in the rubbish bin.' And then she picked this bottle, and she was like, 'Hey, that's got a message in it.' I said, 'Oh, OK, what is it?' She started reading it. It says, 'You are the one who is made for me. 'You are the one who's best for me. You are the one who's sent for me. 'And you are the only one who should marry me. 'Darling, will you marry me?' By that time, I was on my knees, and then she looked at me, and I had a ring ` a nice ring in my hand ` and I said, 'Do you accept my proposal,' and she was like, 'Yes, yes, I do.' We holded hands of each other, and I just had a small kiss on my cheek. And she said, 'The rest will be done later.' So, fine, that's more than enough. Gurjeevan's proposal was 30-year-old Japjot's first experience of romantic love. Has there been any romance, like holding hands, maybe kissing, I don't know? I don't know how it happened that we just held each other's hand. Aw. Like, we just felt that he's the one for me, and I'm sure he felt the same. So you do feel excited. You do feel excited to move in with him... Yes. ...and start a life with him. You do feel excited? Yes, I do. Definitely, I do. OK, that's very important. That's quite different from my experience. Oh, what was your experience? I wasn't sure. I think I was just excited to move from Singapore to Brisbane, but, yeah, I was just freaking out. I mean, it was quite a shock to the system. Once I started living with somebody who had completely different habits from mine, and... I mean, even the dishes stayed in the sink for three days. Oh, wow. And then I slowly had to train him, you know what I mean? Yeah. Yeah, but, you know, little things annoyed me, and little things just got on my nerves. I just felt, yeah, like really alone and I just didn't know where to go as well. Do you even know the area pretty well? Not at all. I've only been there once. Literally, like, I cannot feel right now that I'm really going, like, not coming back. Do you know any of his friends or...? Not at this stage. (CHUCKLES) OK. I think all of these doubts and worries are normal in an arranged marriage. Nobody's guaranteeing anything. I've seen arranged marriages fail. I've seen love marriages fail as well, so it all comes down to two individuals working hard on each other, working hard on themselves to keep that relationship alive. Celebrity DJ Jilesh is looking for marriage, but finding a woman who's ready to make the same commitment is proving difficult. My search for my lady continues. I am still looking for that somebody special. But lucky for Jilesh, he has the option of an arranged marriage. I have involved my mum and dad now, so they will help me find, you know, my soul mate, hopefully. Arranged marriage to me is a lot of giving and a lot of accepting. It's time now that I change my area of search, where, you know, I get my family members involved, and, you know, they pretty much do the searching for me, rather than me going bar-hopping. While his parents begin looking in Mumbai, his best friend Lipsa and her mother, Sunil, have taken up the challenge of trying to find the perfect wife here in New Zealand. So, you can say I'm second mum here. He is quite open to me. He's quite honest. Like, he will let you know what he thinks or what he feels, so he comes and talks to me about any problem he's got, like any girl he likes. I hope you're taking this whole thing seriously. Oh, 100%. So have you talked to your mum about it? I have. You have. Yeah. What does she think about this whole thing? She thought I was joking initially, because she thought this was another radio thing that I'm doing just, you know, for fun, kinda thing. Yeah. I am very, very serious. I just do not want to waste any time any more. So I'm comfortable with the idea of you, my mum, my dad finding me a girl and showing her to me. What kinda girl are you looking for? Like, are you looking for a traditional girl or a modern girl? I don't know, actually. (LAUGHS) That's a very good question. Pretty flexible, actually. Pretty flexible. Just somebody who's open-minded. Yeah. Will you marry before falling in love? Oh my God, um... Falling in love is a very long and lengthy process. Having said that, I must like that person enough to risk marriage on that liking. The girl who is gonna marry you, like, the really lucky one. (LAUGHS) He's a celebrity here for Indian comedy, so for Jilesh the perfect girl will be understanding. He's got lots of fans, so you have to be mindful of the people, like, they follow him. So you don't always get attention. He gets attention. (LAUGHS) The first stop in any Hindu arranged marriage search is the temple, where the community is always willing to offer up their own matchmaking suggestions. He is a radio jockey with Radio Tarana. All right. Yeah. He's very popular. I am looking for a girl who's homely and educated. Educated. Yes, educated. And family-oriented. So what height do you need? What should be the height? Oh, he's quite tall. That's why I ask the question. A man should not be of my height. No. Beauty or looking for everything together? No, I don't think he's much into beauty, but like, of course, well-presented, well-looking, well-groomed girl. So, before the marriage, will you allow the girl to talk with the boy? Yes, we are fine with that. That is the trend. There is a trend like it's OK if they want to meet a couple of times. We'll find a girl for Jilesh. (LAUGHS) Yeah. Thank you. Thank you. Thanks a lot. VO: 'When you book a flight with Expedia,' 'and add a hotel or activity,' 'you can save.' 'Everything you need to go.' Bride-to-be Japjot's arranged marriage is fast approaching, and she's been dreaming about it since she was a little girl. In my dream, I would want my groom to look like an actual prince. You know, coming on a horse and the rose petals falling on me when he's around me. That's my dream wedding. Thank you very much. So, tell me, what are you wearing? It's like a semi-traditional dress. What's Gurjeevan wearing? We are literally struggling for the outfit, because I wanted him to be traditional as well. Cos I'm a little bit particular about matching and looking really compatible. He's still trying to find something? Still trying, yeah. So he must be feeling pretty stressed out, right? Um... Just a little. Maybe, yeah, I think so. (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) He better get used to it. The marriage is a week away, so the pressure is on for Gurjeevan to find an outfit befitting Japjot's dream wedding. Strict instruction is just with my clothes. She just wants a particular colour which is gonna match with her dress. It's heavy. It looks like a big rain coat. (CHUCKLES) I feel like a magician. Now you're ready. It's too` too, um... glittery, sparkling. There will be lots and lots of things happening that day, so I'll be nervous. I just want to be relaxed, you know? Clothes are really important. Once you get that confidence in your clothes, then you will feel good, you know, then you will definitely look good. Japjot will be happy seeing me wearing this. But I'm 50-50 at this stage ` should I go with three-piece suit or should I just go with this one. Today marks the start of Gurjeevan and Japjot's Sikh wedding ceremonies. And the beginning of a process that will hopefully result in the couple finding true love. A little bit nervous. Just waiting for Japjot now. The bride, who has not seen the groom for eight months, has just arrived in New Zealand with a small group of her family. Welcome. The two families have chosen to combine pre-wedding ceremonies into one day, bringing them together in the same room for the first time. (SPEAKS FOREIGN LANGUAGE) Please. Family compatibility is just as important as the bridge and groom's in an arranged marriage. But it's not always easy getting to know each other. The situation's gotten a bit tight. Maybe after the food, it will get everybody relaxed. When I was sitting there and all the family members were coming one by one and giving me blessings, I was like, 'Oh, yes, it's happening now.' (LAUGHTER) They give that little sweet to my brother. My brother eats half of that. If he gives it to somebody else who's single, like they'll get married first. But it seems Gurjeevan's brothers are not so sweet on marriage. (ALL LAUGH) During the mayian cleansing ceremony, the attention on Gurjeevan intensifies. There were close to five to seven cameramen, you know, around me. Somebody wanted me to take photos from this side, from left-hand side. Somebody wanted me from right-hand side. Somebody was like, 'Oh, smile. Just go like this. 'Go like this. Go like this.' So, it was a little bit funny. It's Japjot's turn to beautify before the wedding tomorrow. I think I was just going with the flow. Like, I was excited, and I was a bit nervous as well. (WOMEN SING) Yeah, I am nervous now. It's actually happening, you know? We have been planning for months and months and months. And now it's actually happening, so it's like real. In his hunt for a life partner, radio DJ Jilesh is using both the modern and the traditional approach to matchmaking. Hi. Hello. What's up? So while his parents seek out an arranged marriage in India, in Auckland Jilesh and his best friend Lipsa has taken his search to social media. The search for arranged marriage, you can actively be looking for an arranged marriage on social media, and then get your parents' approval and stuff, and it's arranged. And that's exactly what I'm doing now. I thought to myself that if we already have an audience, then I might want to leverage on what we've already created. What are your thoughts on arranged marriages? How many people are up for love marriage? Love, love. Oh, Chalene says arranged marriage. Hamil says arranged marriage. Arranged marriages are best, but love marriages are the best of best. There is actually an even amount of people saying love and arranged. OK, guys, so Jilesh is trying to look for a future wife, so can you help him out, please? Sandi Ashar says, 'Jilesh, will you marry my sister? She is smart and beautiful.' Totally. I will marry your sister. His fans have delivered. Jilesh is on his way to his first arranged blind date. I know nothing about this girl, like absolutely nothing. Could he be one step closer to finding a woman who is ready for marriage? I'm just hoping to have a good chat. I'm hoping to learn a lot of things about the girl. And I'm hoping to just enjoy the food and enjoy the time with her. But as the minutes tick by, it appears Jilesh's arranged meeting could be over before it begins. This is so embarrassing. Radio personality Jilesh is hoping to settle down and leave his bachelor days behind him. But it appears his first arranged date might have cold feet. This is so embarrassing. What's up? Hello. Hi. I'm Natalie. Hi, Natalie. Jilesh. Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you. This is Ravi, my friend. Hi, Ravi. Nice to see you too. After an anxious wait, his potential match has arrived, and keeping with arranged marriage tradition, it will be a chaperoned date. So, those jingles on Tarana, is that you? That's... Oh, you listen to Tarana? Yeah. No way. I'm in. Really? (LAUGHS) You know? It's important. My annoying ads. Yeah, no, they're good. They're good. I'll get the lamb biryani, please. I'm a vegetarian, so I'll` Oh, you're a vegetarian? Oh. I'll go with anything vegetarian. Thank you. Are your mum and dad cool about you having alcohol? Yeah, they're all right with it. I think it's cos you're an adult, and they can't really be like, 'Stop.' Makes sense. Exactly, right. How about your parents, are they strict about it? I don't have alcohol. Oh, you don't? No, no, no. What kind of life partner do you want? Oh, I just think somebody who's stable, you know what I mean? You mean mentally stable? Mental` Oh, emotionally, financially. Oh, sweet, thank you. Thank you. So, what are you looking for in a life partner or a wife? I'm into the match of intellect than anything else. Somebody who can just hold conversations with me. Oh, that's good. At the end of the day, being able to talk to the right person is the most crucial part, right? Communication. This is so good. This is the mashed potato. Mm-hm. You just do that. Yeah. Some chutney. Yeah. That's it. Very neatly. And just that. Oh, wow. In your mouth, all together. Mmm. You like it? So good. How important do you think family is to you? For me, my parents trust that they've raised me well for me to make my own decisions. It's like, I can have feelings for a guy. What's a real-life example? Cool. What if you like me? Yeah. But your mum doesn't like me. Yeah. My mum and my dad are opinions. I would make the decision at the end of the day. That's what they know. How about you when it comes to your parents, you know, your family life? Like, how important are your family? To me, my parents' opinion is a little bit more than an opinion. Oh, that's important. That's good. I mean, so would you say you're a mamma's boy? Oh, 100%. 100%. You're a mamma's boy? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think we would be compatible in a friendship way. But I couldn't probably see him be someone I would want to spend the rest of my life with, you know what I mean? She ticks some of the boxes. But I wouldn't say all of the boxes. She did not really click that I would really wanna marry her. So, I was born and raised here, so I think I'm a little bit more modern. I think he's the ideal Indian husband, but that's just not me. I mean, yeah, nah. Nah. It's the morning of the wedding of Gurjeevan and Japjot and the dawning of a partnership between two people brought together by arranged marriage. Nervous and excited at the same time. I woke up at 5. It's being going on since then. As a traditional Indian bride, marriage for Japjot means putting her husband and his family's needs before her own. My mum's sad. We were talking last night, so both of us felt a bit heavy. And I'm gonna cry right now. Aw. I can't cry, right? Oh, you can't. (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) It's coming. We've seen so many things together. So I will miss her. She will go to her world. I will go back to my place. I think it's hard for the girl, cos she has to change the house, you know. The people around her are gonna be different. The surroundings. Gotta make new friends in the city. For Japjot, it's totally hard because it's a change of country. I really want myself to be 100% today. All the eyes on me. So I hope I look good. Gurjeevan's chosen a modern suit despite his bride's wishes for something more traditional. I knew that this will be pretty much close to what she was thinking, you know. It's not the same, but it's pretty much close. I think she will be OK once she knows the colour is matching her dress. Yeah, it is a big moment. A few more minutes and then everything starts. Ceremony, see you guys there. I was sneaking in. Then I saw Gurjeevan. You know, he was looking handsome. The wedding suit, it was really good. You know, it matched my outfit and was just what I wanted. Just like a prince. As Japjot waits, Gurjeevan must bribe her bridesmaids before he can enter the temple and marry his bride. The girls, they put the ribbon there, and we have to just cut it to enter in. So they want some sort of present, so if we don't give them anything, they will not let us cut the ribbon. 500 is too much. Even my suit is not worth $500. (LAUGHTER) They are asking for 500. We will start from a $1. No! (ALL CHATTER, CHEER) The deal is done. The wedding can proceed. (SINGS IN FOREIGN LANGUAGE) It is the moment I've been waiting for. It's here now. (SINGING) It's happening. I hear, you know, the jewellery and the ornaments she was wearing, the anklets. Like, she's close. We just had eye contact. I can feel happiness in her eyes, and that made me feel more happy and strong from inside that, yes, we are ready and prepared for this. The priest said the father of the bride and the groom should come and do the ritual. When he used the word 'father', I was emotional. I'm emotional again. (EXHALES) Since my father's gone, my brother, he's the one who's given all the support and all the brotherly and the fatherly advice that, you know, one can give. (SINGING) When the ceremony was done and we came and we sit, it was a big, big relief. And the priest said to everyone, 'Now you are husband and wife.' (PRIEST SPEAKS IN FOREIGN LANGUAGE) When the ceremony was finished, Japjot came straight to the place where we were supposed to have lunch. When I started walking from there, I have lots and lots of friends, you know. They were just coming one by one. So, yeah, I struggled maybe half an hour. And she waited for me. (SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY) I wasn't alone. I had my family, so I got some moments with my mother and, you know, my brother as well, so it was good. But I really don't know why that happened. (LAUGHS) Finally, the bride and groom are together as husband and wife. Having that meal together, it was that feeling like, you know, now you're husband and wife, and we can share anything and everything together. And this is beginning. (WOMEN SING) (SOBS) Oh, the hardest part was leaving. It did feel like I am leaving behind my family for the rest of my life. You know, it's not gonna be the same as it used to be, but I knew I'm getting into something really good as well. Me and Japjot's brother, we had a bit of a chat. He said to me, 'Look after her.' And I said, 'Definitely, I will.' Japjot will now move to small-town New Zealand to live with Gurjeevan, where they will begin the process of moving their relationship from platonic love to romantic love. Something big is done, you know. And it's a start of a new chapter. Half of our life is gone, Japjot. Now let's start a new beginning. But will Japjot be able to adapt to life in Opotiki? Right, ladies and gentlemen. Boys and girls. Smash it, bro. Come on, man. I feel like I'm watching the ICC (!) (LAUGHS) Over the last six months, bachelor Jilesh has utilised both modern and traditional approaches to finding a wife. Oh my God. But despite being open to having an arranged marriage, it's no easy run. How's wife search going on? I'm trying super hard, but there's nothing concrete that has come out of it. So still going on. If you have somebody, just let me know. Yeah? (LAUGHS) What have you been doing? I've actually been out on a blind date too, and I was saying that if you have somebody, I'm super keen to go on another one. OK, what type of person are you actually looking for, though? Oh, so what I've realised over time is that I'm really looking for somebody who is traditional, who shares the same value systems as I do. Don't smoke, don't drink, vegetarian. You might need to go to India. Do you think these people do not exist any more? Nah. They do. It's just about finding the right one. Well, clearly, he hasn't found the right one. (LAUGHS) Has your parents found anyone for you, Jilesh? They've suggested a few girls, yes, and I've also spoken to then on Skype and other things. What are they like? They're good. You like them? Yeah, they're cool. Do you feel any connections with them? There is. There definitely is one connection with one suggestion that my mum's had. She's really good. She's a fashion designer. She's super hard-working. She has a career, and the next time when I go Mumbai, I intend to meet her. Think she would be keen to move down here after marriage? I've asked her that, actually. And she is. Wait, so you guys have actually talked about marriage? We've talked about options for sure. Well, I had an arranged marriage. Did you? Yeah. Didn't take a long time to look for the perfect girl. I met her, like, two, three times. I just feel like it's a` She's a perfect match for me. Like, she's gearing for me, helping me and everything. I mean, like, my sister got an arranged marriage, actually. She was 28. She'd been in a lot of relationships and just never worked out for her. So she got an arranged marriage, and she's so happy right now. If you're in an arranged marriage, obviously both of you are at the same stage in life. And you're looking to, like, go buy a house, you're looking to settle down. So you're at that stage. I feel like arranged marriage is a calculated risk. I want my significant partner to be on the same page as me. So it's a risk that you're taking, but you like that somebody, so you basically placing that risk on the liking. It doesn't matter, like, if it's a love marriage or an arranged marriage, but love grows day by day. And the concept around arranged marriage, like love growing with time and things like that. And just families assisting you finding that person. True, true. The involvement of so many people into it. Yeah. I love it. Whoa, sixer! (LAUGHS) So, I'm actually very happy to be where I am right now. I am very clear right now as to what I really want. So, I'm really positive with what my mum's found me. And I does hope it does get eventually somewhere. But if not, I am still open. I'm looking for my options here in New Zealand as well. So, yeah, fingers crossed. You never know what happens. After a year-long engagement and only two meetings, Gurjeevan and Japjot are now one month into their arranged marriage, settling into small-town life in Opotiki. It's been going great, you know, living as husband and wife and, you know, sharing things and sharing breakfast and lunches and dinners together. Domestic life is going OK as well. It was just one thing the other day. Like, my habit is to put as soon as I finish eating, I, you know, rinse my dishes. And maybe Gurjeevan doesn't have that habit and he just left the dishes on the bench. So I just, you know, told him that was my feeling, and next morning, you know, all the dishes were clean, and the bench was clean, so, yeah, that was a happy feeling. (CHUCKLES) (RELAXED MUSIC) I am enjoying since I've come here. You know, look at the view. It's just beautiful land. I like painting, you know, poetry, and this is the best place. So my poem is 'Life is Nothing but a Journey.' 'It makes us all experience the flavours and tastes of sweet, bitter and honey. 'Life is nothing but a journey. 'They say wherever there is beginning, there is also an ending. 'That's the time when this journey called life gets a new meaning. 'Life is nothing but a journey.' Arranged marriage worked for me. I loved every second of it. If it's written in your fate, you will get what you deserve, so I deserve somebody nice, and she's here with me. So, you've tried oysters? Oysters, yes, but that mutton bird, this fresh kina,... Yeah. ...they all are new to me. That moki boneless... Fillets? Yeah. Fillets, yeah. So, you think it's gonna be easy for you to cope with the community here or, you know, with the food, it starts, eh? (LAUGHS) Ah, yes, I think the more I know, the more I'll be able to contribute as well and become a part to it. Yeah, nice. Yeah, we will try this one by one. Yeah. One day. There you go. Oh, thank you. Oh, cheers. Thank you. All right, thank you. I wasn't sure what was the definition of love. But now I can feel that sensation. Japjot being a part of me feels like I'm not alone, you know. I can relax, and I can feel happy not for myself but for somebody else. I think that's love. And I'm happy it happened to me. Love for me is... Japjot. Try New Zealand fish and chips. Oh, yum. You like it? Mm-hm. It's beautiful, eh? It is. I am in love. Every day, we're knowing, learning or exploring different areas. You know, you've never touched or you've not known about each other. You want to go slow. (CHUCKLES) We` It's like the rest of the life is in front of us, and, you know, we want to enjoy every bit of it. Hmm. I think I am one of the most luckiest person in this world. I have had an arranged marriage. I've never thought that it's gonna happen in such a beautiful way. Love is getting deeper and deeper every day. Captions by Antony Vlug. www.able.co.nz Captions were made with the support of NZ On Air. 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