Previously on Married at First Sight ` married life in Bali blossomed for some. Even though we just married a few days ago, it feels like we've been know each other for a long time. He loves me not. Oh hey. One more. He loves me! Whoo! But for others, it failed to fire. I'm not having barracuda. You are having barracuda. You need to calm down. I'm just gonna get out of here. I'm trying my hardest not to` for him not to see this side of me. Our couples met each other for the very first time. Congratulations. Thank you very much. What a (BLEEP) good-looking couple. And some made lasting first impressions. I personally will be friendly with other couples, but if they are mean to me, I'm gonna be 10 times meaner to them. Tonight ` a turbulent dinner party brings true feelings to the floor. How do you not know how to spell her name? He's so amazing. Is there any buts? Um... The honeymoon dates hit stormy waters. You need to step up as a husband. Stand further away. I can't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't like anything I do. And back in Auckland ` Oh, they're two-bedroom. the harsh reality of daily life sets in. (GROANS, EXCLAIMS) I wish there was a manhole so I could escape. Copyright Able 2018 Step one ` Buy Sodastream. Step two ` Save up to 2000 bottles a year by using one reusable bottle. Step three ` Planet saved. Step four ` watch Married at First Sight NZ, thanks to Sodastream. With three days left for our honeymooners in Bali, there's a new page to turn in their wedding albums. Tonight's dinner party is a chance for our couples to take their relationships to another level by interacting in a social setting. I actually used to wear a billboard as a job. What? Yes, you've got to tell us this, mate. Go on. What, like, for a pizza shop? She thinks she's very social. But she actually pulls back and is quite shy and likes to observe the group before she engages. yes, exactly. She's reserved. So I think that's what we're seeing. And we're seeing Fraser overcompensating for that. So it'll be interesting to see how Monique deals with it. With` Like, one of the first jobs I had wearing a billboard was for` (LAUGHS) The first one! So you had multiple? Oh, no, you're just kinda rampaging on` like, kind of, like, you're rambling. Already the criticism starts. Where was this? In Wellington? Yeah, in Wellington. Outside his church. (LAUGHS) Some random dude came up to me and punched me while I was wearing it. (ALL LAUGH) Fanny packs are coming back in style, and they need a platform. They need a platform, and someone needs to defend them. So, what do you keep in your fanny bag, mate? Scrabble. He Scrabbles. Look, they are highly practical travel accessories. Sometimes you just need to have a quick Scrabble and go` (ALL LAUGH) He's so out there. He doesn't have any boundaries. He just goes... Yeah. ...and tells everybody everything. (ALL LAUGH) Bum bags, several pens, billboard. How many deal-breakers have I named tonight? Uh, three. Three. Three. (LAUGHS) No, no, no. Do you feel that Fraser's enjoying that kind of attention, anyway. Monique, I think she's fine. She's nice and easy-going, laid-back kind of person. I think, um, yeah` I think she's fine with it. I think. (CHUCKLES) Fraser, you are currently my favourite person. (LAUGHS) Oh my God. CHANTS: Fraser Lee, Fraser Lee. Fraser Lee for president. (ALL LAUGH) Fraser Lee is me, I think, in a slightly more conservative man's body. I really like Fraser. Oh, terima kasih. What's that mean? Thank you. It means 'feed me, tiny mother bird'. (ALL LAUGH) Hold me, (SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY). Ottie's got this energy. And she seems really happy. And I think she's been matched really well with Gareth. What I think Ottie's trying to do, she's trying to get into talk to more women to find out what's going on. She's gauging where she and Gareth are, comparing herself to the others. Would you like one? You wanna have a little bite? Yeah, go on. Would you like a wine? She's the type of person who asks the questions that most people probably aren't going to. And that's something that I, kind of, enjoy about her. OK, favourite... colour. How's that? I feel like you're question master. Yeah, yeah. I love Ottie. And it's` Ottie's just like kind of open up to everyone. So I think that's really cool that she's sub` She's a great conversation starter. Yuki? Mm-hm. You didn't ask me that. (LAUGHS) You know, your wife's on this side, so... Yeah. (LAUGHS) I'm fine. Me and Yuki, we're a little bit more reserved. We're just` kind of, just watching what everyone does, and work ourselves out in the situation, kind of like the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. Trying to work ourselves out, all that sort of stuff. But, yeah, other people have their big personalities. That's cool. Favourite colour, OK, red. Red. Uh, what was the other one? Animal? Animal, number. Oh, who didn't do this at high school? Animal... Giraffe. OK. I'd say giraffe. (LAUGHS) Why, no, really? Have you guys discussed this? No. What's that? Giraffe. Did you say`? Did you say giraffe as well? Yeah. Aww. That's... Oh, you guys are just so cute. Oh, shut up. No wonder they paired you. I said` We both said giraffe. Separate yarns. Are you the same? Me, personally, I do think there are a few couples that are quite well matched. But I don't think that everyone seems to be 100% happy. So, we've all been with our wives or our partners for a week now. Like, what would you say you've discovered about each other? Wow. Have you discovered anything about each other? My Russian wife is, like, older than me. I thought she was 25. (LAUGHS) I think we need more time. This has been a very intense situation. And I'd love to say there was that instant bond, but there's not. It's the craziest thing. She's crazy. Why am I crazy. I'm not crazy. We are all a little bit crazy. I'm not sure how comfortable Wayne is tonight. Because of that disconnect with Ksenia quite early on in their relationship. Here's your couch. Make yourself comfortable. (LAUGHS) She's quite confident. She's more dominant in terms of interacting with the other group members. So what is he gonna be left with? If he's quite protective character himself? Aw. (ALL EXCLAIM) Oh, is that barra... barracuda? Barramundi. Better not be barracuda. Is there a story there? What's your favourite colour? Why don't you have barracuda? Cos I don't like barracuda. You're having barracuda. I'm not having barracuda. You are having barracuda. No, you've got no choice. You're having barracuda. You need to calm down. (CHUCKLES) Ksenia's interesting, isn't she? She's quite introverted, but in other ways she gets her message across about what she's happy with and what she's not happy with. Wait, is your favourite fish actually barracuda? Yeah. (BLEEP) No, I ... hate it. (LAUGHS) Give me a bit of snapper, it's all good. You're gonna eat barracuda. He likes to be on top of everything. And she's just completely dismissing him. Wayne. What is your wife's name? How do you spell it? No, no. How do you spell it? How do you spell it? Someone's getting a little uncomfy now. A bit of a test there. I don't know how much love and tenderness was behind that question of how do you spell her name. Something so basic. Mm-hm. How do you spell it? How do you spell my name? Switch to Vodafone and get Vodafone TV Intro and three months' free Switch to Vodafone and get Vodafone TV Intro and three months' free unlimited broadband. That's over $640 of value. Wayne. What is your wife's name? How do you spell it? How do you spell it?! How do you spell it? How do you spell it? How do you spell my name? Does hubby not know how to spell her name? I think he's feeling out of his depth. They've got to sort something out. Very quickly, this couple. K-S... E-N-I-A. Yeah, yeah, correct. Yeah, yeah. Now, tell her how do you spell your husband's name? It's gonna be real hard (!) Wayne and Ksenia, you can just see the distance between them. I may regret time in my relationship, so who am I to judge? Cheers. She is completely dismissing him. And as we expected, there's no mystery behind what he's thinking. No, he's very straightforward. It's there on his face. Every single inch of it. Yeah, I know. Um, Tayler and Sam. Kiss on the lips at the, uh, alter? And look at that. She is really holding` holding true to that original role. She wants to talk. She wants to perform. No, we didn't. We didn't. And it was really nice. Cheek? No, we just shook hands. Yeah, yeah. I 100% hope that me and Tayler can get to that physical connection. I know we're both not, um, into showing PDA. Shake hands? Yeah. (LAUGHS) I'm not a PDA kind of person. No, I'm not one either. Sam is usually, kind of, a PDA guy. David and Julia, kiss on the lips? At the alter? They straight tongued and everything. (LAUGHS) Did you tongue? There was no tongue. There was no tongue. Look, Sam put his arm around Julia. Where's David and where's Tyler? Does anyone else have any, like, irrational fears? Irrational fears? Nope. Well, it's funny. Cos, like, you're scared of the ocean. and I grew up on the ocean. Ah. OK, irrational fears. Yeah, like` So cucumbers? He seems like a nice guy. Yeah, he's so amazing, and so lovely, and so perfect. What, so if I threw a cucumber at your head, you'd be like what? No, like, when they're in their shapes, sweet as, good as gold. Yeah. Chopped up in little pieces and` Really? David is really great with everyone. And so, he's really good in social situations. He's perfect, yeah. He's a good person. I love him` in that way. I mean, you know, not,... anyway. Yep. Julia, you've gotta hear this. So Dan's afraid of cucumbers. No, that's not what we were talking about. No, it is. Julia has my full attention. And I think, just every now and again, just glancing up and seeing her, just doing her thing, and it's kind of cute, actually. Um... Julia, she is just talking to Sam. She's really close with Sam. She's not talking over to David. Absolutely. And once again, her body language with Sam. See, her shoulders. (LAUGHS) You answered my question. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Wayne, can you swap with Dan? Swap with me? Yeah. Nah, I'm good. I'm gonna stay here. OK, sweet. I just wanna... chill out with her. OK. You can bring the party to me if you want. I did notice Wayne was really standoffish. We all wanted to swap around and, kind of, just mingle about and talk and get to meet each other. And he didn't budge. This is what happens at these dinner parties. They, kind of, test everybody. Can you move from your partner, and your partner's still going to like you and still going to have your back? See you. Oh, you didn't finish, Monique? For me, it's like, when you sit in that spot and you don't want to mingle with people, it's like... why? We'll just mix it up, then. I'll swap with Ksenia. Oh, ooh. We're gonna swap seats. OK. Goodness. She didn't need to be asked twice. In fact, she lit up at the prospect of moving. Wow. Absolutely. And Wayne has just frozen. He's so closed down now. He's not moving. He's just sitting there eating. Hey, you didn't want to move, but she wants to move. Oh, I just wanna get to know you. Here we go. I'm up for that. I came here as a team with her. Like, she's free to talk to everyone else. I'm not jealous of anyone or anything like that. But I'm there watching her, making sure she's all right. I'm not sure if she's watching me. Wait. I heard, um, you left something for her... Yeah, they call it a blue lace agate. And it's supposed to calm you and relieve stress. So I put one in her room with some lilies, and then, uh, a wee note to say, you know, basically` It was so cute. Yeah. I found out that everyone else got presents, and I didn't. Um, yeah. (LAUGHS) She was pretty hung up on him not getting her present. Which was quite funny, slash, awkward. She hasn't said anything the whole night, and then boom. 'I don't think I like my husband.' Oh my God. Other than the... No, nothing. At lunch yesterday, he gave me a bouquet of fake flowers. The thought was there. And you know, that's` That's important. That was so nice. So, Wayne will be going into survival brain. All his emotions will be going crazy. He didn't get a present at the wedding. I got a present? Yeah, present. (ALL LAUGH) OK, she's really annoyed that she didn't get a present. Just putting it out there. I'm sure you're not the only one. I don't know if she was saying that, because, I don't know if it was the language barrier, but... you know, she seemed pretty stern in what she was saying, so I was like, 'OK, that's pretty interesting.' OK, did everyone send everyone a present? Fraser got a nice, beautiful present for Monique. Did you? Yeah, I got her a, um` And Gareth gave Ottie something. It's so cliche. I said` I'm not, I'm gonna go to the pub and just chillax. Oh, poor Wayne, look. Oh dear. Oh, he's not impressed. He's sensitive to rejection, and he's actually been rejected here tonight by Ksenia. Yeah, I'll give you a present. It's me. (ALL LAUGH) (MOUTHS) It's not going to work. They're just going to implode. Your present? My presence was your present. (ALL LAUGH) Wait, was that a jest or do you actually (BLEEP) mean that? She's got a grin on her face, of course, of course, she didn't mean that. Wayne, would you like my seat? Nah, nah, leave. Get away, get away. I feel like this is the hot seat. You've made it the hot seat. Came here as a team. And, to be 100% honest, the dinner hasn't brought us closer together because we` we didn't talk. Um, do you` Are you still okay with this? (BLEEP) OK, sweet. So I want Gareth to do something (BLEEP) awful to himself. Apart from marrying you? (LAUGHS) Second awful thing that Gareth has to do in four days. You know when you make a shitty story up? And you write a word, fold the paper, write a word. He's literally gonna get it tattooed. (ALL LAUGH) Are you gonna`? You're really gonna do that? I think that that is the boldest and slightly most insane thing anyone has ever done. Other than, you know, being married at first sight. OK, Wayne, you're up. If you write Wayne, I'm gonna be (BLEEP) impressed. It seems like I am walking away with another tattoo by the time we leave Bali. Which is gonna be interesting. I'm not gonna know what it is until it's done. So, uh, it's a bit of fun. Suggestion for me, because I can't pick my own word. You just leave it until the day. Yeah, you make it up on the day. Divorce. (ALL LAUGH) It's certainly quite telling that some of these couples are quite strong and stable. And some are, uh, are struggling a little bit. And it will be the impact of this group dynamic on those relationships. Will we see them, um, pull through and strengthen? Or will we see them deteriorate even further? It's the morning after the dinner party, and far from putting Ottie's last-minute idea into the too-hard basket, Gareth is keen to go ahead. It's hot. Hot, hot, hot. So last night at the dinner party, Ottie came up with a good game to get everyone in the group to write down one word. Wow, hi. I'm gonna get those 11 words tattooed on me. Can we please have my husband here tattooed with a surprise tattoo? He doesn't know what he's getting. So what are we doing, then? I've got it in my bag. I don't want to see it until it's done. Yuki is Japanese, so there could be some Japanese in there. Ksenia is Russian, so there could be something in Russian. There could be some horrific stuff going on. Sure, sure? Very sure. Did you sign a waiver? I love that Gareth will just throw himself into it and do it. We are getting on well, communicate well. Just having fun. I think Gareth's attitude is really cool. It's probably my favourite thing about him. OK, the first word that I can see is the word... Dickhead. (BOTH LAUGH) We seem to be on the same page with a lot of stuff and we're getting on. That's always a good sign to start with. That initial time together that we're actually enjoying each other's company. I like positive people in my life. So she definitely brings that to the table. That's actually really cool. We have a word written in Kanji. And it means... 'Asian goodness'. (BOTH LAUGH) Actually, I honestly thought that the list was gonna be a lot worse. I think everyone did it in, kind of, a bit of jest, which was quite cool. Sweet. Let's do it. Real? No hesitations. And you write yours. You write yours. I might just` OK, I'll think of something. I will think of something, I promise. Mm-hm. Julia, David, Taylor and Samuel have chosen to spend the day in each other's company, opting for a double-date dynamic over one-on-one time. It's really common if a couple hasn't bonded to try and make an alliance with another couple. Safety in numbers ` as simple as that. And if we're not feeling that connection with our partner, we will be searching for that with someone else. Yeah, this one's good. Can I have the same? He wants the same size as well. This is what I've been wanting to do in Bali. I grew up on the beach back home. This is my life. This is where I feel the most comfortable ` in the water, having fun. Remember Tay is, uh, scared of the water. So you need to step up as a husband. Yeah, I know. And, you know, be strong, and... Yeah. I know you will. But not strong, you know this. Yeah. Just, you know. Cos look at him. He's a bit scared. Are you scared? Are you OK? I'm all right. OK, good. Good. We got your back. Tayler is nervous and unfortunately, Tayler is afraid of the ocean. Part of this experiment is to push yourself outside of our comfort zones. I will be supportive, and, I don't know, I've never met someone afraid of the water before. Don't think about what's underneath. Oh, great. (LAUGHS) So don't look down. The one thing that, I think, I'm most nervous about being in the water is the whole unknowing what's in there. Despite being made to feel like an amateur at the dinner party, Wayne's not giving up on his marriage to Ksenia. He's taking her to the one place he can look like a pro. I really hope then from today us playing golf, or me trying to play golf, I think will make us slightly closer together, maybe? I don't hate it. It's just I'm not good at it. Um, so, we'll find out whether Wayne is a patient man or not. (LAUGHS) Can... uh, am I going first? You can if you want. So, I need to hit this thing, right? I've just got a massive issue that we don't have many common interests. What I do? So, I go like that? No way! Like that. Not even close. This is hence why we're coming to golf, is to show her something that I do. If she pays interest in it, then I'll be like, 'Oh, yeah, cool. There's something here.' (CHUCKLES) OK. We're very different, and I'm wondering why we're being put together. I can't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't like anything I do or how I think or my humour. (LAUGHS) OK. There is no question ` in a relationship, if we focus on the negatives, we'll get negativity. If we focus on the positives, we get joy, fun, laughter. This is gonna be a long day. (LAUGHS) That's not funny. (CHUCKLES) Did anyone tell you that you're a natural? I bet no on has, cos you're not. (LAUGHS) I'm still very much on edge of where we meet and where we're gonna be, like, compatibility. Oh, yay! Ha! Yeah, but the holes that way, though. (LAUGHS) 'It's not my favourite game.' So, I need to look... find my ball now, right? I got no idea where it went. Maybe because I can not play golf, if I was to be better at it, maybe I'll like it more? As couples find they don't actually have much in common, they shouldn't give up. You got that one. If they keep exploring and they hang in there, they might find at a really fundamental level, there are other things that they're really on the same page about. Maybe I'm doing something wrong. Maybe I should stand like that. Well, you're definitely doing something wrong. (LAUGHS) I just can't pinpoint it. She probably doesn't like golf. She's never really done it before. She's absolutely useless at it. Good practice. But she's still smiling and laughing and trying. Please, go in there. (CHUCKLES) Does it help when you talk to it? She's, um, in the Olympics for Russia for golf. I think I'm having a good time. I like to laugh. Wayne definitely makes me laugh. Oh, no! What? I am enjoying his company. Today if` was a big thing that I needed to, um, assess where we were at, and whether she would put in the effort, to whether I was going to continue on this journey with her and put my own effort in. Good golf day. Yeah, it actually was good. You haven't seen my other ones. (LAUGHS) To see her actually try, even though she was shocking, she could still kept trying, so obviously it's, sort of, like a metaphor for the relationship. I'll keep trying and see if it does get better. Want to play golf tomorrow? Hmm. While Wayne and Ksenia seem to have reset their relationship, back at the tattoo parlour, Gareth is happily doing his wife's bidding. Hey, you married this. And then this happened after the marriage, so... Jokes on me. No, it's on me. (BOTH LAUGH) Just like a normal relationship in the way that we just wanna get to know each other. I don't really know how to be a wife, so... just going with it. I'm overthinking my word now, but I think I stick to it, because it was just like natural. All right, do it. I've been trying to think of the longest German word just because it would inflict the most pain. 21, 22, 23. Uh, you might be sleeping on the couch. (READS WORD IN GERMAN) You have to tell me what it means now. When you call your partner a... (READS WORD IN GERMAN) it makes it quite obvious that you don't intend to spend the rest of your life with that person. Originally, I thought it was more about love and less about love ending. He or she is only considered a partner for a certain period in life. Probably won't be happily ever after. Is this a bad omen? You know, I` Possibly it doesn't last. Maybe it does, who knows? (BOTH LAUGH) Tayler is also writing a new chapter in his married life. With Samuel by his side, he's taking the first steps to overcoming his fear of the ocean. What are you scared about? Um, probably more the fact that I've got no idea what the hell is in this water. Look. With your hand, with your hand. He was giving me a wee bit of shit about there might be stingrays and sharks and all that. I honestly think that Sam's gonna support me 100%. Yeah, I think he's got my back. Here we are! Our first adventure together, that was a bit of a laugh. Oh, that looks incredible, though, eh, like... what is that? It's an abandoned building that we want to break into? Could be. Yeah, it'd be a cool adventure. And do what? I'll be the first in. (LAUGHS) First in, last out. Oh, it just looks amazing. I just can't wait to get out and see what they got in store. I'll be quite keen to see how Julia is in the water. (LAUGHS) Are you OK? (OMINOUS MUSIC) (POSITIVE MUSIC) (ALL SPEAK INDISTINCTLY) Tayler, he did bloody awesome. I mean, for someone who was afraid of the water, I mean, he just jumped in and got straight into it, and I think that's so cool. Sam was real supportive. He actually gave me the confidence to put my head under the water and actually get right in there. It made me feel like he was there for me. Neither of us are, like, PDA, but at the same time, I don't like the ocean, and I said to him, 'Should we face another fear at the same time?' Part of my vows where I hope to get to know you as days go on, so days are getting on, and we need to know each other. And that's what we both want. There's obviously a connection in that moment, and he got a kiss out of it. But, yeah, just to do that, it doesn't mean anything in general. We're still figuring each other out. Still learning a lot about him, and he's still learning a lot about me. Captions were made with the support of NZ On Air. The Bali honeymoons are drawing to a close, but the couples' understanding of each other has only just begun. Monique and Fraser are working on ironing out some new relationship wrinkles. MONIQUE: We're getting a massage, and then, I think,... FRASER: Yus! ...we're getting a pedicure. A pedicure? Have you had one of them before? What's a pedicure? (LAUGHS) My expectation from today is just to learn a little bit more about Monique, just to relax together, have a nice massage, and actually just learn a little bit more about what the other person looks for in a relationship, and also just to gauge what she thinks of me. (GENTLE MUSIC) So far, what would you sort of say your impressions of me be? You are` Like, I thought that I was kinda loud, but I am not loud compared to you. So I'm loud and nice. (CHUCKLES) (CHUCKLES) Loud and nice. No, talkative and nice. Talkative and nice. Initially, we came into it with different expectations of how fast we were gonna go in the relationship. And so we both kind of decided that we're gonna take it slow. Well, I kind of decided we're gonna take it slow, and he was like, 'OK.' Intimacy has a speed of its own as long as there are two willing participants. If there's one person that's not wanting to engage intimately, whether it's simply touching, or sexually, then the other one has to go at that person's pace. So it has to be going at the pace of the slowest person. Normally, my style of dating would have been going at 100 miles an hour, right from the start. Yeah, that's definitely not my style. I think he was worried that, because we're taking it slow, he doesn't want to get friend-zoned. I think we're going really well just dating so far. Like, taking the dating approach. Thanks for the compromise. (CHUCKLES) Ie, just doing what I want to do in terms of going slow. But that's OK, cos, I mean, that's what` Like, I think` I think you're worth it. I'm confident that the approach that we're taking is the best one, because I know that it makes Monique feel more comfortable. I don't mind trying to wait. I mean, it is different. I am literally, like, less than a week... (LAUGHS) I know. So, like... Gosh, being patient for all of six days. Yeah. Gosh. Wow. God, I'm a saint, aren't I (?) (LAUGHS) (CHIMES TINKLE) Dan and Yuki's last honeymoon date in Bali is a chance to reflect on the strong foundation they've built in just a few days. DAN: So, we're at the Hindu Kite Festival. We wanna enjoy the culture. Really cool to go and see these sorts of things, yeah. Oh, shit, shit, shit. Oh, shit, shit, shit. Duck, duck, duck, duck. I was like this! But it was really fun. (BOTH LAUGH) Oh my God. That's too funny, eh? She makes me laugh ` just the smallest little things. She's really cool, yeah. Whoo! Oh, here we go. Here we go. (WHOOPS) I think it's very well matched. We are in the way... again. (LAUGHS) And we're just like... like this, which is really cool. Our last day in Bali. Crazy. I know. You think we gonna come back to Bali? Yeah. I'm very sad to go home, to be honest. Little bit. I just want to stay here. But, um, yeah. And I think it just, um` We can't be in this dream forever. Now we gotta go back to Auckland. (LAUGHS) And I can get to know you more. Exactly. (LAUGHS) We have talked about` a little bit about the future. I think it's gonna take time. It's been so far, so good. He's a great husband. You ready? Yeah, yeah, you're right. You're doing good. (LAUGHS) OK, OK, OK. Yay! Whoo! There we go, there we go, yeah. Jeez, this kite flying's hard. (LAUGHS) It's hard, like a relationship. Yeah. There you go. Got it. We've got this. After a week in Bali, it's the final night of the couples' honeymoon. Couples Julia and David and Tayler and Sam are choosing to share a last round of drinks together at the Swiss-Belresort Watu Jimbar. Do you want to do that? No, cos, you know... I don't like sharing my food. OK, bloody princess over here. (LAUGHTER) What about the hotdog? We get along with every couple here. In fact, I love them all. DAVE: Cheers. Sam and Tayler are the ones that Dave and I have gravitated towards, and I think it's because Sam and I are similar in the way that we hold our cards closer to our chest. But Tayler and Dave are a bit more emotional, in a way. We're too sim` Yeah, happy. You make each other laugh. Oh yeah. She's awesome. Well, he does take three hours to get ready, but... You're worse than the two gays. (LAUGHTER) And I guess now it's like... And I think you two are probably similar, you've become friends,... Yeah. ...and then it's trying to find that connection after friends. Things with David and I have been great, as usual. He's amazing, and our friendship has gotten stronger, but the intimacy thing hasn't happened. Uh... Aw, he is a wee softie. Look at him. Dave and I had a chat about the intimacy thing this morning. I just told him that I wasn't ready for that, and I want to build a friendship and see where it goes. But, (SIGHS) I don't know. It's so difficult. I'm just not sure how to approach that yet. Takes longer to get ready than you guys. Trust me. (LAUGHS) No, I'm kidding. I'm not kidding. (LAUGHTER) DAVE: Of course, I like to look after myself. And I have a wife now, so I have to look after myself. I'm gonna feel so left out when you guys all leave. I know. And, of course, Julia might have to move to Dunedin. (LAUGHS) Would you move to Dunedin? No. Sorry. We haven't talked about this yet, so this is awkward. (LAUGHS) I think I'd go nuts. No offence. No, it's not... Not at all. Not that I don't like Dunedin, but I'm already in a small city, and I don't want to` I wouldn't want to move to a smaller city. Half of what I do ` at this stage, anyway ` is in Christchurch, and... So, could you be based in Christchurch? Oh yeah, definitely. Do you want children, or...? Yeah. Oh my God. He said that so fast. (LAUGHS) Yeah. Bombshell. Yeah, nah, I want children. These are the questions that are gonna come out, eventually. So we're, I guess,... asking them. What about you guys? Um... I think if it happens, um, amazing. Great. And if it doesn't, it's not gonna upset me or anything like that. Oh, that's good. It's not a deal-breaker. How can you talk about that only knowing each other just a few days? That's super awkward. What about you? You'd be a fun Dad. Mm. I hear it all the time. I'm still not convinced. So, I think, deep down, he actually does want children. I... don't think I want my own kids. (TENSE MUSIC) If you hear all the time that you would be a great dad, is it disappointing... to hear that, possibly, Julia doesn't want kids? (BELL TOLLS, HEARTBEAT THUMPS) www.able.co.nz You'd be a fun dad. I hear it all the time. I'm still not convinced. So, I think, deep down, he actually does want children. I... don't think I want my own kids. If you hear all the time that you would be a great dad, is it disappointing... to hear that, possibly, Julia doesn't want kids? It's probably more Julia's call than mine. (SNICKERS) There isn't a reason why I don't want children, but then I feel kinda sad about that too, because he is... He'd make a great Dad. I want to still give it time and see what happens. Men like him do not come along every day. Cheers to you. I'm not giving up yet, but, we'll see. To be honest, I've got two houseplants. They have not stayed alive, so... (LAUGHTER) Yeah, baby steps. One thing at a time. (CHUCKLES) (SOFT PIANO MUSIC) It's the day of departure for our honeymooners. They're relaxed, but ready for their toughest challenge yet ` the reality of married life as couples living together. This is our last day in Bali. We're heading back off to Auckland. Finally, a bit of normality, but it's been good. It's been fun. Yeah, it's awesome. Really enjoyed it. It's nice. Bali is beautiful. Amazing place. This is day seven of the relationship. One week ` have survived. And it's also the final day in Bali here, as well. Excited to explore the next chapter and my relationship with Monique. Anyhow, this is me signing out. Hey, guys. It's been seven hours. Um, no search parties have come out. Um, please send help. We're, literally, looking at bags and jewellery and... Please save me. Please save me. TAYLER: Dave, how do you like this feeling? This celebrity feeling? It's amazing, unless it ruins my hair. (LAUGHS) We're totally loving this, uh,... fame, I guess you would call it. (LAUGHS) (RELAXED MUSIC) After long flights, customs and carousels, the couples are driven to their luxury central city apartments. As they come back down to Earth, married life reality is just around the corner. Oh! Sweet. Oh, (BLEEP). (CHUCKLES) MONIQUE: Oh, always struggling with doors. Oh my God. Oh my gosh. Here we go. Look at this. Oh! (BOTH LAUGH) Oh, that's a nice picture, isn't it? It's cute. Aw. What is it? When the couples move in together, they'll be exploring and seeing some things that they haven't, as yet, seen before. The romantic phase is over, and now they're getting to experience life as a normal everyday couple. It's a good centrepiece. Way better than a photo of yourself. Having someone in your personal space 24/7 is a bit of a change from my normal. Oh, and this can go in the fridge. Clearly, you can't have full normality in a situation like this, so the little bits we can, I think, we're gonna try and have. So keen to just have some routine again. Yeah, definitely. Get back into it. Some normality. Oh, there are two bedrooms. Yeah, there's two bedrooms. Do we want to sleep in that bedroom and store our gear in the other one? The next steps for Monique and I would be starting to explore whether we've sort of got enough there to build a relationship. That's a waistcoat. I have a waistcoat. Yeah, that's a waistcoat. Are you judging me? I'm wondering... (LAUGHS) Yes. I'm wondering when and where you're gonna wear this waistcoat. YUKI: Well, we have another bedroom. So, which one`? I'll sleep on this one? No. (LAUGHS) We shared one bed in Bali anyway, so I think we have no problem` I have no problem. Nice. (BOTH LAUGH) Exactly what we needed. Oh man. Moving in is like reality at last. What do I want out of this now I know this is the person I'm married to? Am I prepared to give it a go, or have I checked out already? Your key. Yes. Enjoy your stay with us, and these open the doors for you. Thank you. Great. (TENSE MUSIC) I just feel like on the way there, he was very attentive and carrying bags and helping with my backpack. Now that the honeymoon is over, my concern is why he's different. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) OK, bye-bye. (BELL TOLLS, HEARTBEAT THUMPS) www.able.co.nz OK, bye-bye. (CHUCKLES) (GIGGLES) Made me a little bit sad. (CHUCKLES) When a couple banters, that's great. You know, they kind of make fun of each other, but it's good-natured, and you can see that it's a healthy relationship. That's great. But when the bickering comes in, that's not good. It's like dismissing their partner. So there's a fine line between bantering and bickering. That's a nice picture. I look good. You look... OK. You know what? It is good. It's cos I'm in it. Do you know what that is? A sink? No, it's a kitchen area. And...? (LAUGHS) Do you`? What are you doing? You are going to make tacos in here. OK, so I'm the cook. As far as getting to know each other, we're only at the tip of the iceberg now. There's so much more there, and there's so many more layers to myself and her. And we both have admitted to each other that we haven't opened up completely to each other. Don't walk around naked, either. (LAUGHS) Why not? Cos you'll just scare all of Auckland. Like, traffic crashes and stuff. (LAUGHS) That's OK. It's scary, and it is a little bit daunting sharing space with her full-time. The only way I can get her to open up is through jokes and laughing. You can go to the gym. Mm-hm. And then see the`? Could go for a run. See the puddle behind it? You can go swimming. We'll just wait until we feel more comfortable, then we'll open up more, before we can make up our minds whether we want to continue together or not. Why are you were concerned about all of Auckland? Everyone will be climbing the balcony trying to come see you. (LAUGHS) That's OK. I won't be complaining. (LAUGHS) I think we might be quite similar in a way, so we kind of pick at each other. Go into your own room, please. I don't get options, cos she's Russian. (LAUGHS) Exactly. I just do what I'm told. It's that, or we just hate each other, (LAUGHS) full stop. You only lasted about a day helping to carry my bags, by the way. What? Nothing. Can we get a translator, please? The last day in Bali, I left dinner quite early. I felt, kind of, a bit upset. Instead of, you know, coming back and spending the evening with me, maybe watching a movie and, like, just doing` sort of, having a rest and doing nothing, he chose to spend that evening with his mates, chilling and drinking. You only lasted a day helping with my bags. Oh, I'm married now. Yeah. (CHUCKLES) Wedding was all, I don't know, adrenaline, excitement and stuff, but coming back to real life, maybe` um, maybe something changed. I just need to know whether we're on the same level, that's all. (SIGHS) I wish there was a manhole so I could escape. (LAUGHS) (DRAMATIC MUSIC) What did you just say? Nothing. As the couples move in, we'll get a clear indication as to where they are in their relationship. The biggest challenge for the couples at this stage of the experiment... is to agree that they're going to give it a go. Wow. Check this out. Oh my God. Wow. Cool! It's amazing. If this is going to work between us, we have to do 'normal' really well. And at the moment, things aren't amazing, but, you know, it's only a few days. We sort of need to keep remembering that. Holy shit. (SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY) (GRUNTS) Oh my God. This is huge. Far out. In all honesty, it feels so nice to be back on my own turf. For some reason, it's like a weight has been lifted off my shoulder. Far out. It's warm in here. Oh! It's so cringe. Oh, actually, that's all right. God, I'm just looking at you so intensely. (MUMBLES INDISTINCTLY) Feels like reality is kicking in for me that that we are together; we're married. Now we're in an apartment, and I'm like, 'Shoot. Thank God we have a lot of space.' How many shirts do you have? Shirts? Yeah. About six. Cos there's, like` I'm scared to ask how many you've got. There's only four coat hangers in this room. Oh, just take mine. I'll just iron them when I need them. Sweet, that's sorted. Sam and I seem to be getting along quite` quite nicely so far, so... We're yet to have that first argument, so... (LAUGHS) I guess, stay tuned. (LAUGHS) (INTRIGUING MUSIC) I didn't actually think that you were serious about (CHUCKLES) all this crap. I mean... (CHUCKLES) Is that going to be a problem? No, not at all. I think we will be sharing a room, but I know tonight, I'm actually going to ask Tayler, um, would he be OK with me possibly just having my space, just for tonight. You finish packing, and then I'll just take up, like, the one cubby that's left. It'll all come in good time, I think. Good things take time. Oh my God. You've put all your shoes out. JULIA: I'm sorry, but don't act like you're surprised. You have got 10 times more, like, skin care and things like that than I do shoes. Like, that's for sure. (LAUGHS) Let's not forget the high-maintenance one in this. I really like him as a person, but he is... really feminine in a lot of ways. And, like, that's really great. It's just not something that I am personally, physically attracted to at all. TRISHA: One of the most important things in communication is honesty. But a lot of people have difficulty with conflict. So they see being honest as being mean, and we see that in our couples. (BOTH GRUNT) The intimacy side is definitely not there. And, to be honest with you, it's really eating me up, and I'm struggling with that, and I'm feeling a bit of guilt as well, because I know that he really likes me. Once you're honest, it's out there, and you can start dealing with the issues that are going on for you. MUFFLED: I'm exhausted. Oh my God. (SIGHS) It feels so good. If I had it my way, I would actually want to sleep in the other room. I mean, I've been single for a while, and I actually prefer to sleep by myself. But I know as soon as I say that, he will get, probably, quite emotional, and I think that will really upset him, and I don't want to upset him. So I don't know what I'm going to do, but I really, really, really would prefer to sleep in the other room. (GROANS) This is the worst situation ever. (CHUCKLES UNCOMFORTABLY) (BELL TOLLS, HEARTBEAT THUMPS) I did 13 years day by day. And how was that for you? It's the first night back in New Zealand for our couples after their honeymoon, but as strangers just one week ago... So, I've married a man who makes cups of tea... like... this. I honestly don't see what she's getting at here. The fact is I made her a cup of tea. Like this. I don't know if you can really see on the camera, but it's too weak. It's` Far too weak. No, I made us both tea, and she has chosen to point out the fact... She's not even grateful for the tea she's got. What sort of wife is this? Uh, so next time, I'll be on tea duty, because I'm not grateful enough. I drink coffee, not tea. I drink coffee. And I don't make it like that! What, with tea and milk? I've made it properly. It's... Look, it's not as white as the china, so I've made it correctly. It's pretty bad. She's not drinking it. It's delicious. (CHUCKLES) It's wonderful. It's the best tea I've ever had. (CHUCKLES) OK, it's not. Whoo! (GLASSES CLINK) We'll be doing this most nights? (LAUGHS) Yes. We've got half an hour before we all kill each other. (LAUGHTER) In this experiment, we are asking couples to live a married life, and part of living a married life is having a sexual relationship. So one of the things that we see, if they're having difficulty around that, is they'll quite often go out as a foursome with another couple, because that dilutes the intensity of their relationship. It's funny how they ran out of coat hangers. And he stole all of mine as well. That's selfish. I'm gonna need those. (LAUGHTER) Oh my God. Between the both of you, like, far out. There's not enough shelves. There's not enough shelves. There's not enough coat hangers. The intimacy side is definitely not there. We are very much friends, although he wants it to be different. I don't. So, I'm struggling with that. Uh, yeah. Far out. So, no one snores? I can imagine you both just sleeping so gracefully,... Oh, I'm just gonna snore` ...looking beautiful. Nah. Really? Beautiful, yes, but not gracefully. (LAUGHS) He does snore. He snores. Oh, I know that I'm not a graceful sleeper. Well, I said to David, I actually hate sleeping in the same bed with someone else. SAMUEL: And what did you say? Which I know is not normal, and it's something I probably need to get used to. Can I ask how you said it to him? He brought it up and said... You were like, 'Well, there's two rooms, so...' Yeah, not to pre-empt anything, but how did she feel about that? Mm-hm. (LAUGHS) And I was like, 'Well, um...' Uh... I don't know. He's being really great. He hasn't pressured me. But, let's be realistic, he is a male. We're probably going to have to talk about that. (CHUCKLES) (SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY) Oh, don't worry. The thing is is that with communication, um, it's only good if the other person is you know, willing to listen or communicate themselves. Otherwise, it's pretty tragic. I just, like, prefer sleeping on my own. Things aren't amazing. I'm not laughing as much as what I normally do, because we're looking over the back fence. You know, we're spending time with a great couple that we've made amazing friends with, but, um, it's almost like the time we've invested in doing that, we need to be` Can we do that ourselves? Can we be by ourselves and create that laughter? And that's what I'm looking for. Yeah, like, secretly, I just want to sleep on my own, but I feel really guilty about telling you that and asking you, like, if that's OK, because I don't want you to get the wrong idea and be hurt about it. OK. I know that's probably not normal, cos if you're, you know, married, then you don't sleep on your own. Yeah. The more we talk about it, the easier things sort of become. SAMUEL: I think make the most of the two bedrooms. Whatever happens after that happens. Yeah, and I think you'll find that` (SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY) cos I haven't told him... OK, so... Righty-oh. (LAUGHTER) Bombshell. Here we go. No, no, cos I talked to him, and I was like, 'Tonight, maybe, because we've slept in the same bed for the past, um, well, since day one, since we got married, when I walked into the room, I was like, 'My own space!' Why are you smiling like that? I'm not, no, I'm just` He's taking it in. Taking it in? Taking it in. I think our communication could go better. It's still really hard to know where our comfort zones are. I was like, actually, maybe it would be quite nice to have a separate bed tonight. Mm. Yeah. Just` (STAMMERS) And it's not because I'm not into you or anything. It's more just the fact that I've got my own room. I'm going to utilise it. Yeah. I mean, have you seen him? Whoa, damn. Yeah, well, that's the next stage. Thank you. That's the next stage. That's the next stage. We both definitely need our personal space. I wasn't even going to bring it up. I was just going to` just go with the flow and... Which is why I brought it up. Yeah, and... Yeah. But secretly, deep down, I did want to have a night to myself. (TENSE MUSIC) At this stage, I don't think that my feelings are going to change, and I'm going to become sexually attracted to him. But I, again, really want to give this my all and not give up, because I made that promise to him. I definitely do not` I'm not going to break it. At this point of time, I'm really` I just don't know. (SEABIRDS SQUAWK) The couples are waking up to their first day together in New Zealand. GARETH: This is our apartment... with an epic view of the city. You can this nice Auckland view. We're spending a few days in lovely apartment here. After the pace of the honeymoons, the couples now need to adjust to the day-to-day normality of married life. What are you? FRASER: I am Ravenclaw, but, occasionally, I am Gryffindor. Mm-hm. If I'm feeling brave. Oh my God. Dan is so a lovely guy. Oh my God. When I saw this... Earplug, obviously. There is no sleeping at all, because, obviously, snoring so much. What they'll be doing when they move in is looking very, very closely at what their partner is doing, but also what they're not doing. YUKI: You know I don't eat dairy. What? What I'd also expect to see is a change in energy levels ` a more sustainable energy level and a more real energy level. I'm going to cut some bread. Such a German thing to do. So domesticated. Ooh! GERMAN ACCENT: I will cut the bread. So, we'll start to also see the real version of themselves. Are you a crafty baker? I've never baked anything in my life. You've never baked anything? Nah, man. My youth was spent drinking too much and partying too much, and I'm still not done. I want to party until I'm exhausted. Baileys for breakfast? Yeah. (LAUGHS) Baileys and ice. We need to go shopping at some point for food. Groceries. I think I didn't make my life ever easy. If people want to hide things, they will. People live with serial killers, um, so I think you never really know anybody apart from what they put forward. Or we can just have Baileys for breakfast instead of coffee. You're speaking my language. Danke. You want some dry bread? Um, yeah? I guess I pick people in my life that are a bit nuts, and so, of course, that opens the floodgates to disastrous decisions. (LAUGHS) Yeah. Watch me make you food. (CHUCKLES) This is about as good as it gets, by the way. Just... I can pour you a Baileys and make toast, but with nothing on it. Yeah, maybe we just dip the toast into the Baileys. I'm a pretty strong personality, so I'm not surprised if Gareth gets bulldozed by me. I always need to be heard. That doesn't mean that what I'm saying needs to be heard, (LAUGHS) but I feel like I need to say it. Do you want a cookie? Cookie and Baileys? It's probably better than toast. And so I need someone that will combat that, and I don't know if Gareth and me are matched in that way. I think there are some big challenges in that. Definitely. Next time ` living together challenges some couples,... I just go with the flow. Does that annoy you, though? Yeah, it does. It does. ...while others thrive. Every guy wants the mum's approval. I'm hoping I leave a good impression. You always try to look at the best in people as well, and that's` that's nice. MONIQUE: Thanks! And tensions rise... I don't want to be here. I'd rather be with the boys than sit in this room and talk to huffy girls. ...at the very first commitment ceremony. In term's of a relationship, going day by day, that's very, very short term. I did 13 years day by day. And how was that for you? I really wanted them to... (BLEEP) off. (BELL TOLLS, HEARTBEAT THUMPS) Captions by Antony Vlug and Chelsea Brady. www.able.co.nz Captions were made with the support of NZ On Air. 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