My mum got a phone call at about 2am or 3am, and... I woke up to her screaming... and phone on the floor, and her screaming just,... 'Emily's died. Emily's died.' And that was... how I found out. My name is Hannah Longley. I grew up in London with my parents and my sister, Emily. When I was 8, we moved to Auckland. On the 8th of May 2011, my friend and I went to the Katy Perry concert. We just had, like, such a good night, so much fun. I'd had one of the best nights of my life so far contrasted into the worst morning of my life I will ever have. ARCHIVE: Emily Longley, a 17-year-old, ended up here at her on-and-off boyfriend Elliot Turner's home, and it's within these walls she spent her last moments alive. He was kicking up a fuss one night. They'd broken up. She went home with him, and then he strangled her in a sleeper hold and then suffocated her with a pillow. He stood on the jury stand and lied... about what had happened, and there was no sadness in his words. There was no, um,... sorrow. He didn't ev` seemed like he didn't even care. He got a 17-year sentence. Our daughter was murdered. And I hope he suffers, yeah, for what he did to Emily; what he did to such a soft, gentle, young girl. I hope he suffers for it. In the pure moment, I was just in shock and in denial and then... just, like, devastated. And every single day since, just, like, still shock and... didn't wanna eat. I didn't wanna do anything. Grief, obviously, it's a massive process. Some days it's definitely still there. It's not as intrusive and invasive, but I don't think it's ever something that really goes away ever. The media was all over it. All kinds of, like, trashy magazines were sliding into my DMs, trying to get stories. People were taking things straight off my Facebook and posting them like it was a quote I'd given them. It was a very invasive time. I went back to school pretty quickly, cos I'd really missed my friends, and I just wanted to try and, you know, get back into my life. But it was horrible. Like, my friends ` we were only 15. They` They tried their best, but they... You know, we're 15. You don't know how to react to someone's sister getting murdered. And I was just, kind of, expected to just go back into five days a week, full days, when obviously it was difficult even to leave my house in the morning. When I was pretty much at breaking point, like, I came home one day from school, just, crying, and my mum was like, 'OK. This is the moment we need to take you to counselling.' We reached out to Victim Support for counselling assistance. I got told, 'You're going to this counsellor, and you've got 10 free sessions. Go.' And I had no choice in the matter. The counsellor just wasn't right for me, and I wish I'd known at the time, I could've said, 'Look, sorry. This isn't working out. 'Can I please request someone different?' It makes me feel pretty angry, makes me think about all the other kids that have had experiences like that, and... just if we had been offered... adequate help and support, how much healthier our grief processes could've been. I do feel like I was quite alone in that time, and I feel like I did have to live each day and be my own warrior and be my own supporter and get myself through it. What Victim Support offers is up to 30 free counselling sessions. Victims can change counsellors. Support from Victim Support is not time bound to the incident, so any time, a victim can come to us and seek assistance. We have a range of key roles. The first one is to engage with victims to ensure we're meeting their needs. We inform them about the justice system. It is very complex and is the first time, often, the victims are involved in the justice system. And we provide financial assistance to the victims so that they can participate more easily. The big thing is ` don't feel alone. Reach out and seek help. There's so many things I would like to have said to myself seven years ago. I would say, 'You can get through it, 'and it's gonna be the hardest thing you're ever gonna do, but you can survive this.' You learn 'I'm gonna get to this day. I'm gonna get through this day, and then it'll be all right. 'This is never gonna hurt any less, 'but you're gonna learn to deal with it, and it's gonna make you stronger.' I wouldn't say anything cliche, like, you know, 'Time heals all wounds,' because sometimes the grief can just come out of nowhere, and I'll just, all of sudden, be so upset and just not wanna do anything, don't wanna leave my house, and I've learnt that that's OK. If I have a day where I just don't feel like going out, I won't; I'll just stay at home. But I need to keep in mind that you can't live your life like that. And every time I do feel like that, I think to myself, 'OK, let's just have this one day, 'and we'll just be at home. We'll look after ourselves, 'but then tomorrow we're gonna go out and face the world.' So, I study psychotherapy at AUT, and I hope one day I will go on to be a psychotherapist. I work at a charity in Whangaparaoa called Youth in Transition. They work with a lot of high-risk kids who are either feeling very suicidal, have attempted suicide. My role here at the clinic is a peer youth mentor. I wish a service like this was made known to me when I was 15 and I needed something like this. We try and offer a range of different counselling styles to find what's right for each individual ` cos there's no one-size-fits-all ` and hopefully help some kids who have been through experiences similar to mine and just show them that they can still lead a good life after having your world smashed into a million pieces. She hadn't quite realised how evil he was. It is not acceptable to be hit, to be grabbed by the throat. He was very emotionally abusive too. Like, 'Don't wear this. Don't go out with that person. Don't go clubbing. 'Don't talk to men. Don't do this. Don't do that.' Domestic violence is a massive problem in New Zealand and worldwide. If you're in a bad situation or you think someone else is in a bad situation, don't ignore them. If someone comes to you and says, 'My boyfriend pushed me the other day,' don't just shrug it off. Don't just think, 'Oh, maybe if I ignore it, it will go away.' Listen to what people are saying. Utilise things like all the free helplines that are out there. Like, Shine is a domestic violence helpline. Even if you just don't know, they're free. Just pick them up. Call them on the phone, and say, 'I don't know what's going on. 'Maybe you can help me.' If someone had taken one of Turner's threats seriously, Emily could still be alive now. So, my dad and stepmum decided to have another baby, which is really amazing. I think initially my dad thought that having another baby would feel like he was replacing Emily, but I never thought that. And now they've brought this beautiful soul into the world who just healed our hearts. We picked up all these broken pieces and glued them back together, and they're a bit wonky, but we're doing it. Elliot already destroyed one life. I'm not gonna let him ruin mine. Captions were made with the support of NZ On Air. Copyright Able 2018