home visits gave the couples a glimpse of life outside the experiment. Hey, mate. (LAUGHS) Does not like me. For some, it brought them closer,... (DRAMATIC MUSIC) You're sweaty. Go away. (CHUCKLES) ...while others faced hard questions. (OMINOUS MUSIC) I'd buy a dog for loyalty. (OMINOUS MUSIC) That was a dick move. (CHUCKLES) One couple called in the experts,... It's coming through pretty loud and clear that you don't have feelings for Wayne. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) ...while another was pushed to breaking point. We're talking about a physical attraction. Which is sex. Well, I` Leads to sex. No, but what you're saying is that you're not attracted to me, and therefore you're finding it hard to move to that side of things. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) I'm really trying here. I don't know what more to do. Tonight ` Wayne and Ksenia struggle to see eye to eye. Do you like me or not? That's why I'm still here. Do you like me? I've asked first. I've said, 'yes'. Strong bonds within the group... Sam, I've missed you. ...cause issues for one marriage. Your first go-to is Sam. SOFTLY: Shut the (BLEEP). I'm sensing jealousy here. And at the group dinner,... Do you ever worry that I will break your heart or abandon you? ...tough questions... Do you really think that spark can still develop between us? (DRAMATIC MUSIC) Do you have feelings for me? Let me take a sip. ...tear some couples apart. It was more about you than me. It's very hard to tread carefully for someone else's secrets. He's not the nice boy he makes out. (BELL TOLLS, TENSE NOTES) Step one. Buy a SodaStream. Step two. (GASPS) It's not you, it's it. Step three. Live happily ever after. Married at First Sight NZ proudly brought to you by SodaStream. After meeting for a make-or-break conversation over their communication issues, Wayne and Ksenia's relationship is in dire straits. I've invested so much into this that... I don't know what the result's going to be. (OMINOUS MUSIC) (CHAIR SCRAPES) I'm going to go before I go on a rant. (OMINOUS MUSIC BUILDS) Do you like me or not? That's why I'm still here. Do you like me? I've asked first. I've said, 'yes'. If I didn't like you, I wouldn't be here. Honestly, if I did see you upset or something was wrong with you, I'd be the first person to run over and hug you and comfort you, because I do care about you. But I struggle with the compatibilities. That's why we got the professionals in. I don't know if we're getting better or worse. (CHUCKLES RUEFULLY) If you're happy to continue to learn to learn about each other, then we keep trying. I don't want to regret this. I want to walk out knowing that we tried our best. What happens happens. Yeah, I don't dislike you at all. I do enjoy your company. And I feel comfortable around you, so I still think that, you know, there is a hope. Yeah. (BLEEP). Why didn't we talk about this three weeks ago? (CHUCKLES) It probably has worked for the best just to get it all out there and be open and see if we can progress. Because I think tomorrow I might have overthought it and probably just pulled the pin and said, 'Hey, let's just be friends'. Couples coming in to this experiment ` if they only focus on what they're not getting or what they didn't get or what wasn't on their wish list, they go down a negative spiral, and they start to get more and more disgruntled. Equally, if you have people in the opposite direction who only look for the positives, they start to retrain some of the pathways and networks in their brain to go for the good things, rather than automatically going for the negatives. has given herself more time to find the intimacy in husband Dave while on a trip to her hometown of Christchurch. Right, this must be Billy` This is my human cat who's already made a mess. She eats with her paws usually. (GASPS) Yes. Oh my goodness. (LAUGHS LOUDLY) Is that the most talented cat you've ever seen? Hello. Silly Billy. You must be Billy. I've heard all about you. There you go. Not 'crazy cat lady' or anything. And this is my room. Oh, is it? (CHUCKLES) Right. (CHUCKLES) OK. That does not get disturbed. (CHUCKLES) Very cool. Yeah. Fantastic. After the home visit at David's, I don't know, the spark is still not there. And... I don't know. I still really am not sure about that part of it yet. Should I take the Airbnb room? Yeah. OK, there we go. (CHUCKLES) (TAKES DEEP BREATH) Well` If you need Wi-Fi, details are written on the wee sign there. Oh. No confectionery or anything? That's coming. Oh. Oh? Don't think he's overly happy about it, but, uh,... yeah, unfortunately, that's the way it's going to be. (CHUCKLES NERVOUSLY) If I was in love with something, then that would be different. I would happily sleep in the same bed. I've got everything there is to know about high country horses, every map I could possibly need in case I get lost. This toing and froing, in and out ` it's quite annoying. But who knows? Because after home visits, it may or may not spark something a little different. That's it. I'm moved in. Awesome. Oh, well, that was quick. Well, you know, (CHUCKLES)` For once. (BOTH LAUGH) Billy, Mum's giving me shit. I think now that we're getting to the other end of it, and we've got decisions to make, and we've got a lot invested here, so you're probably going to see a last push from me in terms of the whole intimacy thing, because I think it's crucial to a relationship. (OMINOUS MUSIC) Affection will come more naturally for some than others. So they just need to take the time and be honest with themselves and the person they're with. Following their own home visits, Monique and Fraser are moving forward in their own relationship with baby steps. Did you used to live around here? Yeah. Oh, cool. I'm not, like, a massive PDA person, but, like, yeah, we're trying to migrate out of the friendship zone. And that's going pretty good. OK, let's do this. Oh, opens the door. (CHUCKLES) Hello. I guess, I didn't, like, know him at first, so I had a different perception in my head of who he was. But now that I've got to know him more, I'm like, 'Oh, Monique, you were wrong.' I wouldn't go for those ones. Why are you telling me? (CHUCKLES) I'm trying to help you. No, but don't you want to win? I could just be using reverse psychology. Did you ever steal money in Monopoly when you were the banker? I mean, the fact that I've paused means 'yes'. Oh my God, but you, like, can't break rules. I'm learning to appreciate the small mannerisms now of Monique. And I'm finding those somewhat amusing. (MECHANICAL GAME WHIRRS, CLACKS) Oh my God. My God, you'll hit him. Let me win. No, don't let me win. (LAUGHS) But, like, I wanna win. I think, at the beginning, I was just kind of, like, so caught up in my own head that I wasn't noticing the stuff that Fraser was doing was actually, like, him and genuine. Why it took (LAUGHS)` You've won by five` five little stones. Argh! (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) Yes! (LAUGHS) I'm starting to see him more as, like, more than a friend. Shared activities are really crucial. This is a way to be a little bit off-guard, a little bit light-hearted, and through those shared experiences, already you have a bank of memories. Today, I, uh, (LAUGHS) have a bit of a challenge for you. Holy shit. Yeah, but your friends sort of said to me, 'Oh look, you know, he... 'I know he's really metrosexual, but he's actually got a real manly side, and he's quite a handy man.' And so I'm like, well, I thought I would put you to the test. (LAUGHS) And get me to put together your furniture. Yes. I guess I'm hoping it will make a difference in seeing a bit more of a manly side from him, uh, that maybe the physical attraction, uh, might develop, but yet to find out. I'm going to give you a time limit of 15 minutes. Whereas the instructions from the shop say a day. Oh, no` Oh my God, it looks like it's` I think I could put it together with my eyes closed. Yep. I'm gonna need a hand getting in to that cardboard. He's being a bit of a big baby. (LAUGHS) Sam's nickname for him. I think, yeah, a part of me was hoping he would really just, like, be like, 'OK, I've got this.' No complaints, nothing. (BLEEP) Where do we begin? (CHUCKLES) Right. Well, I'm just going to sit here for 10 minutes and read the instructions. Oh my God, you are bloody not. Not happy about all this plastic. Oh God. Stop whinging. A clear workspace. OK, good. Is there anything else you need, Big Baby? (LAUGHS) Oh, there's no doubt about it. I think, domestically, he would be great. And, you know, he's the type of guy that you'd ask him to do something, and he, you know, he would like to do that for you. How you going there, hubby? Oh, great. Yeah. If I stand on that edge,... Yeah. ...could you just hold me against it, and I'll... ...smack it in? Yeah. I was expecting him just to hold me up normally by the back. He decided to get in there. (LAUGHS) And, uh, you know, he's an opportunist, so that's all good. Don't get the fingers. (METAL CLANGS SOFTLY) Ah, (BLEEP), don't do that. I think he'd be more comfortable in the kitchen and doing the vacuuming, and I would be banging the nails, and... Does that mean that our roles are gonna be reversed? That's not... That's... Yeah, that's not what I'm looking for. In Julia's hometown of Christchurch,... Hi. ...Dave is about to spend time with Julia's closest friends for the first time since their wedding day. Yoo hoo. The (BLEEP). Looks like it's curdled. Does, eh? (LAUGHS) It (BLEEP)ing does. (LAUGHS) Be nice to my husband, folks. No, I am. I'm joking. It looks fabulous. (LAUGHS) (LAUGHTER) Right, that's it. I've had enough. Oh my God, it looks like scrambled eggs. It is. The cat might eat it. (LAUGHS) I don't want to kill her cat ` it's, like, sacred. So just kill her friends instead. (LAUGHS) Yeah. (MEOWS) Tiramisu was a nightmare. Uh, I really need to seriously... It's terrible. ...learn how to cook. (LAUGHS) Everyone, this is Dave ` well, you meet him on the way in, obviously ` the hubby. (LAUGHS) Cheers. Cheers. Cheers to everyone. Cheers, mate. Thanks for coming. Good to see you. Oh. Ch-ch-ching, ch-ching, ch-ching. So, how was the honeymoon? The honeymoon was awesome. Three days of,... uh, wedded bliss. (LAUGHS) Was it? Was it? Yeah. What happened? No. Oh, we went swimming, and we drank and... Mm-hm. And how did you feel when she first walked down the aisle? I didn't actually think of a redhead, out of all of my scenarios. And I went through a lot of scenarios. Oh my God, so did I. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. OK. (LAUGHS) Well, you know. I was gonna say, you know... To be honest, I was like, yeah, um,... I was pretty impressed. (LAUGHS) Yeah. Um, well, she is. She's... gorgeous. Aww. But, I mean, people tell me I have a type, but I don't see it, to be honest. What's the type? (LAUGHS) Here we go. OK, is there any knives out? (LAUGHS) Nah, nah, nah. We're all good there. Oh, geez. Are you gonna move in here or is she gonna move? (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) Um, don't know. (LAUGHS) Don't know. We haven't thought that far ahead. We're right staying in the moment, cos every day is different. And it's... Yeah. Oh my God, it's intense. I wouldn't move to Dunedin. It's not` You know, I love Christchurch, and, yeah, it wouldn't be somewhere where I'd move. But he'd be happy to move here. So, yeah, makes it easier, I guess. What the (BLEEP) is going on? Seriously, how's it going? Um... He seems nice. Yeah, he is. He's really` That's the thing ` he's so amazing and lovely and, like,... I'm just` I don't know. I feel like there's a 'but'. I'm struggling with the attraction side of things, cos he's so metrosexual. Yeah. And, like, it's not a bad thing. It's just not what I'm into. Is he that metrosexual, though? He just seems kind of like... I don't see it. Nah, I think he's manly and nice. I really like him. I don't see a metrosexual. When I look at him, I think he's quite manly. I think that that's the hurdle that she's put in place, and maybe there's some other small things as well. And that's just what she's focusing on. Because most of the people here tonight think he's really, like, masculine and, yeah, so... And what are you feeling? I can't` I don't know. There's not` The physical attraction isn't there. Is he, you know, fully keen? I mean, they think with the head, and we're not talking about this head. (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) But that hasn't happened, obviously. Yeah. What hasn't happened? You know. (WHISTLES) Yeah. (LAUGHS) Yeah. No, I don't know. What's (WHISTLES) mean? (LAUGHS) We haven't had sex, OK? Have you ever felt like that could happen? (SIGHS) I mean` (SIGHS) I don't know. (LAUGHS) Like, I have moments where I'm like (INHALES). But then I'm, like, well, I don't wanna also, like, lead him on either. And, like, what if we did have sex, and then, you know, he felt` Well, you're married. I don't think you can lead him on much more than that. (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) It's such a shame, because it's the one thing missing. Is the sex? Yeah. Never know till you try. Well, that's true. That's true. We could just do that and rip the Band-Aid off and give it a whirl, (CHUCKLES) but I don't want to give him false hope. He's, you know, an awesome guy, you know? He's not a prick. No, he's not. He's lovely. There is no way you can fault him, so... I know. It's true. That's why it's even harder, cos I'm like, 'Oh my God', you know? (SIGHS) Like, what if that happens, and for whatever reason, I don't... I'm like 'Oh no'. It's a deal-breaker or whatever. I'm not saying, I mean, it'll be a deal-breaker. (LAUGHS) Maybe he'll be amazing. Who knows? (LAUGHS) Oh God. I'll just go with it. Yeah. It might set a new expectation as well. Oh, I don't know. I guess, I'm overthinking it as well. Um, yeah. (SIGHS) For the experiment to have a chance to work, these people have to try and put their best foot forward. They have to try and get out of their comfort zone and do things a little bit differently and have an innate belief that they've been matched for the right reasons. In Auckland, Tayler's slow recovery after a late night out has his husband Samuel concerned about a rift growing between them. You all right over there, Samuel? Me? I'm good. That's good. I have to be to deal with you today. Tayler is hung over. We all deal with our things differently when we're drunk or hung-over, so it will be an interesting day. It will be an interesting day. In a way, I'm really... not liking being hung-over, but at the same time, it's been a very long time. You should do what I did yesterday ` Go to the gym, and it will make you feel so much better. Don't be ridiculous, Sam. Means you'll end up sitting on the couch complaining all day. Or go for a run. Go for a walk around Vic park. Excuse me, Samuel. You have no idea what's gonna make me feel better right now. So, this is the first time I get to see an annoyance out of him or possibly the real side of him. Why couldn't you bring this side out two weeks ago or at least a week ago. I haven't seen you like this before. Thought you were almost a nun ` didn't do anything. (GROANS) This the Sunday Tayler. Is this the annoying Tayler? Um, not quite. Not quite? So it gets worse than this? You'll see the annoying Tayler about 12 o'clock. I'll be out having coffee, so I probably won't. I gave it my all for the first two weeks, and I've pretty much thrown myself out on the line. Now, I'm possibly taking a step back. Pretty cute when I'm drunk, eh? You're not drunk. (CHUCKLES) I know that. (CHUCKLES) Oh, OK. Don't answer that. (LAUGHS) Julia and Dave have just returned to Auckland, and the first thing on her agenda is to catch up with bestie Samuel before tonight's dinner party. God, I've missed you. I have. I've missed you. (LAUGHS) Oh my God. How was` How was home visits? Um... Yeah, they went really well, actually. My friends absolutely loved Dave. Yeah. That sounds good. Like, they really like him a lot, and now I'm feeling a little bit confused about it. There's only a few days left in the experiment. So it's quite crucial now to really make or break it. We've got our commitment ceremony coming up and` Yeah, I know. I'm struggling. I feel like you're possibly going through the same. Oh my God, I am. I can't even think. Same as me. Like, it's tough. I don't want to leave, because I kind of saw something in him in the home visit that I was quite attracted to. Yeah. I don't know. I thought that we, you know, friend-zoned each other at one point, and now I'm not so sure. I mean, one minute, you feel this way; the next minute, you feel that way. I don't want to give him false hope either, you know? Like, I don't want to lead him on or,... because that's not who I am, you know? And so I don't know whether... Oh, obviously, we're just missing the intimacy side. I'm like 'Oh'. Exactly the same as me. I feel like I have a best mate and not a husband, and now it's just all spiralling. It's turned around. It's turning around, and it's like ` is it too late? (DRAMATIC MUSIC) Oh my God, Dave just sent us a photo. (GASPS) Dave is such a creep. He's watching us. It freaks me out. Oh, at least we're in it together. I actually love that. I do love it. I love you too. Oh my God, so much. After a rocky home visit, Gareth's looking to surprise his wife Ottie, with a wedding band that's more in line with her taste. Ottie wasn't a big fan of the ring that she was given. So I decided to organise to have another ring made for her. Hey, how are you? Hey, good. How are you? Good. I'm Gareth. Gareth ` nice to see you. It's not, kind of, a 'here's your engagement ring' or 'here's your wedding ring'. Again, it's just, kind of, something that I hope she'll like. I think her one at the moment's probably a wee bit too girly for her. By the sounds of things, yeah. I don't see it as being romantic, but she doesn't like hers, so get her another one. I just want to find out what you're doing so I can make a plan. I don't know. I want to spend some time with you, but Sam needs me as well. So, I won't make any plans, then. (CHUCKLES) Oh, I'm not sure. I don't know what I'm gonna do, but I... yeah. I'm not sure. (SIGHS) OK. I've can sense that you're annoyed about it. Nah, it's all right. I'll stay here with you. No, no, no. Well, you're angry now. I don't know what's going on. I've got Tim in my ear. It's really difficult for partners when they see that the person they've married is actually spending more time with other members in the group than they are with this person. It's really important that the energy remains in the couple ` in that bubble, not in the wider group. So, anything we should know about? No, definitely not. OK. We just` It's nothing to do with you. Well, I mean, I did talk to Sam about it, obviously, but not` but good things. In this, I think, you know, if anything's going on with us, Sam's generally the first to know. Whenever anything goes on with them and Tayler, you're the first to know. So it's like you and Sam have got this... amazing connection that I think we both look at it and go, 'Well, we can't talk to you like that.' You know, it's nice that people want to have a chat and come over and talk about their feelings and things like that, which is really healthy. But this morning was one of those times where, I think, we needed just to be, uh, back in our environment and maybe talking about our stuff. Where is this coming from? That's ridiculous. Like, I... Well, I mean, I see it, and so does Tayler. Yeah, I know, but, like, we... I'm going` This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do, and I think it's really healthy to have a friendship outside of this to be able to talk to, to talk through it with. Like, I dunno. I disagree. Oh my God. I'm surprised. You blindsided me with this. This is something I'm seeing, and I find it even worse when, you know, other people tell me, 'Oh, look. We're seeing it as well.' So, you know, how do you feel? And, it's like, well, I feel I need to talk to Julia. I wasn't blindsiding you. It's stating the obvious. Your first go-to, whether it's, you know, juicy gossip or if it's actual something beneficial, like we're struggling with,... your first go-to is Sam. We're not spending, you know, the majority of our time with the one` Like, Sam` That's not true. ...Sam has got` I spend more time with you than I do with Sam, obviously. Only when we live together. That's not true. That is absolutely not true. And we have to live together, which is, you know, that kind of thing. I'm sensing jealousy here. Like, it's weird. I'm just trying to deal with this as best as I can, because it is the hardest thing ever, and I need an emotional outlet that isn't you. Julia's, you know, she's got such a big heart. She's there for everyone. But at the same time, we need to do our thing. And sometimes it's hard to get her attention, if you know what I mean. From the beginning, I've been open, honest and communicative with you,... Yeah, you have. Yeah, absolutely. ...as best as I can. And it's exhausting as well. And I need another emotional outlet, and that has been Sam. I just` I don't know. I can't. I'm,... (GROANS FRUSTRATEDLY). I'm upset now. Like, I am. I'm not gonna lie. I find that quite` That really actually pisses me off of the worst. I just felt like we just took a very big step backwards, so that's awesome. I` Yeah, I just` I dunno. Nah, I'm done filming, guys, and I'm over it. Seriously, I'm over it. I'm not (BLEEP)ing coming back out. (BLEEP). No, I'm done filming guys, and I'm over it. Mm. Seriously, I'm over it. I'm not (BLEEP)ing coming back out. I can't believe you would say that on camera. That was so shit. Well, now you know. Oh, whatever. And I'm sick of hearing it from everyone else. When it comes to getting to know you, OK, I want to be the person that I think, you know,... And if that's not working, then it's not working. We're getting close to the end now, so, you know, the time that we have and what we talk about, you know, it's getting more serious, and it's, um, to the point where we've got decisions to make. You tell him everything ` absolutely everything. And I tell you everything as well. Yeah, after he's digested it,... That's not true. ...and you've, kind of, got it right in your head. And then you come to me. That's not true. Well, it's what's happening. It... No, it's not true. Do you want me to tell you what the real problem is? After leaving Christchurch and having such an amazing time, you are this complete and utterly different person. Honestly, I'm (BLEEP)ing done. The time Samuel's spent away from his husband Tayler has also been causing a major strain on their relationship. This is probably what I'm gonna wear tonight. I'm wearing the same colour top. You said that you're wearing black. No, that's why I went shopping ` to go buy a new` a brand new outfit. Oh well. OK. Hold on. What colour pants are you wearing? Uh, creamy ` creamy-colour pants. (BLEEP) I really hope that we're gonna go to this dinner party as a united couple, but the last few days has been quite obvious in the fact that we have taken a huge leap back. I think we're definitely drifting apart. This is, what, our last dinner party ` our last time as a group, really. Well, yeah. I've invested a lot of time and put in a lot of effort to get this far. If I come out of it, I guess, empty-handed, then yeah, I'll be real gutted. (SIGHS) What's that? Basically got off that plane, and the first person you go to is Sam. I just wanted to have some time with you in here this morning. And you just could not wait. I know he's got problems, but he needs to talk to Tayler. No, I know. I had the best time in Christchurch with you, and I just thought` No, I didn't think` I` You know` You know what? You're wrong. I need you in this just as much as Sam needs Tayler. Yeah. And it kind of` He's stealing my power, because I want to be, kind of, there for you and show you that I can get you through this. It's kind of my thing. (SOBS) I'm so sorry. Don't be sorry, babe. Oh, I'm really sorry. I really am. I'm sorry. It's OK. You can only invest so much, I think, before you realise that nothing's coming back. I don't think, in terms of commitment, she's there. We just need the time to ourselves rather than talk about Sam. I need to take responsibility for that. And you're right ` I was wrong. And for that, I'm really sorry. But, don't get me wrong, I totally respect you have to get out and... I know. do your thing. I know you do. But today has just been a mind (BLEEP). Like, it's been... I'm sorry. Aww. (KISSES, CHUCKLES) Actions speak louder than words, and that's been... quite disappointing, really. This dinner party, they already know each other, so it's really important that they lean on their partner more than they're leaning on those that are around them. That is critical to the success or failure of their relationship at this point. I think it'd be good to see the other couples again. See if any of them are struggling like us. He's struggling. Our communication, I think, still not our strongest attribute. If we end up talking about serious stuff, we end up arguing. You happy? Of course I'm happy. Why wouldn't I be happy? I'm not at the best... space, place right now. This dinner party will be a time where, perhaps, some of the facades will drop, and we'll really get to see the real version of each relationship within this group. OK, what's some questions I can ask everyone at dinner tonight? As opposed to, like, favourite colour and number? Yeah. I went into the home visits having Gareth's back, and I felt like our morals don't align. Just be good to catch up with everyone. See where everyone's at? Yeah. Tell everyone that they're not allowed to leave. I am curious to find out how everyone else's home visits went. We don't even know if everyone's still here. Guess we'll find out. Do you think that everyone will be, sort of, in the same boat as us after home visits? Like,... Oh. ...much more closer as couples? We kind of went in there, like, going, 'uh', and then came out going, 'Yeah!' The home visits have been game-changing for Monique and I. I'm more open to continuing this after the experiment now that I've seen that it works in the real world. Tonight, do you feel like we're going in on the same page? Yeah. Or, do you not reckon we are? No, no, I think` I feel like we are. I think we do. Oh, OK. I think we are on the same page. Yeah. It's more, just, like, going, 'Yes, we're a team and we're` Yeah. we're, kind of, awesome. (LAUGHS) You doing the ironing of my shirt? Yeah. Sweet. We've got somewhere to go to soon. It's been really nice and refreshing for me that I do little things for my partner. This makes me happy, so it's really cool. We're matching red tonight as well. Oh, we are! Yes, we are. (LAUGHS) Me and Yuki have, kind of, made it a bit of a thing from day one, saying don't get caught up in the BS of other people's relationships. It's just not who we are, and we don't want to do that, cos it gets toxic. It's not our business. (UPBEAT MUSIC) It's that way. (BOTH LAUGH) (KSENIA MURMURS, CHUCKLES) Oh, I knew you were going to fall for it too. I was like, 'This is gonna be so easy.' Oh, wow. Oh, there's Ksenia. And Wayne. Yes. (CHAIR SCRAPES) Now we sit, and we wait. It's a cool place. (PLAYFUL MUSIC) Have you been here before? (CHUCKLES) No. Have you? No, don't think so. I just hope that Ksenia has opened herself up, cos we spoke a lot about Wayne and communicating and a need to communicate. That's right. She's gotta do her bit. And as we said, it takes two to tango. Hmm. Where do you wanna sit? Wanna sit there, and you can sit there. Yeah, I'm happy with that. So it'll be quite interesting to see if or how this changes when others arrive. So will she remain engaged? That's gonna be the test, isn't it? Hi. Hello. Hello. Oh my God, you look (BLEEP)ing killer. How are you? Hey. Hi. How are you? What's up, mate? Good. Gareth and Ottie do come across as a real team. So that, in itself, is good for Wayne and Ksenia. So how was your home visits? Awesome. Yeah, no, it was really cool. Um, Crom is small, but really, really beautiful; beautiful part of the world. We went to an amazing winery. This will be their first opportunity to talk about the home visits. Yes. That would have been the first real step and insight into life beyond this experiment. Will it have broken some of the couples? Yes. Will it have challenged them or will it have reinforced them? Gareth lives with his parents, and so we stayed with them. So it was only them that I got to see family-wise. And then some of Gareth's friends. One of the first statements she made. I wonder what was the impact, cos she's a very strong, independent woman. How would it have been for her to go on a home visit and be staying with Gareth's parents? Exactly. Gareth came to Christchurch. Yeah. Nice. And just had some drinks and stuff with some friends. It was cool. Nice. My friends are like savage females, so that went down` Yeah. ...a little bit awkwardly. Yeah. So what was awkward? The energy seems to have started to go down since they've been talking about the home visits, so I wonder` It is, yeah. You're absolutely right. ...how has her experience been? Yeah. Well, she could still be processing it. Jury's out a little bit. (OMINOUS MUSIC) Ha, ho. Ah! How are you? Hi, guys. Hello. Cheek to the cheek. How's it going? It's going. How are you guys doing? Good. I'll be really interested to see how Julia and Dave go through this evening. They really do meet each other's criteria. But they've stuttered in terms of how accessible they've been to each other. Yes. Here's the little bambinos. Oh, hi. Kia ora. Holy shit, long time, no see. (WHOOPS) Damn, girlfriend. Big fella. She has scrubbed up nicely. Hi. How are you? How are you going? So the commitment ceremony tomorrow night. Mm-hm, yep. So this is crunch time, really, isn't it? I wonder if they're acutely aware of that. You guys are looking close together. What's been happening? Well, this is really bad, but, like, I really, really, really take on-board my friends' attitude` So do I. And they` Well, they've gotta fit in. Yeah. Like, he's gotta fit in with them. And I was actually a bit nervous that Fraser Lee wouldn't really fit in with my friend group. I'm sorry, who wouldn't love Fraser Lee? No, like, and then it kinda` ...and then it, like, they're in love with him. Aw. Wait, are you in love with me? No, my friends are in love with you. Well, this is awkward. And, like, my dad wants to bloody marry you, right? This is getting weirder and weirder now. I don't even know how to feel about this. And it, yeah,... I mean, it's still my, like, decision. I know. Well, and his decision. But, you know, like, it's still up to us. But it was just kind of like, 'Oh, phew'. (OMINOUS MUSIC) Oh, hello. Hey, guys. How are ya? (CHUCKLES) How's it going, yo? Good. How are you? Yeah, good. Nice shirt. You guys are matching, you sick (BLEEP). (ALL LAUGH) Hey, how are ya? Hi, how are you? (OMINOUS MUSIC) (ALL EXCLAIM) Hello. How are ya? Nice. Nice, nice, nice. (LAUGHS) Oh, don't worry about the dress. You're like, 'the watch, the watch'. So Julia and Sam ` they're back. Yeah. They're very rarely apart. Yeah. What do you think? No, it's nice. Really nice. Oh, your shoes are good. Yeah, the shoes are` Shoes are really good. It's really interesting to see that group dynamic and the role and the impact that it has on relationships. Right, guys, I think it's time we sit down for dinner. How are people feeling about food? Yay! Righto, let's do it. Sit wherever you bloody want. OK, Jesus, thanks. So Sam and Tayler ` they've been overcoming some challenges in really getting to know each other. They're the first to go and sit side by side on the table as soon as the opportunity came up. But I'm just seeing nothing between Julia and Dave. (GROANS, SUCKS IN BREATH) It'll stop in a minute. Do you not watch Family Guy? Oh, (BLEEP), Dave. I'm sorry, Family Guy is amazing. I disagree. Dave, you remind me of Family Guy. What? You remind me of the Family Guy guy. (OMINOUS MUSIC) Peter Griffin? He's hilarious, though. He's Peter. Peter. Peter Griffin. Do you want Big Baby or Peter Griffin ` which one? Oh God. So I didn't quite catch that, but did they just call him Big` Daniel Big Baby? I thought it was Big Baby. But he doesn't look too happy with it, does he? I can't imagine he would be. No. Sam's got a sense of humour, but` No. You can stick with Big Baby. OK. So, Big Baby, there we go. I think you just pissed Big Baby off. I'm gonna (BLEEP)ing spit in your plate in a minute. (BOTH LAUGH) He will. (LAUGHS) I love you, Dave. He does stand his ground when he needs to. (OMINOUS MUSIC) I wonder what that's about? And I wonder for how long that's been going? Yeah, poor old David. He seems to be marginalised across the board sometimes. Mm-hm, yeah. What do you want? Uh, well, (BLOWS RASPBERRY). Gareth, can Big Baby have a beer, please? (LAUGHS) Thanks, mate. Yeah. Yeah, we're pretty good. I'm very lucky. Good evening. Hey. Kia ora. Awesome to see you all again this evening. You're all looking very, very good. Hopefully, you've enjoyed your meal. Tonight's dinner party is an opportunity for you guys to really dig deeper. So what Steph and I have got are a few questions for each couple that I'd like you to really take the time and, again, I cannot reiterate enough, how important it is that you're truly, truly honest with yourselves and your partner. Thanks, Tony. Cheers, mate. He's actually nice. He's actually nice. There you have it. Well, so time will tell if it does exactly as we're hoping for it to do, which is for them to dig deeper, to be honest with each other. I just hope that it doesn't become a game. But then again, that will be an indicator of where these guys are at right now. Um, righto, guys. It seems that, um,... I'm the one` You're up to the chopping block. ...I'm going first. Put that one down. When you look at me, what do you see? Honestly. Your honest answer. I see a nice, kind, caring guy. Aw, so do we. We see the same. Very much values based ` nice, kind, caring. Do you believe that I am uneducated? What? You went to high` No, you've went to high school. You've done` You've got real estate license. (OMINOUS MUSIC) Anything else that I do? You've never actually spoken to me about any of my university history, my qualifications previous to helicopters. Let alone, actually maintaining and fixing helicopters. It takes a little bit of a intelligence to do that. Otherwise, you can't do it. So for her to not even, sort of, realise it, it worries me a little bit. (ALL LAUGH) And the helicopters ` fixing the helicopters. Yeah. There you go. (LAUGHS) (ALL LAUGH) Could you see yourself fitting into my busy lifestyle with me working away from home at times? Yeah, I don't have any problems for that. I mean, depends how long. Obviously, I don't want to be with someone who's like, um,... too long. Like, my father, is` was working as a marine captain. And me growing up as a child, it was tough for me. And I think it was tough for my parents. And when I was about two, my mom asked, 'What are you gonna say when your father comes back home?' And I said, like, 'Hello, father'. I didn't actually... know him. Aw, Ksenia. And I said, like, 'Hello, father'. I didn't actually... know him. Aw, Ksenia. We love you. Yeah, um, so, yeah, it depends for how long. So I don't, obviously, want to be with someone who is, um,... away for too long. Ksenia opening up about her father, um, tonight, his work and how much he was away from them as kids, it was a 100% surprise to me. I think if you're gonna marry someone and potentially spend the rest of your life with them, you need to start opening up and, um, showing me this sort of stuff. Um, yeah. Honest. That's all. That's all. (CLEARS THROAT) OK. Do you find me difficult to be in a relationship with? (OMINOUS MUSIC) To be honest ` no, I don't. Because we're not in a relationship. (DRAMATIC MUSIC BUILDS) (OMINOUS MUSIC) OK. Do you find me difficult to be in a relationship with? (OMINOUS MUSIC) To be honest, no, I don't. Because we're not in a relationship. We're just two people trying to get to know each other. A relationship comes afterwards. So, no, I don't think you are. I'm just trying to, um, work out who you are and if there is gonna be a relationship. But until I know there's nothing left on the table is when I will speak to you. I won't walk away. I will speak to you and say, 'Hey, maybe we should go our different ways.' When that happens, um, tomorrow or if it happens at the end of the experiment, I don't know. It's something we need to talk about, um, and go from there. Thank you. You probably need to start... focusing on me and asking about me. Like, I'm trying to figure you out, but I'm getting a closed book, so I'm, obviously, very hesitant to open up my heart and my feelings to someone who's probably generally not paying me very much interest. Whoa, go Wayne. He felt it. You could see it. How different is that from the last dinner party when he felt he was marginalised at the very end? Mm-hm. What a long way he's come. Are you ready? Yeah. Are you really prepared to move cities to be with me? I've never moved to another city for love. Making those decisions and packing up my entire life, going to another city ` it's quite a big thing. Yes, I am. (ROMANTIC MUSIC) I'm ready to do anything for this relationship. I have no problems moving cities. Wherever it is in the world, I'm there for you. (ALL APPLAUD, EXCLAIM) Wow. Yes. Wow. Right on, Dan. It was, um,... It was kind of make me realise how amazing he really is, really. Why do you think we're a good match? Because we are very similar. Aw. Yeah, that works. (ALL LAUGH) Best short answer ever. What worries you the most about the experiment finishing? Mm. Losing the focus because we` obviously, we have to go back to the real world. We spend a lot of time, like, condensed for four weeks, but then if something got a lot of noises around, maybe, like, um,... it's hard to keep it up? Yeah. Yeah. Cool. We don't really ask the question to each other face to face, so that was very, um,... good questions. I think that's what we needed for this time of the experiment. This is all about staying focused and working at it. She's got the hang of it. She knows what it's all about. Mm. Do you ever worry that I will break your heart or abandon you? (SOFT, GENTLE MUSIC) Um,... It's come from the past. And I'm hope he's not that one that is gonna hurt me again, but it's always back of my head as a 'maybe'. Yes, but not hope it's not gonna happen. (CHUCKLES SOFTLY) Um, yeah, that's it. Good. Amazing. (ALL CLAP) ALL: Aw! (SOFT, GENTLE MUSIC) Really honest, really raw. What we've just heard and what we see now is just a couple that remain together, remain united and remain connected, regardless of what's going around them. Hey, our turn. Let's go. Do you think I'm here for the right reasons? If not, what are your concerns? I'm hoping that you're here for the right reasons. Open. There has been speculation that you haven't been here for the right reasons. And I think if I didn't know about your social media following, I wouldn't have that doubt in my mind at all. Cos there's static noise within this experiment, but there's also static noise that Sam brings with his following. What effect will that have on the last week, whether it's given that there is a time apart? Um,... how do you think I feel about our relationship and you? (OMINOUS MUSIC) From our little tiff the other day, I think, from then, we've taken a massive step back. Yep. But... I'm gonna give you that time, and hopefully it's not too little too late. I haven't been easy, and I fully admit that. But I haven't been easy because he hasn't given me much. I need him to give me more, and I need to know what I'm getting myself into after this experiment. In what way do you feel that I've held back in this relationship? I felt it took you too long to open up in this relationship, which has left me to doubt where we're going in the next five days. I feel like I've been a little bit more open, but at the same time, I am who I am. And I need to be comfortable to open up. I'm just waiting for that moment for you to just be yourself and feel comfortable, um,... without me possibly judging you as well, so, yeah. Have you been judging me? (OMINOUS MUSIC) I have been, yes. I will be honest. I have been judging you. So I think it's now up to you to, kind of, take a step back and see why I'm in the position I am. Because at the moment, my balls have gone back up. (OMINOUS MUSIC) I sort of feel like that was being put back on to Tayler a little bit. Like, if you do things differently, then I might let down my guard, and I might come out of my shell. I made myself vulnerable on TV. And I don't normally do that, and now it's your turn to step forward. Yeah. (SIGHS) Do you have feelings for me? I'm gonna take a sip. Wow. (OMINOUS MUSIC) I can 100% say I have feelings for you. Day one, when I met you at the aisle,... we won New Zealand over from the start. We haven't bad-mouthed each other. We haven't... once, kind of, spoken badly at all about each other. And we've become really good friends. And I'm just hoping we can get beyond that stage of the friendship zone. But he made the statement that he feels that they've 'won New Zealand over'. Why would that be the first go-to for that answer? And that they've been themselves, and they've looked right. What would you do differently if you had your time again? I think maybe not to judge you and your lifestyle choices. And that's been a big thing holding me back. You have been ` and I can say this because I'm being honest with you ` you have been too relaxed for me. And you possibly haven't been the go-getter that I wanted in a husband. And I need you to kind of just produce that and show me what else you can give me apart from your good looks, really. Every answer so far has ended with a to-do for Tayler. Yes. Every answer. Yeah. So I've done this, this, this and this and this, but now you need to do this. Yes. But mind you, Tayler seems to be taking this in pretty good faith, doesn't he? I mean, that's part of who he is. He lets things just roll over him. And maybe that's part of the problem. Here we go. Here we go. (IMITATES DRUM ROLL) Drum roll. Well, I think Julia is probably going to be quite nervous, because she's going to be asked the tough questions. (OMINOUS MUSIC) OK. Here we go. D to the J. Oh God. Big D. Oh. This is a big one for him. And it's huge for her. OK. Am I your type physically, and why? That's a confronting one. Um,... Julia's thinking long and hard. (OMINOUS MUSIC BUILDS) I... OK. Am I your type physically, and why? That's a confronting one. Julia's thinking long and hard. Um,... Being in this experiment, you second guess what you say in a lot of ways, even if you're being honest, because it's hard. OK. Let me think about that. This is her call. She can screw it up from here, or she can totally step up. And if she's genuine with me and if she's being honest, then I don't have anything to worry about. I... To be honest with you, I really` I am more about personalities. Chemistry comes with it, so, I don't know, physical? It's really not a... Yeah. So it's fine. I think, yeah, it's all good. (LAUGHS) Oh my God. What does that mean? It means, physically, no. I'm looking for` I think it's possibly a bit of a hard answer. Do you have any feelings outside of friendship for me? Yes, definitely. Yeah, I do. That's just the affirmation that David needs to have. He needed something to hang in there. That's been, kind of, a,... Yeah, it just, sort of, changed recently. It was really cool to see you with my friends, and they all love you, which is amazing, and my mom and everyone and, yeah. So this is incredibly confusing for me. (CHUCKLES SOFTLY) I think a real crux of what we saw there was beyond what they're saying. More how they delivering it. Here we go. So, David, do you think we are a good match? Yeah, absolutely, I do. Everything matches up on my part. It's amazing` I know. Crazy. Yep. Yeah, really is. Absolutely. I do. Sorry, I'm answering that for you. I was going to say` Too much, too much. Sorry. Julia. Oh, so she's saying, 'I think we're a good match', even though it was his question. No, but I agree. Anyway, why does my friendship with Sam bother you? (CHUCKLES) (AWKWARD MUSIC) Well, let's say, first of all, it doesn't bother me. No, yeah, I agree. Absolutely not. No. And I think the whole time we've been through this, we've have one, um, hit, and that was because we had, kind of, made plans, and we basically wanted to spend time, and it just didn't happen. She invests an exorbitant amount of time ` if that's the word ` with Sam, rather than me. And where we've had friction has been because of that ` because we've made time to be with each other, and, you know, when the pressure's really been on, she runs to Sam. I` Sorry. Yeah. And I just felt we talked that out, and then that was the end of that, but I,... uh, the honest answer is it doesn't. I know we've got a close bond. It's because we're possibly both going through the same struggles. Yeah? This time right here, right now,` Yeah. ...I need just Julia. (OMINOUS MUSIC) It doesn't bother me. To be honest, I think Dave possibly wouldn't have this relationship with her if I wasn't here to support her, so... That's just me being honest, but I've actually told Dave that as well, and he respects that, so... I love you, Big Baby. Aw, Big Baby. (LAUGHS) Yeah. I don't think David has anything against Sam personally, but I think he does have a problem with the way Julia and another person have had a close alliance. He sees that Sam is not a threat, obviously, but it takes Julia away from him. What does your gut tell you about us? Will we last? My gut's saying yes, because I think we have an amazing friendship and` Yeah. ...that's always a great base to start anything. I'm here till the end, and I'll give it my all, and I'll be honest and loyal, and I mean it. Well, it's like he's renewing his wedding vows, isn't it? I don't know if she's hearing it. Well, I don't know either. Cos I think Julia gets uncomfortable with the touchy-feely stuff to be honest. Aw. That's all. (ALL CLAP) Yes. The stumble and the pause in regards to the attraction ` well, the thing is is that for Julia, it's always been a weird thing for her. I think it's sort of common knowledge through this that, you know, we've had that attraction thing right from the start and was it there? But we've moved on to a better place, I think, so... Yeah, that's pretty cool. (BLOWS BREATH OUT) OK. I don't like talking about my feelings in front of other people. So it's... never easy. Do you think I'm worth having a long distance relationship with? And if so, how long before we should move or give up? I think that you're possibly one of the most incredible people that I've met. ALL: Aw. I agree. Yeah, I agree. (ALL CLAP) Let's all move cities. (CHUCKLES) (ALL CHATTER, CHUCKLE) But, yes, there are still things` Oh, that's so nice. Like, we've got to figure out some things still between us, but values wise, we're on the same page` Yeah, definitely. ...and that's` you don't find that every day. No. We are a team. And we are always 100% open about how we feel about each other. And we are both on the same page in terms of our feelings and in terms of where we're at. You can be honest. Are you frustrated at the pace of our relationship? At the beginning, I was. Now, I'm actually comfortable with it. I think that it's` I like the fact that we're taking things slow. It's meant that I've actually had to invest more in this than I've invested in past relationships. He's said that before. Yep. So that's` Yeah, that's good. You're so cute. (ROMANTIC MUSIC) Your turn. (ALL LAUGH) OK, go. Go, go, go, go. Ooh. Ooh. (CHUCKLES) Do you really think that spark can still develop between us? (OMINOUS MUSIC) Do you really think that spark can still develop between us? (OMINOUS MUSIC) I don't know. I hope so. But I actually don't know. You can't help, like, who you fall in love with. You can't help that. And that's it. Oh, is that it? Oh, that was good. I know that for Monique, it's hard to talk about her feelings when it comes to being in such a group environment. And that's totally fine, because that's part of who she is. (UNSETTLING MUSIC) So, Gareth and Ottie, we've got some really confronting and challenging questions for these guys. Do you think our core values line up? (OMINOUS MUSIC) Honestly, I think my values are fluid, so depends on circumstance and situation and... So... no answer. That was Ottie very much telling Gareth ` this is what we're doing here. Fall in line. Wow. Do you think we are a good match? I think personality wise, yes. I'm noticing a difference with Ottie tonight. She's not that same relaxed, fun-loving Ottie that we saw in the first dinner party. She's a little bit more jaded tonight. She's losing patience. She's definitely shut down a lot more. Do you have any regrets or reservations right now? Reservations? Yes, and you know those. Regrets? No. All right. Is that it? That was it. Oh, far out. Whoo-hoo. I thought I was gonna have to put some deo on, but I'm good. (ALL CHUCKLE) Bom, bom. Why do you think we are a good match? I think we get on extremely well, which we have right from the start. And I think we both` Or I can say from my side, I feel comfortable around you. And for me, that's a big thing. Really? I make you feel comfortable? Yeah, you do, to a certain degree. You know I don't want kids. So are you really ready for a committed relationship with me? The kids thing, we've spoken about endless amounts of times, and I think I've taken your view on it and what you've told me. I don't think you've 100% understood my view on it. (OMINOUS MUSIC) I feel like he came into it wanting a family. And I've had a guy compromise before, compromise what they wanted, and I'm not prepared to be carrying that guilt again. Ottie's holding front and centre,` Mm. ...but a very different type of front and centre. I just wonder if there's actually any spark there at all, to be honest. And where's it gone and why? Oh, this is... a question I'm not gonna ask you. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) (ALL CLAP) Why didn't you want to ask it? Cos it's something we've talked about ` you and me ` and not to them. Cool. Yeah. It was more about you than me. I'm sure of myself. I came into here displaying all the ugly sides of me and all my different personalities. And I don't think Gareth did. Just cos I'm an open book doesn't mean everyone else is. You knew it was gonna come up. And yet they only want to try and push something out of us. A question that starts with A. I'll show you. (OMINOUS MUSIC) I'm changing my mind. If you wanna answer that question so it doesn't look so dramatic` Nope. ...then we can redo it. Don't want to answer it? Uh` Cos otherwise everyone's guessing as to what it is. They can guess whatever they want. OK. I just want to make sure that that's OK with you. The question that she didn't ask me was out of respect for me, and that's something that me and Ottie have spoken about. But at the same time, I'm not willing to speak about it on camera. It's just the way it is. (UNSETTLING MUSIC) I am a loyal person, probably to my own detriment. And so it's very hard to tread carefully for someone else's secrets. The shitty thing about this is that... he's not the nice boy he makes out. (UNSETTLING MUSIC BUILDS) Tomorrow night ` at the second commitment ceremony, the couples' struggles are laid bare. Do you feel like there's a bit of passion or spark there? Well, I think it's probably the elephant in the room. With serious deal breakers,... I wouldn't marry someone that wanted children. ...escalating conflict... I think after we spoke to you, I think it's gone worse. ...and relationships at breaking point. My normal reaction would've been to run two weeks ago. The decision must be made ` stay... or leave. 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