FEMALE NARRATOR: Previously on Married at First Sight ` Ksenia and Wayne made a last-ditch effort to work on their relationship. I don't wanna regret this. I wanna walk out knowing that we tried our best, and... what happens happens. Julia's close friendship with Samuel... I've missed you! (CHUCKLES GENTLY) ...caused a rift in her marriage. Your first go-to's Sam. I'm sensing jealousy here. And at the dinner party, hard questions were asked. Do you have feelings for me? Lemme take a sip. Difficult truths were revealed... Am I your type physically and why? (UNSETTLED MUSIC) To be honest with you, like, I really... I am more about personalities. ...and cracks were exposed. (GROANS) This is... a question I'm not gonna ask you. It was more about you than me. It's very hard to tread carefully for someone else's secrets. He's not the nice boy he makes out. Tonight ` at the second commitment ceremony, the couples' struggles are laid bare,... Do you feel like there's a bit of passion or spark there? I think it's probably the elephant in the room. ...with serious deal-breakers... I wouldn't marry someone that wanted children. ...escalating conflict... I think after we spoke to you, I think it's gone worse. ...and relationships at breaking point. My normal reaction would've been to run two weeks ago. The decision must be made ` stay or leave. (DRAMATIC MUSIC BUILDS) (BELL TOLLS, HEARTBEAT THUMPS) Copyright Able 2018 MALE NARRATOR: Step one ` buy SodaStream. Step two ` (GASPS) It's not you; it's it. Step three ` live happily ever after. MAN: Married at First Sight NZ ` proudly brought to you by SodaStream. (LOW, UNSETTLED MUSIC) FEMALE NARRATOR: This morning carries a hangover from the events of last night's dinner party. Good morning. Hey, girl. How you doin'? Wake up! How are ya? (GRUNTS) I felt like it was really fun last night, so that was cool. The questions were, like, stressful. I was like, 'Oh my God!' Do you think our core values line up? No answer. Why do you think we are a good match? I think we get on extremely well, which we have right from the start. (GROANS) This is... a question I'm not gonna ask you. (LOW, UNSETTLED MUSIC CONTINUES) The question I wouldn't ask him, there was a reason behind that. It's hard to talk about it without saying what it is, but I just felt like... the question was more something that Gareth had told me privately. Makes me look like an arsehole too, to ask something that I knew would make him squirm, so just feel like it's not fair. Well, get up anyway, you lazy bitch. No, no. I'm staying here today. I hope that it shows loyalty and integrity,... not that I'm being sneaky. But this face, however ` look at it! No, I'll kick you in the testicles. Oh, I didn't know that you had a massive f...ing tattoo on your back. I was kind of bit thrown off when they chucked the questions in there, cos, you know, having to talk about certain things in front of 10 other people is kind of daunting. No! Oh. Wake up, ya lazy bastard. F... you, man. The experiment feels like it's coming to the end but not necessarily know that there might be something out of this for me and Ottie. I think we've been a team from the start, and we said that's what we were gonna be, and we have. So we've had, you know, very honest conversations with each other, and, you know, that's how it should be. The couples are getting ready for their second commitment ceremony in the experiment. You sure I'm not over the top in this? No, you're fine. No, you're all goods with that. Sure? No, you're fine. Tonight the couples will have the opportunity to sit down with the experts and then make the decision on whether to continue or leave. Are you gonna stay or leave? (WATER RUNS) You'll have to wait and find out. For some, this will be a chance to learn how they can advance their relationship. Do you wanna ask 'em questions about, like, how they've matched us and stuff like that? And then maybe on how we make this long-distance thing work. Yeah, that would be good. Good idea. Yeah, cos, I mean, I've never done it long distance. Have you? Hmm, no answer. Yeah. (LAUGHS) The other participants are strugglin' too. I think there is maybe only one couple that kind of, sort of sure in each other and goin' well, but I think the rest sort of pretty much in the same boat as us. Me and Wayne, we always said that whether we decide stay or leave, we should talk prior to that and make the same decision. Me and Wayne talked this morning, and hopefully, we will write the same thing. Maybe we can ask them maybe what advices they could give us in the future. Oh, yeah. I think personally for you, I think you should be bit more confident and self-secure. I think you'll find it easier, so I think just believe in yourself. Yeah. That is inspirational, Dr Phil. (LAUGHS) I will take all of that on board. Please do. CHUCKLES GENTLY: I will. (CHUCKLES) Makin' the stay-or-leave decision today is` probably been one of the easier ones. Right now with me and Ksenia, yeah, she'll definitely be in my future. In what capacity, whether it's gonna be in a relationship or not, I'm not 100% sure on that. TONY: This is really important at this stage of the experiment, cos for some, they've really navigated through some challenges, and there's been some real barriers to the level of depth that some of the couples have been able to reach. By putting yourself completely out there, to really put an energy into it could be just enough to bring that relationship back online or even to get it started. I'm just gonna ask their advice on the attraction thing. DAVE: Yeah. You know? What, if they're attracted to me (?) (CHUCKLES SOFTLY) (UNSETTLED MUSIC) Mm. It's funny, because I always thought that I... when you know, you know. Mm. You know, I always thought it would be an instant thing. (SNAPS FINGERS) It'd be like, 'OK.' I don't know whether to wait it out or just... leave now and` and... so, you know, to prevent him from hurting. I'm really stuck, so I really want to be able to talk to the experts about it and say, 'Hey, like, what do you think?' Oh, we need to be honest, and obviously, if you think it's never gonna happen, then... Well, that's what I wanna, sorta, talk about with the experts, cos I don't know if maybe I'm missing this for just- like, you as a best friend. Either she feels it or she doesn't, so if she doesn't, then that will be it. (DRAMATIC NOTE) Hullo, hullo! YUKI, JULIA: Hullo. Damn, you look good. Oh-ho! Thank you. I woke up like this (!) (LAUGHS) How you goin'? You good, bro? Gidday, buddy. How we goin'? Nice to see ya. Hey, mate. Once again, the couples have been separated into two groups before the ceremony. This gives them a chance to discuss their final thoughts before making their big decision. TAYLER: ...everyone feelin' about tonight? (SOLEMN MUSIC) I'm feelin' happy. Yup. I got my pink socks on, so... FRASER: Yes, nice. Loud and proud. Lucky pink. Yeah. SOFTLY: Oh! Whoa! Yeah! (LAUGHTER) That was a great catch. I'm not gonna give anything away at all until, I guess, it's time to make the decision. Fair enough. But I'm feeling good. Good stuff. I dunno what's goin' on at the moment. There seems to be a lot of, you know, guessing, cos I don't think everyone's told each other what they're exactly doing, so it will be interesting to see what happens. Yeah, me and Yuki ` same page. (INHALES, EXHALES HEAVILY) I see no reasons why not. Good on ya. That's one question ` (EXHALES) if she can style hair, what the heck's goin' on with your head? (GUFFAWS) (FRASER CHORTLES) (CHUCKLES SOFTLY) I'm feelin' really good, actually. I think... Yeah, I think we're on the same page. You know, just push through, but I'm pretty sure we've got a bit of united front and we'll keep going. It's always nice to catch up with everyone again, and, yeah, I think we're all really sure of what's gonna happen and pretty confident we've all made the right decision. (SOLEMN MUSIC CONTINUES) I'm feeling really emotional today ` like, very, very emotional. I need to talk to you guys about it, cos I'm, like, freakin' out. I dunno, I'm just really struggling at the moment with Dave. Honestly, the elephant in the room is that we just haven't slept together. He just really` I know that he really likes me a lot and he's attracted to me. I don't know what it is; I don't feel... Do you know what it is? Do you? What? It's chemistry, and you don't have to feel guilty about it. If it's not there, it's not there. (DRAMATIC NOTE) My gut feeling is that that won't come, the attraction. People like that don't walk into my life. Oh my God, I'm gonna cry. Aw! They don't walk into my life every day like that, and I'm like` I feel so lucky, cos he's so amazing. (GROANS) God. I'm thinking about him constantly and that` you know, and not hurting him. I know he really likes me a lot, and I want to feel the same way more than anything. I just` There's just one thing that's missing, and I just` I don't know what more to do. And I'm just` yeah, (STAMMERS) I just don't wanna do any more. (SNIFFLES, EXHALES) God. (SOBS) (DRAMATIC NOTE) (BELLS TOLL) (SOLEMN PIANO NOTE) MONIQUE: But if you don't like someone back` And, like, I know we're in this experiment, like, for all good intentions and stuff, but, like, if this was the real world, you wouldn't be putting so much pressure on yourself. You would've walked away on day two. If you'd met him in a bar, he might not have been your type. In the experiment, you've given it a go to sort of try and get to know more about that person than just an initial attraction or non-attraction or whatever. We've all been fair by sticking at it instead of sticking our noses in the air because we don't have, I dunno, that f...ing shitty spark that's made up, for starters. Yeah. You didn't come in here looking for a friend. Thing that you're saying is exactly how I feel about Fraser, actually ` JULIA: Yeah, I know! well, not exactly but very similar. It was refreshing to hear other girls being honest and just saying honestly the way they feel. Do you guys believe that that can come, though? Like, that's what I really wanna know from you. Do you think that`? The attraction thing? That's my question as well. I just wanna know, like` It's never, ever happened to me before. It is break or make now, and that was the first time, really, I've heard Monique really speak up. And, like, if it works, cool, but if it doesn't, like... The only people that don't have the struggles` or who haven't spoken about it as much is Yuki and Dan. This is so interesting from a male's point of view, the conversation you girls have` OTTIE: Yeah. ...compared to if I was in the room with males. It's interesting. JULIA: I wonder what they're talking about. Well, I could just imagine what they'll be talking 'bout. (FRASER CHUCKLES) Hey, Wayne, tell us about your shirt choice for tonight. It's... It's hot, man. I love it. Thanks, mate. TAYLER: I actually r` Yeah, I like it. It's cool. They're pretty deep and meaningful, though. They are. JULIA: They are. They are, though. Why youse all`? He's all stressin' out. (FRASER CHUCKLES) I'm not stressin' out; I just get sweaty pits. Oh, I just get the hairdryer. It works a (BLEEP)ing treat. Absolutely, yeah. MONIQUE: I swear, they are more emotional than we are. Like, they're very` SAM: But it just shows what kind of` I think so; I agree with that, actually. (CHEERING) GARETH: Not only can he sing; he can get nuts in his mouth. (DAVE CHUCKLES) Cracks have started to show. I mean, we've got the big issues as well, and he wants a family; I don't. KSENIA: Yeah. And I just think that's an absolute deal-breaker. Sexual attraction ` you guys` Sexual attraction is not there for me either. Yeah. SAM: Is it there for him? Have you asked the question? Nah. Do you reckon you will? But you can tell. Yeah, you can tell ` he's smitten. When you've been with somebody 24 hours a day for three weeks, going on more, those cracks start to show, and people sort of become less polite, and the mannerisms about people start to annoy you and all those kinda things. I think we have similar personalities, and he has tattoos, and that's the only thing that ticks any boxes. (CHUCKLES GENTLY) You know, like, where we are in life, his views on... lots of things (CHUCKLES GENTLY) don't match up. I think maybe our morals don't align. If I met him in a bar and he was like, 'Yeah, I'd love to have kids one day,' I would literally turn around and walk off. I probably wouldn't even say bye. JULIA: It's weird that they matched you, though, knowing that. Completely. Two pretty big deal-breakers, pretty much. Yeah. So what are you gonna do today? Or do you not wanna talk about that? I wanna put it to the experts. Like, if they decided that they could match us, they must've had some plan. (UNSETTLED MUSIC) It's like buying a Big Mac and it having no sauce. (CHUCKLES SOFTLY) Yeah, of course, like, this could've been the best... change of my life. (TENSE MUSIC) TONY: Throughout this experiment, we see a rawness, and we see an absolute honesty... that comes with any relationship. And we see the emotional journey that all of our couples have navigated through. We've talked about it, and we're both, like, 'Well, you know, are we gonna stay to see, outside the experiment, how it could go?' But now I'm just like, 'I don't know if that's what I want, and I don't actually...' I genuinely don't know. There's a part of me that makes up my mind pretty quickly, and I'm (BLEEP)ing as stubborn as an ox. I have to back myself. GARETH: I think we're on the same page as to we're both wanting to see this out, but definitely, tonight hearing what the experts have to say is probably gonna be big bearing on what happens going forward. WAYNE: Every decision that you make in a situation like this is gonna be massive and difficult. The decision I've made today, I'm, um` I'm 100% confident. The pressure of the experiment, I think, is getting to everyone, and I can definitely say it's beginning to get to me. As much as I've loved getting to know Monique, I'm looking forward to a bit of normalcy, to be honest, and I think that quite a few people here are feeling the same way. Can I invite Monique and Fraser? Can you come and join us, first of all? K. I think that tonight, it's the best time to sort of gauge and ask the tough questions when you've got a partner that has doubts and difficulties. Hi, guys. Hi. Hi. How have you been going? (PENSIVE MUSIC) SLOWLY: I guess one of the things that I've... struggled with a little bit is... I've invested a little bit more, and I feel like I've invested a little bit more in this relationship, particularly at the start, and` Yeah. That's true. ...I feel like I've had to... change certain ways and things about myself, which I'm certainly glad that I have, because I don't think we would've made it this far if I hadn't have. Yeah. (CHUCKLES GENTLY) I mean, we came from zero, and we're certainly past zero, but it's... I dunno, the danger is at the moment that I know that I'm running close to empty. (UNSETTLED NOTE) And that means that now I'm at a stage, particularly when the experiment's coming close, whether it's worth it. Mm. I need to know that I'm` I guess, that I have value, and it's` I dunno, it's pretty hard when (SIGHS) you're in a relationship and you're the one making those tough calls and having to be in the` I guess, feel like you're in the driver's seat, and I don't necessarily like that. My normal reaction would've been to run two weeks ago. (BELLS TOLL) (INTRIGUING MUSIC) I'm at a stage, particularly when the experiment's coming close, whether it's worth it. Mm. My normal reaction would've been to run two weeks ago. So you're actually feeling quite burnt out? Absolutely. I'm pretty tired. The well is running dry. Yeah, I guess, like, at first I was really hesitant and probably subconsciously thought, 'This isn't gonna eventuate into anything.' So I wasn't, like, investing into it, because I didn't... we didn't have that, like, immediate, like, you know, 'Oh wow! I really like you.' I think what's really important is first of all to take stock and have a real dose of reality of the journey you've already gone through and the fact that you're heading in the right direction. You need a bit more of a carrot. You need something from Monique. I think that that's, yeah, where I'm coming from. Yeah. Want to say that's accurate. Yeah, from, I guess, the emotional investment side of things. OK. Because I know I'm pretty drained. (MELANCHOLY MUSIC) I appreciate that I probably... to make this work and to make a compromise, cos I've barely made any compromises, that I can invest a bit more. Yes. That's exactly what I'm hearing here. (OMINOUS MUSIC) Right. So... Here we go. Fraser, you've had to make a tough decision. (TENSE MUSIC) Oh no, what did you write? Say it. Stay. (LAUGHS) Aw! Well done, guys. (LAUGHS) Very well done. And we appreciate your time this evening. Thank you. You can now take a little bit of a rest and go and take a seat. FRASER: Thank you. STEPHANIE: See you, guys. I haven't yet got what I need from a relationship from her yet. So I don't know if I want a relationship outside of this. I'm hoping to see some change from this. OK, so now we'd like to invite Tayler and Sam. Oh. (SAM GRUNTS) Hello, you two. TAYLER: Hello. Hello, how are you? How's it been going? We've had our ups and downs. Yeah. Ups and downs? Has it sort of started to have a pattern to it. Have there been sort of more ups or more downs? Or is it sort of still in that rollercoaster? Um... Like, I'm not gonna lie ` we've had some struggles. Yeah. And we've come here tonight really clear on what those struggles are and some questions we have for you as well. Basically, out of the whole of New Zealand, two gay males,... ...why us? ...why us? You've had three weeks together or four weeks together? You must've had some idea at the start why you two were put in this position. What were the things that you thought when you first saw one another? That you liked about the other? (GENTLE PIANO MUSIC) It was definitely... On my side, I was bloody stoked. Yeah. What were you stoked about, Tayler? Oh, just the general look, to start with. Like, you judge someone on their looks in the first couple of minutes. Yeah, so a good physical attraction or a physical match. Yep. And what else was it about this lovely man? You're a bloody smart man. (CHUCKLES) (TENSE MUSIC) I just need to know the answers tonight, because if I don't get them, then it's possibly going to affect me and Tayler's marriage or relationship at the end of it. One thing I'm struggling with ` those hurdles of whether Tayler can fit into my lifestyle. (OMINOUS MUSIC) Uh... Because I'm still living my everyday life. TONY: Mm. I mean, look, I wake up, I go to the gym in the morning. I do all my normal shit. Yeah. And it's hard to see Tayler possibly not do that and it really... it grinds my gears. STEPHANIE: So you're wanting to see Tayler have a bit of a life? 100% and I` And you're wanting him to be his own person, have his own group of friends. Yeah. Have things going on in his world. It's the same as Monique and Fraser, I possibly feel that Tayler hasn't been 100% and not opening up as much as I have. How'd you feel about that? In terms of Sam saying that he doesn't feel that you've been as open as perhaps he has been? Tayler says he's not holding back, and I'm like, 'But you are.' Sorry. So it's just trying to get past that. Mm. (OMINOUS MUSIC) When I landed back in Auckland, I actually went and saw a therapist, and she actually gave me some really good advice. And I guess I was kind doubting myself, like, 'Have I not opened up? Have I been someone different?' And then coming out of that, I actually did realise, OK, I am being myself. I just want and need that extra or that more time` She gave you two` What was the examples she gave you? So there's, um,... I guess 'relationship Tayler' and then there's 'friendship Tayler'. So relationship Tayler is obviously gonna be quite pulled back, cos I don't want to... scare you off or... Right. ...the relationship off. Which I appreciate, but ` and I've said this to you ` I came into this from day one, I was pretty much 100% myself. Mm. And then when we had our first little couch session, when I broke down on the couch, and that was when my walls had dropped, and I've been myself in front of you guys, these guys and New Zealand. You're probably a little bit more sophisticated in the way that you have had probably other relationships where you've been able to be more emotionally open and expressive. Yep. And I think for you, Tayler, this is still slightly new territory. Yeah. Is that a fair comment? Yep. Yeah, so you're kinda learning. For you, Sam, you can probably just about do this with your eyes closed. Is that a good thing or...? Yeah. I mean, I think at you're good at relationship. And, Tayler, I think you're well on your way to getting there, so there's a lot that you can learn from Sam. Yeah. Most definitely. I just hope it's not, what is it, too little too late, really. Well, that's the question. So,... Tayler, can we start with you? Do you choose to leave or stay? (TENSE MUSIC) Better make sure that I've actually got the right one. (TENSE MUSIC CONTINUES) I did get my hearing fixed. SAM: Yes, he did get his hearing fixed. So now he has to stay. Yeah. Um, for me, look, I am genuine when I say I came into this for the right reasons. (TENSE MUSIC) (MUSIC INTENSIFIES) Um... (BELLS PEAL) Um, for me, look, I am genuine when I say I came into this for the right reasons. We are clashing. But I'm willing to give it... the next few days, and I know we have something amazing lined up tomorrow. So I've decided to stay and see how it goes as well. Well done. Great. That's a very wise call. Yep. (APPLAUSE) I really like the guy. He's, like,... He's bloody smart, good-looking. He's highly driven, so... what more can you ask for? I'd like to invite Wayne and Ksenia. Boom. (APPLAUSE) Hey, guys. Hi. So where are you now? Um... I think after we spoke to you,... I think it's gone worse. (PULSATING MELANCHOLY MUSIC) It just... We didn't get any better. (INTRIGUING MUSIC) It sort of.... After we spoke to you, I just felt I was a lot more relaxed. Yep. We just had a good chat. We spent a good day at the park. Just got to know each other a bit more, but... We tried. We didn't want to give up. Well, I didn't want to give up too early. For myself, I came in fully committed. Just a lot of exciting stuff has happened. And you can have a relationship on core values, which is good. Right. I felt like he was grumpy, moody. Even we went to` It was a beautiful day. We went to Cornwall Park, and it's a beautiful park. We don't go there all the time. Wayne doesn't want to take any photos. (LAUGHS) Wayne doesn't want to take any photos? (LAUGHTER) So that's how you know when it's over? (LAUGHTER) Oh my God. (LAUGHS) We went to the park. It's a beautiful park, and I pretty much have to beg him to take a photo of me under the tree. (LAUGHTER) (BLEEP). WHISPERS: She keeps throwing him under the bus. Ksenia, what you said then was quite different to Wayne's offering, which was the fact that it's gotten a lot worse. Common interests ` I don't think you have to have common interests in doing, I don't know, car racing or stuff, but you have to enjoy common things. Like, if you walk in the park I think with someone you like or have feelings for, I think you would like to take a photo or, you know, you wouldn't mind to take a photo. But just a beautiful tree full of roses (LAUGHS) and I just... (LAUGHTER) (TENSE MUSIC) I think now's probably a good time. We'll start with Ksenia. Do you choose to leave or stay? I choose to... What?! (LAUGHS) F... (SCATTERED LAUGHTER) And Wayne? Nah, I'm leaving too. (LAUGHTER) So, Wayne and Ksenia. Yep. I think it's important to acknowledge the fact that we've had a conversation around communication. And you were really open and you were really receptive to, 'What can I do better? 'These are the mistakes that I've made in previous relationships. I want them to change.' I think you've made the right call. I think so too. (LAUGHTER) I am disappointed. I think we're just so different. I personally think he's not ready to be married. That's the biggest thing. Life does go on, so I'm not gonna let this define my life. But it's been a great experience. So as long as I was... I hope that I was as respectful as I could be to Ksenia through the whole process, and that's all I need to take out of this. And all the very best with moving forward and whatever that brings. Thank you very much, guys. Sweet as. OK. What I've learnt from this experiment, I can put it into the real world, um,... and actually find that happy ever after, cos someone's gotta be out there somewhere. (APPLAUSE) (CHUCKLES) Maybe Antarctica? (BLEEP)ed if I know. I'll go find her. Gareth and Ottie, can you come and join us on the couch, please? OTTIE: Hello. Hello. STEPHANIE: How's it been going? Not too bad. Yeah? Yeah. Struggling, but... Do you want to say more about that? (INHALES) Um,... so last time we did have an issue that we didn't bring up. (GENTLE MUSIC) The fact that I definitely don't want children and Gareth leans towards wanting them. And, Gareth, where are you at with that? I mean, we have to look at that we've got married and all that sort of stuff, and obviously that wouldn't be something that would come up three weeks into a relationship, but` I wouldn't marry someone that wanted children. I asked Gareth that three minutes after we got married. (TENSE MUSIC) So it's not something that I've had to really think about, you know, up until now. And, I mean, for Ottie, it is something she's had to think about, so... Both of us, I don't think it's fair that we've been put in that position. And I mean, you guys were given all the power to match us, and I kinda feel like we've been kicked right from the start. It's... put a real... shit storm in the mix, to be blunt. I'm sorry that you feel that way. The challenge with an experiment is people. We are people too. Yep. Yep. So do we know the extent of the challenges? Do we know the extent of the story? No. Not fully. We do not know how this is going to be navigated. But we don't take it lightly. With the history of my break-up, the fact that I definitely don't want children and Gareth leans towards wanting them, I feel like it's a big hurdle. That's really stressful, isn't it? It's exhausting and stressful. I think it's something that almost comes up every... conversation we have. Kinda leads back to that. Mm. It's a deal-breaker. And for me, I'm (BLEEP)ing drained. It's hard, because I wanna hear Gareth, but mostly I don't. (CHUCKLES) Mostly I just think, 'Oh, here we go again.' I had to look at compromising what I wanted for a man in the past, and it bit me in the arse. Good on you, Ottie, for holding on to what feels true for you. It's hard, especially as a woman. Especially in this society. Yeah, in this society. I'm not only battling my own questions about it and battling why, but everyone else's. The fact that Gareth's kind of could go either way, does that not kind of improve things for you? No. It doesn't? You don't want someone who says, 'Look, I could or I couldn't'? Cos I had that. And like I said, it ended up being... awful, absolutely awful when you have to... compromise who you are for somebody else. And that goes for Gareth as well. Right. (INTENSE MUSIC) Now the cracks have shown between us,... more on our morals and stuff too. Are you happy to talk about that? Because that's quite important. Um... I think that the conversation that me and Gareth have had and the things we don't see eye-to-eye about are not something I want to throw Gareth under the bus about. (INTENSE MUSIC) Are you happy for us to now ask for the cards to be held up? Yep. Yeah? Gareth, would you like to go first? Um, so after this conversation, this probably gonna be a bit of a surprise to you guys. (LAUGHS) But I didn't come here to stop at the last hurdle right before the end. I've actually put 'stay'. Because I came here to see this thing out, and I think, for me, that was one of the most important things, so I'm seeing this out to the end. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) Ottie. Um... (DRAMATIC MUSIC) (BELLS PEAL) Switch to Vodafone and get Vodafone TV Intro and three months' free unlimited broadband. That's over $640 of value. I've actually put stay. Because I came here to see this thing out, and I think for me that was one of the most important things. I'm seeing this out till the end. Ottie? Um, mine's probably gonna be a bit more obvious. It's a 'go'. I don't wanna quit, and I don't wanna walk away and throw my hands up. That's why I haven't, even though I asked him within the first three minutes. You'd think it would have been clear at that stage to be like, 'This is gonna be too hard.' That once we talk, I mean, the less there can be. A magic solution. A magic solution. It's a... What would normally happen now if one chooses to stay and the other chooses to leave, is we'd ask both to stay. And the hope that with our help they'd sort things out. But in this case, the differences just seem to be too big to overcome. I wish you both the very best. Thank you. Thank you. Thanks for your time, guys. Cool. Can we go? Yeah. Awesome. Of course, the baby issue is an easy deal-breaker, but I thought more about the cracks that are starting to show where our (SIGHS) views on loyalty and monogamy don't align. And started to realise that I could just be dating my ex all over again. Really wanna steer away from the wrong men. (CHUCKLES) Good to go. Cheers. (APPLAUSE) You know, I always wanted to stick this thing out to the end regardless of the result, so going home early is, you know, not ideal, but obviously it's something me and Ottie weren't gonna be able to overcome. To be honest, after his comments at my home visits and his comments about women in the workforce, and things like that, I think he won't like the fact that a woman's taking the decision away from him. If I'm totally honest, which is a bit brutal, but I think that was becoming quite apparent. So, Dan, Yuki, can you come join us on the couch, please? (APPLAUSE) Hello, you two. Hello. Hey, guys, how's it going? Marvellous, how's it going for you guys? Yeah, real good. Good. Yeah, we've done really well. Yeah. So we're enjoying it. It's cool. OK, what's the secret? We're just getting on really well. She had the same common goals, same ideas about things in life, and it's just going well. It's easy. It's awesome, yeah. Wonderful. Are there any ongoing challenges or concerns or worries? Probably, the real world, probably, long distance. Hmm. Mm-hm. Obviously, I live in Wellington. She lives in Christchurch. Dealing with that sort of situation, cos I've never done long-distance before, and I don't think Yuki has as well. We don't know how to do it. So, I imagine you've spent quite a bit of time talking about it. Yeah. How's that gone? It's` It's` Yeah. I mean, it's, um... Because when we go back to real life, it's gonna be like a lot of noises around, and I just don't wanna lose the focus. I spent a lot of my energy getting to know him, and then now go back to the real world. It's just a lot of noises around. I just don't wanna lose the focus. Hmm. And then I don't want you to lose focus on keeping this relationship. Yeah, exactly. Wow, that's really nicely put. Exactly, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, it's gonna be interesting. Once we` Yuki said she's a bit of a self-confessed workaholic. I like my job as well, and I'm really committed at my job, so I don't wanna let those sorts of things down. Once I get back to my job and once she gets back to her job, those sorts of things can get, again, dilated and lose focus. So then it's really important that you actually schedule time to connect, whether it's by Skype, FaceTime or phone calls. Yeah. And you have a regular slot once or twice a day ` whatever's realistic for both of you. Don't set up something that's going to be too hard to meet, because the other one will perceive that as rejection. Hmm. Be realistic about minimum time of contact on a daily basis. Hmm. Yuki. Yuki. What have you got written down? Hey, hey. (LAUGHS) You know. (LAUGHS) (APPLAUSE) And, um... Yeah, I said stay as well. (LAUGHS) Well done. Congratulations, guys. Well done. Cheers, guys. We do appreciate it. We're doing really well, and thanks to you guys for helping us out. All the best, thank you. Cool, thanks, guys. (APPLAUSE) My gut feeling is that the attraction won't come. I just don't even know if I want to want to. And that's what I'm worried about. Dave and Julia, can you join us on the couch, please? I just need to feel it and go, 'Oh yeah, I really want this to happen.' And that has not happened yet. (EXHALES) Oh, welcome, guys. Hi. Hi. How's it going, you two? Pretty good, yeah. Yeah. Ticking along. Ticking along? Mm-hm. What does 'ticking along' mean? So, we think, obviously, that we've started off with a really good match and we've communicated exceptionally well. And we're interesting in your thoughts. Do you feel like there's a bit of passion or spark there? (CHUCKLES) Here we go. (CHUCKLES) (CHUCKLES) Um. Not exactly. And it's really` It's, uh, I think it's probably the elephant in the room, yeah. Unfortunately, that still hasn't come. A part of me is scared that... Does that come? Am I going to... all of a sudden wake up and go, 'Oh my God, I wanna just...' You know? David, do you feel the same way towards Julia? Um, I'm 70% there. And waiting for Julia to come 30. (BELLS PEAL) David, do you feel the same way towards Julia? Um, I'm 70% there. And waiting for Julia to come 30. What is intimacy? It's that chemistry. Yeah. It's that spark. It's that, um... It's not necessarily sex. That's not it, so intimacy can be so many other things. It's all those little things you've actually been displaying on the couch tonight. Yeah, that's what I think as well. You're coming across as a really tight, cohesive couple. You're sharing a lot of jokes together. You're looking at one another. You're really respectful of each other's feelings, and you're really wanting to be kind to that person. These are the foundations of a long-term relationship. This is actually what love is about. So, I think really acknowledge that. Celebrate what you've got. Take the pressure off yourself. Yeah, give yourself some time and let it just grow. Julia, can we start with you? (TENSE MUSIC) Stay. Stay. And David? (TENSE MUSIC RISES) Yeah, I'm staying. (LAUGHTER) (LAUGHS) Aw. I'm still very much confused. In all honesty, I... It's still quite hard to tell with the future thing. I mean, if someone asks me, 'Is this the guy for you forever?' I just don't know that right now at this point. (LAUGHS) Aw. Well done, guys. Well done, guys. And I really do think that you're making the right decision. I think so too. Thank you. I think it's early days for you two. Thanks. Thank you. Yeah, cool. Appreciate it. Yeah, I do, really. Thank you so much. Great. Yeah, awesome. Questions were put to the experts. They obviously picked up, which was brilliant, on what I was already thinking, so it actually played out exceptionally well. And I thought that it gave her food for thought, and I think from that, we'll see how she responds and if she responds. Last night's commitment ceremony saw the departure of Ottie and Gareth and Ksenia and Wayne from the experiment, leaving four remaining couples to go on their final commitment dates. With the total commitment dates, we're at the real sharp end of the experiment in terms of making a decision. Are they going to remain in the marriage, in the relationship or are they gonna leave? Right. Don't touch me while I'm driving. No, no, I'm not touching you. I'm just gonna be putting my phone down. OK. I think it will be fun going to Rainbow's End, but I'm also kinda like, in the back of my mind, like, 'OK, we have to, kind of, actually, think about it.' Us. GPS: Turn left. Don't turn that off. I wanna listen to both of them. That's the loudest one. OK. Um,... I` What triggered me was the fact` Turn left, then continue straight. In here. Oh, what? Random. Yep. I said that we` So just follow` Right. Yep. So I need to get in the right-hand lane? Uh` I say` Just be careful. That was a lot` Yep. Continue straight. ...bigger than I thought it was. Shit. It's not every day where you can meet someone who is just so similar to you in so many different ways, and that's awesome. But I didn't come here for that. You said, like, go right. As in` So I went in the next right lane. Yeah, turn` No, I said turn right. But I didn't know I was turning right. Turn right. (BLEEP), man. That's all right. Kinda leaning towards the fact that if we're realistic that we probably won't` Well,... maybe won't be together after the experiment. And I don't wanna mess him around if I don't think that that's the case. So, I can just see the truck, like, going` crossing into our lane. Yeah, I could also see that. Don't you worry. I think the both of us are` OK, can you tell me what you said there. Yes, the part that` Oh, (BLEEP), I need to get back into this lane now. Um, talked about how at the start of the experiment, I felt very alone. Um... Yeah. But I have that going... Do you feel that now? No. No, I don't. Um... But I have that fear that could happen outside of the experiment. But I` I want to know that out in the real world, that there is the potential of love after the end of this, and I'm... not entirely sure that that's gonna be the case. If I'm really honest, Fraser Lee, I... We're young. (CHUCKLES) We're young` And if this isn't perfect, I don't... I agree. Like, if I was like, 'Oh no, I'm nearly at the end of my childbearing age`' If you were like 30? ...then I'd be like, 'Oh, shit, yes.' If you were in your thirties, this would be like a 'oh, you're great'. But it doesn't even matter. Like, all of this talking about, like, these are the points where we're good together, and these are the points why we're not, none of that matters. It's just like whether you like someone like that or not. You` To be honest, your` The only way you've dated has been when you've wanted to, proverbially, jump them at first sight. Yes, physical, like, immediate, kind of like` Immediate, No, but` ...'lust at first sight' is important. I definitely came here to try and find love, and the difficulty for me at the moment is I don't see that happening. And that's really (BLEEP) tough. (BELLS PEAL) Monique and Fraser are riding the ups and downs of their final commitment date. (TENSE MUSIC) You know how you say that you kind of have done all the legwork and I haven't. Even if I had done stuff differently, I still don't think that it would have worked. How do you know? Because I know how I feel. I know how I feel. I don't know how you feel, but I know how I feel, and I know a lost cause` No, I know` You're` I'm not saying that's, like, anything on you. I'm just saying that I don't. No, you don't have to feel what you don't feel. Like... Yeah, basically, yeah. We've gotten that out of our system. We can be ruthlessly analytical. This is a real last chance for each of the individuals to put everything out there. They need to be honest if they hadn't been before hand. Oh, do I get the front? Oh, do you want the front or the back? Makes no difference. OK, I'll go... Or we could, you know, go in the same one, but... Oh, whoo, there's big booty. There we go, yeah. I'll just get you to sit at the front, please. (LAUGHS) OK, thank you. I always get told off. I never do things right (!) The point came when I kinda told you that I needed you to emotionally invest in me and I needed to see that you cared, and when things got tough on the couch, you turned to Ottie and not me. Oh yeah. Yeah. That's true, and I can't even deny that, because I guess I do feel like... emotionally closer to Ottie. Isn't that terrible, but that's just how it is. I look for things in a relationship that I couldn't already get in a friendship. And that's been the tough thing for me, because a lot of the activities we've done, like, they've just been like friends, and there's nothing wrong with friends, but there's a next level that needs to be reached for something different. I just think that, like, if something's so hard to make it work in a situation where it's meant to work, you know, we should be liking each other and it to be not as hard to be emotionally invested. You could tell that when we woke up this morning things were different. Um... And... Oh yeah. I kept thinking, like, 'Why is he acting so chipper when it's obviously not how he's feeling?' The commitments dates are really important, because they force the couple to really dig deep and think about, 'Do I want to stay or do I want to leave?' I think about the future quite a bit. That's, like, the overthinking things, and I know I do it, but... Face forward, holding handrails, don't lean to one side, smile for the camera. Do I have to smile. Oh! Hands up, hands up. (SCREAMS) Yeah. Oh, that's not bad. That's not bad. I love that feeling when your stomach is like 'whoop'. I just like how we were, sort of, like coasting along. I thought, like, we would, sort of, forwards go and I'd get dunked. I face my own difficulties, and I don't ever like feeling alone, and there have been times in this experiment where I have felt alone. What do you want to drink? Hmm. Cocktail? I think this is just a giant drinks menu. Oh my God. It is too. Shit almighty. All right, let's crack at some Chateau Lafite Rothschild. Rothschild. Let's get that. Let's get that. Yes, it's only 1700 bucks. (BOTH LAUGH) 1983. That's probably about five years before you were born. Hmm. (BOTH LAUGH) All right, ready? Thank you. Cheers, last date. Four weeks was like long but short. It's crazy, eh? Like how much we've gone through since between Bali and now. Again, like, I barely knew you three and a half weeks ago. I know, right. And then, like, geez. We're finishing this all up, and I don't get to see you. Like, geez. (LAUGHS) I'm gonna cry again. Please don't. Please don't remind me. (CHUCKLES) (SIGHS) Yeah, I'm just getting a bit sad. Just the fact that I have to go back to Christchurch tomorrow for a few days until we make our big decision. It's gonna be a tough` not decision, but tough journey ahead, I think. Shall we just get a few of these? A few of those. Oh, this is nice. I want this one. Yeah, you can't look at desserts yet. We haven't picked our mains. Yes, I can. (LAUGHS) So cool how, like, connected from day one and then... Hmm. Was funny, hey? Yeah. When did you reckon it was like` that was the first time, like 'he's actually all right'? The moment we start giggling. Yeah. That's when we` The very first moment. Where it was like` Was that`? Cos we didn't say anything. No, we didn't, eh? We just start giggling. (LAUGHS) Again, that seems like a lifetime ago. Crazy, eh? It's ridiculous. I came in here looking to see if you were committed to the experiment. And you were committed to the experiment, but just not me, and that's OK. Sorry. No! That's` That kinda hits the nail on the head. No, and that's` That's pretty accurate. That's totally all right. Like... I just know how, like, I feel when I... You've learnt` ...am romantically into someone. I know what that feels like. Cos I was waiting for you` I mean, I guess I didn't talk to you, but I was waiting for you to come to the table. I mean, I probably could have given it more effort, but... I'm also very aware that, like, it shouldn't be an effort. I often felt like you were more invested in the others than me, and I guess the only reason why it's weird for me is because I wanted to see if it was possible to build a spark where there was none in the first place. I feel like we've given this the best shot that we can, and now it's just going to be seeing if it can work out, and I guess leaving this experiment will be going` (BLEEP) I know that leaving this experiment will be going` Oh, (BLEEP), I knew I was gonna cry. (SIGHS) I know that leaving this experiment, no matter what decision we make, that will be united. Oh, (BLEEP). (EXHALES) I see such great potential here because... I've just felt like we've been a team throughout this whole entire process. And at no part... (SNIFFLES) What I'm hoping is that... when we go back to our own normal lives, that we're actually able to go back and realise that the other person has been what's missing. (BELLS PEAL) Can I`? K. Mm-hm. Mmm. (BOTH CHUCKLE) (PEACEFUL MUSIC) Um, so I got something for you. Aww! That's so nice! (CHUCKLES) Oh my God! It's amazing! Oh, you didn't! Oh you didn't. When did you do that? (LAUGHS) While ago. Aww. Thank you. (LAUGHS) I didn't bring tissues. (LAUGHS) There's a napkin somewhere. There's a napkin. He always surprises me. And it's makes me really happy to be with him. It's kind of assuring me that he's the right person. You gonna be all right going back to Christchurch? No. (LAUGHS) No. We're gonna rack up a big phone bill, I tell you that, for the first few` couple of months. Yeah, I know. Yeah. I mean, I've done everything with her for the last four weeks, and just being able to go, 'Oh, well, OK.' and then not be in the same bed as her, those sorts of things. It probably will feel a bit lonely, especially those first couple of days. Honestly, what should we do? With what? With the` The long term? Yeah. Yeah, long-distance relationship. Oh, yeah, I dunno, um. Again, we'll be ringing each other every day, and then I'm sure we've got things to do, like, I mean, it's my birthday soon. It's your birthday soon. So we'll definitely hang out` When's your birth`? Oh, yep, it's... (BOTH LAUGH) That's right. Yeah, that's right. You remember when your husband's birthday? Yes. Yeah. (LAUGHS) I remember. Hope is nothing will change between us, because we obviously made a good foundation of it now with this experiment, so hopefully we can only develop from now on. Yep, just next time. Line up next drink? Yes. I want` Oh hang on, I find something. Yeah? I want two of these things. (LAUGHS) Two? Only one is all you need. Oh, that's right. (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) Julia also has a commitment date organized for her and David. But she's struggling as the end of the experiment draws near. My mind is very blurry at the moment. I still feel very... confused. So,... it's quite tough because I` My gut feeling still also feels that the attraction won't come. But, um,... I'm guessing the day` A part of me thinks, well, maybe it might help in a way. Maybe there'll be some sort of bond, maybe. Honestly, I dunno. At this stage, I'm just genuinely drained and absolutely exhausted. (SOBS) (SOBS) I love you so much. It's really been quite a challenge. And I honestly did not think it would be this hard. I don't think it's too late, but I do know one thing, and that it's been, um, absolutely one hell of a ride. (LAUGHS) That's for sure. Tayler and Samuel are also getting ready for their final commitment date. How'd you find last night? How'd I find last night? Um... It was good. It was really good. It opened my eyes to a lot of things. So I am still struggling a little bit with... the relationship side of things. Um, I'm really finding it hard to see how we both are gonna fit into each other's lifestyles. And I'm still struggling to... get Tayler to open up. So I... came to a conclusion this morning with a decision that I've made. And... that is something I'm gonna talk to Tayler about very shortly. You ready to go? Yep, I'm ready. That's my favourite shot by the way. Um... I've been... open with you about how I possibly might struggle with you fitting into my lifestyle and you... um, possibly maybe, and it's not in a bad way, and you know this, might not be as motivated and go` as a go-getter as possibly I am,... Hmm. ...and, um, I wish I could say yes at the end of this, so I could see how all that pans out. But, um, I think I owe it to both of us to be honest, be upfront. Look, after the commitment ceremony last night, it really put things into perspective, and it really opened my eyes to possibly where mine and Tayler's relationship is. I'm also doubting a few things. So, we had an awesome date, um, lined up today, um, which I organized for us. Yep. Today, possibly, isn't gonna work out the way we want to. Like, you're an incredible dude. You're an incredible guy. But there's something possibly not great, not there, and I know there's something that's not there from my end for you as well. I think we should end, um, this relationship today and not go forward, um, to do the last commitment ceremony or the renewal of our vows. (BLEEP) Next time ` ...and not go forward, um, to do the renewal of our vows. I... need to pack my bags and possibly give it all up. Psychic premonitions. Don't know how to say this. (CHUCKLES) No, just say it. The experiment concludes with vow renewals... It was our biggest hurdle, yet, the least talked about. ...and denials. I'm so glad I did this with you. But... And a reunion dinner... You got some things you wanna get off your chest? Yeah. ...packed with controversy. No, that's not correct! Again, you're not getting it! Captions by Able. www.able.co.nz Captions were made with the support of NZ On Air. Copyright Able 2018